Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabathandanayo, njengomthetho, abazinzile kwaye bahlala bebuthathaka. Emva kwakho konke, thandana nobudlelwane alukubopheli nantoni na kwaye kwenzeke ngokuvumelana. Kwaye ukuba umthandi ngokukhawuleza wamshiya, lo mfazi uya kucinga ngendlela yokuyibuyisela.
Indlela yokubuyisela umthandi?
Okokuqala, ibhinqa elithoba kuloo meko kubaluleke kakhulu ukucinga ngezizathu ezenza ukuba acinge kwaye afune ukubuyisela umthandi. Ukuba umfazi olahliwe usenayo imvakalelo enamandla, umnqweno nomnqweno, ngoko umbuzo wokubuyisela umthandi wangaphambili ufanelekile kwaye ulungele ngokupheleleyo.
Kodwa kukho iimeko apho indima ephambili idlalwe ngokuzikhukhumeza kunye nesiseko sokuzingela, esilungelelwanga kuphela kubameli bezesondo ezinamandla, kodwa nakwabesifazane abaninzi. Ukuba ngaba kule miba, ngoko ukubuyiswa komntu olahlekileyo sele kusisenzo sokuqinisekisa, kwaye, kwinqanaba elithile, lokuziphindezela. Ngezizathu ezinjalo kungcono ukubuyela kwisazi sengqondo kunye nokulungisa ubudlelwane, okokuqala, kwintanda yakho.
Impendulo kumbuzo wendlela yokubuyisela umthandi, ingqondo yengqondo yanamhlanje, icebisa:
- Simele simise, silinde ixesha lokuba le ndoda inexesha lokuziva ukuba wayemkhumbula ngokwenene inkosikazi yakhe eyashiyiweyo. Ukuba wayenomnye umfazi, ixesha liza kumnika ithuba lokuhlala kunye nokusetyenziswa kwintshiseko entsha.
- Ixesha lokumisa kufuneka lichithe ngobulumko, ukwenza utshintsho lwakho, ukuphucula nokuzakhela . Ukubonakala komfazi ikhadi lakhe lebhizinisi, unokuvavanya iimpawu zangaphakathi kunye nekhono kuphela emva kwexeshana, kwaye ubone ubuhle, ukulungiswa kunye nenkohlakalo yomcimbi wesibini. Xa umthandi oshiyiweyo ebona umthandi wakhe wangaphambili engabhubhi nokulila, kodwa utshintshile kwaye ahlaziywe, uya kumchukumisa kwaye, ubuncinane, amenze azibuze nokuba ukhawulezile ukuphula le nxu lumano.
- Akunakufuneka ukuba ube ngumntu obathandayo kunye neengxaki zokuthandana nomntu wakho othandekayo ngeefowuni kunye neesms, le ndlela ayizikhangeli, kodwa kunokuba iphendule. Kubalulekile ukubonakalisa intlonelo, kodwa ngelo xesha musa ukufihla ukuzisola ngobudlelwane obuphukileyo. Ngoko umntu unokuqonda ukuba yonke into ingazama ukubuyela.
Xa ubuya umthandi, kubalulekile ukubonakalisa ubuqili besifazane kunye nokuziqhelanisa, kodwa ungalibali ngokuthetha ngokucokisekileyo. Ukuba akaxabanga nje ngesondo kuphela, kodwa naye unxibelelwano, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uza kuqala ukulikhumbula. Kufanelekile ukumnika eli thuba - ukubona nokuthetha. Xa ebuzwa ukuba ubuyisele njani umthandi otshatileyo, kunzima kakhulu ukuphendula. Emva koko, indoda esatshatileyo inokuziva ibuhlungu ngenxa yomfazi okhohlisa. Kwaye kufuneka uzibuze umbuzo wokuba ufuna umthandi onokuzithemba, onokuzithandabuza kunye onokubandezeleka kwaye akulungile ukuba ufumane umntu okhululekileyo.