Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba "Hlangana nezambatho", kodwa kungcono ukuwugqiba "njengendlela yokunxibelelana", kungekhona ngengqondo. Ngenxa yoko, akudingeki ukuba ufunde iincwadi ezili-12 ngosuku, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuzithoba ngokufanelekileyo.
Indlela yokuthetha nabantu
Imilinganiselo ingahlukaniswa ngokulungileyo nokubi. Ezi zilandelayo zingasinomdla, ngoko ke siqhubela kuviwo oluphambili lwangaphambili. Ngoko, ukuziphatha okuhle kubonakalisa isimo sakho sengqondo kwihlabathi, kwabanye kwaye ubonakalise ngendlela yokuzibamba, ukuhlonipha.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ekuxoxaneni nabantu ngumzimba womzimba. Ngokuqinisekileyo, indlela enokuthetha nayo inempembelelo ethile kumnxibelelwano, kodwa ukuthetha ngokungabonakaliyo kungazisa umhlobo wakho ulwazi oluninzi kunanoma yini enye. Ngoko ke, ukwenzela ukuba wenze impembelelo enhle, phucula izakhono zokuba nomzimba wakho. Funda izinto ezisisiseko zokubamba umzimba. Umzekelo, oku kufumaneka kwiincwadi zika-Alan Pisa.
Into ebalulekileyo yokuziphatha kakuhle kwaye, ngenxa yoko, ukuthetha ngokungahambisani nxamnye nabantu-ukukwazi ukukhetha kakuhle iimpahla. Emva kwakho konke, umfanekiso wakho uyingxenye yecandelo lakho langaphakathi. Ngoko, indlela yoqhagamshelwano lwezoshishino kuthetha ukugqoka imeko efanelekileyo yokugqoka. Ngokuvisisanayo, iimpahla zokusebenza okanye ukufumana iimpahla zinemithetho eqinile kunokugqokisa iimpahla zansuku zonke.
Imbeko kunye nendlela yokunxibelelana
Ukuba indlela yokunxibelelana imiselwe ngetoni yoqhagamshelwano lwakho, ukuziphatha kunye nomgama phakathi kwakho kunye nomnxibelelwano, isitayela sinempembelelo enkulu kumbala weemvakalelo wemoya yokuthetha. Kusekwe ngokuxhomekeke kwisimo sengqondo somntu ngamnye.
Ngoko, ezona ziqhelekileyo zilandelayo iindlela zokunxibelelana:
- ukudlala ngothando (ngamanye amaxesha kunye neengongoma zothando);
- zifuna;
- valiwe;
- olawulayo (ugonyamelo);
- shishini.