Ukususela kumzuzwana wokuzalwa kwakhe, umntu udlula kwiinqanaba ezahlukeneyo zophuhliso ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, okungaqinisekiyo, yinto ebaluleke kakhulu ekuziphendukeni kwakhe njengommeli wezilwanyana zezilwanyana zeHomo Sapiens. Kodwa akukho nto ebalulekileyo kumntu ngamnye yiinkqubo zokwakhiwa nokuphuhliswa kobuntu , kuba kuxhomekeke kubo umlinganiselo wokuvisisana kobudlelwane bakhe kunye nommandla osondeleyo, kunye noluntu lonke.
Yonke imvelaphi ebuntwaneni
Sonke siza kweli hlabathi kunye nesethi yamathambo e-genetic okwenziweyo, apho zonke iindawo eziphambili zentuthuko yethu zibekiwe, kodwa isiphumo somntu sinqunywe yiloo nqanaba lobunjwa bomntu, esilungiselelwe ukuba sidlule, ukususela kumzuzu xa siqala ukubona " Mna "kwaye ndizama ukucacisa indawo yabo phantsi kwelanga.
Ngokwemvelo, yonke into iqala ebuntwaneni kunye nobudlelwane obunomntwana kunye nabazali bakhe kunye namanye amalungu entsapho yakhe. Nangona kunjalo, iziseko zendalo yomntu zibekiwe kwaye zivela kwimoya ephakanyiswayo, kwiintlobo ezininzi kuxhomekeke ekubeni ngaba uya kuba ngumntu oqinileyo nozimeleyo, onokukwazi ukukhokela abanye kunye nokuchasana naluphi na ukuhlaselwa kweemeko ezingathandekiyo, okanye ukhule ube ngumntu obuthathaka, ongabikho oya kuyika xaxa kufuneka enze izigqibo zakhe.
Bafunda kwiimpazamo
Azikho iindlela ezilula ebomini, njengoko kuyaziwa, kwaye inkqubo yokuba ngumntu ayikho into ehlukile. Khumbula wena ubuntwaneni kunye nentsha. Zingaphi iiboni oye wazigxeka xa ukwazi ukuzibonakalisa wena nakwabanye ukuba ufanelekile into kwaye kufuneka uqikelele. Kodwa le shishini alizange liphele apho. Nangona i-80% yesigxina "esikhulu" se-"I" yethu yenziwa kwiminyaka emi-3 ukuya kwe-15, ukubunjwa komntu womntu kuyaqhubeka kwikamva (nangona kuncipha kakhulu), kwaye akukho mida echazwe ngokungqongqo ekupheleni kweli xesha . Kwimeko nganye, bawabo. Abantu baguquka ngobudala. Sifunda kwiimpazamo zethu kwaye sithatha amava okuphila njengesizathu, zama ukuqinisa ubudlelwane kunye nabo bajikelezayo. Yaye ubomi bethu bonke buxhomekeke kwimigaqo yokuziphatha esiyibambeyo kwaye yiziphi izakhono zokusebenzisana neli hlabathi esizifumene kwinkqubo yokuziphatha nomoya wobuntu bomntu.
Ngaba kukho ukhetho?
Abanye bakholelwa ngokuphosakeleyo ukuba uphuhliso lwethu luxhomekeke kuphela kwimimiselo yangaphandle, kwaye kwimeko enjani umntu ohlala kuyo, uzimisele ngokupheleleyo ukuziphatha kwakhe kwixesha elizayo kunye nazo zonke iimpawu zengqondo. Ngamanye amagama, ukuba uzalwe kwintsapho yezigwenxa okanye izidakwa, ngoko unendlela eyodwa kuphela: okanye entolongweni okanye kwisibonda esiseduze. Enyanisweni, akuzona zonke izinto ezilula. Ewe, umzekelo womzali ungenye yezinto ezibalulekileyo ezichaphazela ukuphuhliswa kokuziphatha komntu kwanoma yimuphi umntu. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, inkululeko yokuzikhethela, esinikezwe ngokwemvelo, ayizange ikhanselwe. Iyintoni intsingiselo yokuguquka kwazo zonke iintlobo? Ukuphila kusisigxina. Ngoko, onokukwazi ukuhlukanisa abamnyama kumhlophe kwaye akhethe indlela efanelekileyo yokuphuhliswa kwakhe njengelungu loluntu, uya kufumana ithuba lokuphila ngokuphumelelayo, nangaphambi kokuba aphumelele "umthwalo" kwisikolo sakhe.
Qonda kwaye uqikelele
Imiba efana nayo iqhutyelwa ngolu hlobo lwesifundo sobunzululwazi njengengqondo yengqondo yomntu, ehlalutya kwaye isishwankathele zonke iinkalo ezilungileyo kunye nezimbi zeemeko zobomi kunye nendalo yomntu othile, ngenxa yoko kuba kunokwenzeka ukuqonda izizathu eziphambili zezenzo zakhe. Ezi ndlela zisetyenziselwa zombini kwi-psychoanalysis eqhelekileyo kunye nasengqondweni, ngokuqwalasela zonke izinto ezinokuchaphazela ukuphuhliswa kobuntu, kwaye kwezinye iimeko zize zenze iimeko zesifo esithile sengqondo.
Kukho nawuphi na, kubalulekile ukukhumbula umgaqo owodwa ongagungqiyo: sizenza thina.