Wonke umntu kufuneka azi indlela yokubeka umntu onokuzithemba. Emva koko, akubona bonke abantu abanobungane, kwaye phakathi kwabo kukholisa abantu ababi kakhulu. Kwaye akukho nto yokuzikhukhumeza, kunye nokuziphatha kakubi kwabanye, iyisiphene esisasazekayo. Ngaphezu koko, ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abanjalo abaqondi ukuba ukuziphatha kwabo akuqhelekanga, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, bayaziqhenya kakhulu ukuba banokuzibeka ngaphezu kwamanye. Ngako oko kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ukwazi ukubeka umntu ozikhukhumeleyo ukuze kungabikho kwihlazo kwaye akulimazi igama lakho.
Indlela yokubeka umntu onesidima esiphezulu?
Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokubeka umntu onobuqili kwaye uzibonge ngaphezu komntu wonke. Kwaye okokuqala, nantsi akufanelekanga ukucola. Iindleko zokukhulisa kakuhle ezingavumeli abantu ukuba bahlaziswe zizinto ezifunayo apha. Ngokuhlaselwa "kweenkwenkwezi" kumdlali ofanelekileyo kufuneka alwe ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza xa kwenzeka. Ukubeka umntu onokuzithemba ngokuzithobayo kunokwenzeka ngegama elilodwa okanye ngongoma. Ukuhleka, ukuhleka usulu kwabanye - eso sixhobo esona sikhulu, sikwazi ukubeka indlela efanelekileyo kakhulu kunoma yimuphi umntu ohlakaniphile. Ukuba ithoni edlalayo ayisebenzi, ungaya kwi "artillery esindayo" - ukukhawuleza nokukhwabanisa. Kodwa akukho mfuneko ukuba uvelise iimvakalelo ezimbi, njengengqumbo okanye umsindo. Kungcono ukongeza ilizwi njengento enokubandezeleka. Okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uvelwano, ngenxa yokuba ngamanye amaxesha ubuhlungu buxhamla i-snobs enekratshi ngaphezu kokuhleka. Kwaye nasiphi na imeko awukwazi ukusebenzisa umlingane okanye amanye amagama angenangqiqo. Yehla ukuya kwinqanaba lekhenkcezi elizikhukhumezayo-ke isiqingatha siphumele kuye.