Ubudlelwane bobudlelwane buyinto enzima kakhulu kwaye ngezinye iinkcukacha ezingenakuqondakala. Yaye ubudlelwane obuphakathi kwendoda nomfazi bubunzima. Ngokuqhelekileyo ngokugcinwa nokulungiswa kobudlelwane, amantombazana asebenza. Kunzima ukunyamezela ukuxabana, ukungaqondi, ukunyaniseka. Maxa wambi kubonakala ngathi ulwalamano alukwazi ukugcinwa. Kodwa, nangona kunjalo, nayiphi na intombazana enothando ngaloo mihla icinga ngendlela yokwakha ubudlelwane nomntu. Masizame ukuqonda le meko.
Indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane kunye neengcebiso zakho ezithandayo
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda isizathu sesifo sobudlelwane. Ukuba awuyikuphindwa kathathu ixesha elichithwe kuwe, zama ukufumanisa ukuba kutheni unikwe ixesha elifutshane. Mhlawumbi "i-rubble" emsebenzini. Musa "ukubona" loo mntu, ukuba uzama ukufezekisa impumelelo emsebenzini wakhe, ukuchitha ixesha eliya kuchitha kunye nentombi yakho. Yixhasa kulo, kuba ligalelo lakho kwikamva lakho kunye. Hlanganisa ikhaya lakhe ngokumomotheka, isidlo sakusihlwa. Musa ukubuza ukuba kutheni epholile. Xa ekulungele, uya kukuxelela konke ngokuzonwabisa kunye nokwabelana ngeendaba malunga nomhla, ukwazi ukumphulaphula.
Mhlawumbi loo mntu wayekhatywe yimpikiswano, iimpepha, ukuhlambalaza. Akafuni ukubiza okanye ukubhala. Emva kwakho konke, ngamanye amaxesha inxibelelwano engekho nto ingaba yinto enkulu. Jonga ngokwakho ngamehlo akhe, cinga, mhlawumbi "ukhethe" kuye ekuqaleni, kuba umntu uchithe ingqondo yakho ngaphambi kokuba. Zama ukunciphisa umsindo wakho, ukuthukuthela kwaye uza kubona ukuba, mhlawumbi, akukho nto yokukhubeka ngayo! Xa uziqonda kakuhle, uya kuqonda indlela yokuqonda ubudlelwane kunye nomfana.
Masizame ukufumanisa indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane bezesondo. Emva kwakho konke, kunokwenzeka ukuba imbangela yongxabano inokunganeliseki ngaye kunye neemfuno zakho kunye neminqweno. Ngenxa yoko, okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuthetha kunye neqabane, fumana iimfuno zakhe, xelela ngaye. Ungesabi ukuthetha, ungesabi ukuzama. Uthando kunye nesithando kuphelelwa ixesha. Gcina umlilo kuwe nakwakho othandekayo.
Kwaye kwenzeka njani izinto "kwindawo yakho"? Indoda ayikwazi ukuboshwa kwengubo yakhe nomsila ukumlandela kuzo zonke iintlanganiso zabahlobo, oogxa nabo, njl. Thembela indoda yakho, mye aye kwintlanganiso yamadoda yodwa,
Izizathu zengxaki yobudlelwane zingabunzima. Oku kuvivinya ifowuni, nokuyithelekisa kunye nabokuqala, kunye nokuhlambalaza ngexabiso lezipho ezingafanelekanga. Yibe ngaphezu kwayo. Thembela umthandayo, kwaye akufuneki ufune ingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuqonda ubuhlobo.