Abantu baxubana ngomlomo ngeendlela ezingasetyenziswanga nezithethayo, kodwa ukuthetha ngomlomo okusebenza njengendlela ebalulekileyo yokunxibelelana. Ukunxibelelana kwentetho kubhekisana nokuthetha ngokuthetha ; Ulwimi oluvakalayo oludibanisa igama, intetho, ithoni yezwi, njl. Ngosizo lwenkulumo, sidlulisela ulwazi ngolunye nomnye, sitshintsha imibono, njalo njalo. Nangona kunjalo, akusoloko kunokwenzeka ukuba "udlulisele" kwi-interlocutor yakhe ingcamango kwaye, ngokusemthethweni, inxulumene nokuhlupheka kwentetho.
Ubuthakathaka bethetha ntoni?
Ukunxibelelana ngomlomo kubaluleke kakhulu ebomini bomntu, kuba ukukwazi ukuveza iingcamango zakho ngolwimi olufanelekileyo nolungileyo kunokuxhomekeka kwikhundla lakho elizayo, isikhundla esisekuhlaleni, njl njl. Intetho "ukuguquguquka" kuba bonke abantu bahluke, kodwa umntu owaziyo ukubonisa uluvo lwakhe kakuhle, ukuthetha ngokucokisekileyo nangokucacileyo, uya kuhlonishwa kwaye uphumelele.
Ewe, ukuba awukwazi ukuchaza into oyifunayo, awukwazi ukuzisa ulwazi lwakho kumnxibelelanisi, ukuba isigama sakho sithintela, ngoko abantu abasakuze bakuqonde. Kuyinto "yobunzima" ekunxibelelaneni, ukukwazi ukuveza nokuvakalisa iingcamango zomntu kuthiwa ubuhlwempu bemlomo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama ukuzichaza njani, awuyi kuvakala, ubuhlwempu bakho bentetho ayiyikukuvumela ukuba wenze oku, oko kuthetha ukuba uya kuziva unesizungu, ungaqondwa ngabani na, ngoko ke iindawo eziyinkimbinkimbi, nokungakhuselekanga kunye nokufihla.
Yiyiphi imbangela yobuhlwempu?
Isizathu senkxalabo ngoqhagamshelwano lwentetho lunokuba:
- Iingxaki zengqondo ezithwalwe ebuntwaneni . Ingozi enjalo inokufumaneka ngenxa yokuba umntwana akavunyelwe ukuthetha, wayephazamisekile amabali akhe, njl., Kodwa emva kwexesha, umnqweno, kwaye ngokufanelekileyo amandla okuveza iingcamango kunye nokucatshulwa kwanyamalala ngokupheleleyo.
- Ukuzithoba . Ngenxa yokungakhuselekanga, umntu uloyiko ukuchaza uluvo lwakhe, ecinga ukuba onke amabali akhe ayamthandi abanye, kwaye ukwesaba ukujonga ngokungenangqondo "kwenza" ukuthula, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukungabikho kwentetho kubangela iingxaki zokunxibelelana.
- Ukungafundi ukufunda nokubhala . Ulwimi aluzalwanga ngomntu ukuthetha ngokufanelekileyo, ukuba nesigama esikhulu, ukuthetha intetho enhle, umntu kufuneka aphuhlise. Ukufunda iincwadi, ukuthetha nabantu abahlakaniphile, ukubukela iifilimu ezintle, njl. Konke oku kunceda ukwandisa ukukhanya kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuphucula ulwimi oluthethiweyo.