Ngokuqinisekileyo wonk 'ubani ucinga ngento exhomekeke kuvelwano nothando. Kutheni abanye abantu bevelana nathi, kwaye singaboni abanye? Indlela yokwahlula abantu abanyanisekileyo abavela kubani abazithiweyo? Kukulungele ukufunda le ngongoma kwaye ujonge ukuba yintoni i-psychology yobudlelwane obuza kuxela ngayo.
Ubuhlobo ngokweengqondo
Ubuhlobo bokwenene bubuhlobo bomntu, obungazithandayo. Ukubambisana okunjalo kufuneka kusekelwe kwimonde, ukunyaniseka, ukuhlonipha. Ingcamango yokuba "ubungane" kwisingqondo sengqondo ihlukaniswe zibe ziintlobo ezimbini. Ulwalamano lokuqala luvalo lwezinto ezithandanayo, ezi zilandelayo zihloniphekile, ezizimele ngokwazo iimfuno zomntu.
Abantu abaninzi abasondele kuthi banokuqatshelwa nje ngokuba baqhelanise, kuba akukho themba ngokupheleleyo kubuntu babo. Akufanele sikhohlwe ngokubambisana, apho sibiza ngokuphosakeleyo abahlobo ininzi yabalingane bethu. Ngeli xesha, ihlabathi langaphakathi lomntu wonke livalwe kakhulu, ngoko kunzima ukufumana abazalwana bokwenyaniso emoyeni.
Iimpawu zengqondo zobomi
Ukuba awuqwalaselanga ubudlelwane begazi, ngoko kubambisana luhlobo olukhethiweyo lomntu. Ukuchonga iimpawu zobungqina, siza kuzibona ngokukhawuleza ukuba ngubani umntu othethile. Ukuqala incoko yobuhlobo kuyimfuneko:
- iimvakalelo ezimnandi ngexesha lokunxibelelana;
- ukuqonda ngokubanzi;
- izenzo ezingenabugovu;
- iimvakalelo ezithembekileyo;
- umnqweno wokuncedana.
Kukho ezinye izinto ezingabandakanyeki apho ubambiswano lunokuthi lube yintlondi evulekile okanye kwintando enamandla. I-psychology yobungani ibonisa iinkcazo ezisekelweyo:
- "Ubunyani bobuhlobo bokwenene", obonwa ngokuba namandla ngakumbi kunxulumano phakathi kwabameli bezesondo ezibuthathaka;
- ukungabikho kobudlelwano bobuhlobo phakathi kwamanyano engqingili.
Ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi-kwengqondo
Ubuhlobo kumantombazana kunye nabafana kwimo ecocekileyo ayifumanekanga. I-psychology yobuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi ikhula ngokuthetha ngokudideka kweentsingiselo kwezobuhlobo. Oku kungenxa yokusetyenziswa kakubi kwamagama angenanto ecacileyo. Indlela yokuseka imida phakathi kobuhlobo, inzondelelo, uthando nothando ? Ngokuqhelekileyo lo mhlobo usebenza ngokuxhasa kunye ncediso, kodwa ubuhlobo obunjalo buhlala bukhula bube buhlobo obusondeleyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo intsebenziswano yamantombazana kunye namantombazana aphendulela ngobuhlobo obusondeleyo.
Iingqondo zentsapho
Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ubuhlobo phakathi kwabafazi besikhashana. Ngokuqhelekileyo ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kubasetyhini bakha ngokwabo. Kukho ubuhlobo besibhinqa , ingqondo yengqondo ayikwazi ukuphendula ngokuchanekileyo. Amantombazana anabantu abanomdla, badinga ilanga elifanelekileyo kunye nethuba lokuthetha nomntu, ngexesha elithile kwaye kukho abahlobo abasondeleyo. Ingqondo yezobuhlobo babasetyhini iqinisekisa ukuba ukuba iimfuno zabasetyhini ziguqule kwizinto ezifanayo, ngoko kudla ukuxhatshazwa kobudlelwane.
I-Psychology yobuhlobo phakathi komntu nendoda
Isiseko sobambiswano, ngaphezu kokuxhamla ngokomzwelo, kukuhlonipha nokuzinikela. Ezi zimpawu zifakwe kumakhwenkwe ukusuka ebuntwaneni, aze abe yimithetho yobomi babo. Nangona kunjalo, onke ngamazwi nje kunye nobuhlobo bokwenene bendoda buya kuba yintandane okanye inkani. Yonke into incike kwiimeko kunye nemeko yabantu.
Ubuhlobo besilisa busekelwe kubumbano lwenkolelo kunye nokuncedisana. Abameli abaninzi banesondo esomeleleyo banqwenela ukuchitha lonke ixesha labo samahhala kunye neentsapho zabo, kodwa kukho abo bafumana ixesha lokuhlangana. Kukho imigaqo emininzi engenakukhunjulwa kwamadoda angokoqobo:
- Ngokwethenjelwa . Umncedisi uya kuhlala efihla kumphathi kwaye afike nge-alibi engalindelekanga kwingxoxo nomfazi womhlobo wakhe.
- Ukuthembeka . Iqabane liya kuhlala lifumana ixesha lokuza kuhlangula.
- Umtshakazi womhlobo akayintombazana . Umhlobo oyinyaniso akayi kuba yimbangela yerhafu phakathi kweqabane lakhe kunye neqabane lakhe.
- Musa ukufundisa ukuhlala . Ukuba ulwalamano lubiza, ngoko ungazami ukutshintsha abantu.
Iingcali zentsapho zobungane
Ngamanye amaxesha sicinga ukuba akukho nto iyinyanisekileyo kwaye ilunge ngakumbi kunxulumano lomntwana. Umnqweno onzulu wokufumana umhlobo wokwenene, uvela ebantwaneni bethu xa ufuna ukwabelana nomnye izifihla zokuqala ezivela kubazali bakho. Kwaye okwangoku, asiyazi ukuba zeziphi iimfuno eziqhutywa ngabantwana abancinci xa kusekwa ubudlelwane obusondeleyo.
Ubuhlobo babantwana bubonakaliso obungabonakaliyo bobudlelwane boluntu. Ubuhlobo bokuqala kunye nabantwana buneminyaka emithathu ubudala. Ngeli xesha, bafunda indlela yokwabelana ngamathoyi kunye nokunceda abahlobo abatsha kumdlalo. Kwiminyaka emithandathu umntwana uqala ukubheka ngokukhawuleza kwizihlobo ezitsha, kukho iminqweno nemisebenzi eqhelekileyo. Njengomntwana osemtsha, umntwana uqala ukukopisha ubungqina abadala. Into ephambili ayikungena kulwalamano olunjalo kunye nekhontrakthi yakho, kodwa ukubonisa ngomzekelo wakho ukuba ube ngabahlobo.