Ngelishwa, abaninzi abafazi badibana nabo ebomini babo imeko xa umyeni edibana nomnye kwaye wayishiya intsapho. Abanye abafazi kulo mzekelo bacinge indlela yokuhlukanisa umyeni kwikosikazi, ngoxa abanye, ngokuchaseneyo, babeke ingongoma baze bathethe ngokungapheliyo. Ukuba unquma ukunika ubudlelwane ithuba lesibini, ngoko kufuneka ukwazi ukuba ungathintana njani.
Ungayahlukanisa ngonaphakade umyeni kwikosikazi yakhe?
Ngaphambi kokuphuhlisa isicwangciso senkqubo, kufuneka ucinge ukuba kutheni le nto yenzeka kwaye iqabane ligqibe ukufumana elinye ibhinqa? Ngokuyisisiseko, isizathu sokuba utshintsho lubuhle ubudlelwane obubi kwaye okokuqala kufuneka usebenze ngokwakho, ukuze umthandayo afune ukufuna into engcono.
Ingcebiso yesazi sengqondo yindlela yokwahlula ngonaphakade umyeni kwikosikazi:
- Kwezinye iimeko, omnye umfazi akwazi nje ukuba indoda isatshati kwaye kuya kukwanela ukuthetha naye ngokuzenzele kwaye uchaze imeko.
- Zizinakekele: utshintshe isitayela sakho seenwele, ikhabethe, ukuziphatha, ngokuqhelekileyo, yenze umfanekiso apho indoda iphinda iwele ngothando nasembuyisweni.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu ohamba ngakwesokhohlo akaze amvumele umfazi wakhe ukuba athambe kunye nokuthetha nabanye abesilisa, ngoko umenze abe nomona.
Ungayahlula njani indoda yakho kwindlovukazi yakho ngomlingo?
Ukuba iqabane liphuma ekhaya, akudingeki ukwesaba, kuba ngoncedo lwimiqathango ungayilungisa imeko. Into eyona nto kukukholelwa kwisenzo somlingo nokufumana isiphumo esifunileyo. Kukho imigaqo eyahlukileyo, engayi kunceda kuphela ukubuyisela intanda, kodwa uya kuhlwaya umchasi. Khawuqwalasele umkhosi olula, apho kufuneka uthabathe into yakho yomlingane. Kufuneka ifakwe kwi-sofa, ehlanganiswe ngomqulo olala kuwo. Emva koko, kufuneka ukhethe isigqibo samandulo sokuhlukanisa umyeni wakho kwikosikazi yakho, kuba nguye oya kunceda ukusebenzela amandla okuzikhethela nokuqalisa inkqubo yokubuyisela othandekayo, kodwa ivakalelwa ngathi:
"Miu Tiu Rin Rin Shibo Ribo Gin Bilin."
Emva koko kufuneka uhlambe kwaye usule umjikelezo ovela emlanjeni owawuthatha inxaxheba kwinkqubo.