Yintoni eyenziwa ngumntu wonke owaziyo? Ewe, ubomi buvisisana nabanye, kwaye ngaphezu kwakho konke, kunye nawe. Kodwa njani ukuphumeza oku, indlela yokufunda ukuhlala ngokuvisisana nawe? Okokuqala, kuyafaneleka ukuqonda ukuba kuyimfuneko ukusebenzela le nto, kwaye umsebenzi kufuneka ucingisise kwaye unzulu. Kodwa umphumo ufanelekile, akunjalo?
Indlela yokufunda ukuhlala ngokuvisisanayo?
Apha sithetha, siphila ngokuvisisana nawe, kwaye sithetha ntoni ngolu hlobo, sifuna ukufezekisa ntoni? Mhlawumbi, ingqondo yangaphakathi into eyenzekayo njengoko kufanelekile, njengoko kufanelekile. Umoya ozolile wokuzithemba, eyona nto iphambili yempumelelo kwimpilo yabucala kunye nomsebenzi.
- Ngoko, ungayilungisa njani ilizwe lakho langaphakathi? Mhlawumbi le miyalelo elula iyakunceda.
- Ufuna ukonwaba - wazi wena. Lo mgaqo wawuyaziwa ngamaxesha amandulo, ngoko kutheni ungawuqwalasela ngoku? Emva koko, ukuba ungazi nto malunga neminqweno yakho, ukhetho kunye neenjongo, ngoko uxolo emphefumlweni alukwazi ukufezekiswa. Ngoko unako ukwenza yonke into ongayithandiyo, akuyikukusondeza kwinjongo. Ngoko siyazi ngokwenu, unganqikazi. Mane uthembeke wena ngokwakho, nantsi enye into onokuyithetha ngayo, ukuba uphupha ukuhlala kwindlu encane kufuphi nomlambo omncinci. Wena ngokwakho, vuma ukuba uya kuba ukhululekile ngakumbi ngefestile epholileyo okanye indlu e-3-storey elunxwemeni.
- Ngoku ke khangela isifundo esifana neeminqweno kunye nobuchule bakho, obuya kunceda ukubonakalisa umhlaba wakho ongaphakathi. Funda ukuhlala "ngokuhambelana nesazela sakho," njengoko ilizwi elingaphakathi libonisa. Musa nje ukudibanisa kwinombolo "engcwele", abangayaziyo oko bashumayelayo. Wonke umntu unombono wakhe wehlabathi, kwaye umntu kufuneka aphile ngokuvisisana nendlela oyijonga ngayo ngeli xesha. Ezinye iinjongo zabantu ziya kukufakela emgodini, zithinte ubuncinci bakho benkululeko.
- Ubomi obungavumelaniyo akunakwenzeka ukuba loo mntu unengxaki. Ukuba asiyi kuba nemizwa emihle, ngoko andivuyo lonwabo. Ngoko ke, ukususela namhlanje ngalo sifunda ukucinga okulungileyo, zonke iziganeko ebomini bethu zinemibandela emibini. Kufuneka ubabone bobabini, kodwa kufuneka ufunde ukunyamekela ngokwenene. Naliphi na ingxaki inokubonwa njengesifundo, njengethuba elitsha. Kwaye kuyafaneleka ukwenza, akudingeki ukuba uchithe ixesha lokuzisola.
- Xa sathetha ngokuphila ngokuvisisana, sathetha ukuzithemba kwethu. Ngako oko, ukwandisa ngokukhawuleza ukuzithemba. Umele ukwazi ukuba unokwenza okuninzi ukuba ufuna kuphela into ebalulekileyo. Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ufanelekile konke ophuphayo. Ngubani, ukuba akunjalo yini na ilungelo lokunwaba?
- Ngendlela, malunga nolonwabo. Amantombazana amaninzi phantsi kwakhe athetha uthando, kwaye zichanekile, le ntliziyo imele iphile entliziyweni yomntu. Musa nje ukudibanisa uthando kunye nomlingo kunye nomkhwa, akudingeki ukuba uhlale ulwalamano, ukuba akukuvuyisi. Yaye khumbula, uyayithanda into eyahlukileyo, uluhlu olulodwa lothando lweentlobo zalo alupheli. Ngoko ungaba lusizi xa ungengomntu onokufumana ulonwabo - uthando kunye nokunyamekela kunikwa abanye.
- Khumbula ukuba unako ukwenza iimpazamo kwaye unelungelo lokwenza njalo. Akukho namnye ongenakunyaniseki, nguyena ongenakwenza into ebalulekileyo ebomini bakhe akazange enze iphutha. Ngoko musa ukuchitha ixesha elixabisekileyo ukuzisola iimpazamo, bhetele bhetele iindlela zokulungisa ulawulo.
- Ukucinga ngobomi ngokuvisisanayo, uzibandakanye ngokuzikhethela ukucinga malunga nesidingo sokwanda komntu. Kwaye oku kunjalo ngokwenene, umntu okhulileyo ngokomoya unokubona ubomi kuyo yonke imibala yayo, fumana uvuyo kwimihla ngemihla. Kuphela akudingeki ukuba ucingisise kwiinqanaba zabafundi balo naluphi na "guru".
Ayikho iresiphi elungiselelwe, wonke umntu unendlela yakhe kunye nokuxelisa, okuya kubakho nto. Hayi, uncwadi olukhethekileyo, iinkonzo, izithethe, oku kufuneka ukuba konke, kodwa kuphela kwintliziyo. Musa ukulibala, thina sonke sihluke, ngoko ke umntu uza kuthandaza kunye neBhayibhile, kwaye umntu uya ku-yoga aze acinge ngeqabunga eliwela kwi-birch. - Ingqalelo ingqalelo kwimbono yabanye - ininzi yabo ayikhathalele ngezenzo zakho. Yaye ukuba baya kugqiba ukugweba, ngaba kufanelekile ukuyiqwalasela? Kubalulekile ukuba uzive ukuba izenzo zakho zilungile, uzive uncedo lwabantu abasondeleyo. Kwaye isihlwele kufuneka sithukuthele size siphumelele iminwe yabo, yintoni umehluko?