Eli gama livela kwiLatini elithi actualis, elithetha ngesiRashiya lithetha "okwenene, okwenene". Siza kuqwalasela ingxaki yokuzihlaziya ngobuntu kunye neempawu zabantu abazibandakanya ngokuzimela.
Ukuzimela nokuziphucula ukuziphatha komntu
Abanye abaphandi, okuphakathi kwabo abakwazi ukuluhlula uKurt Goldstein, bakholelwa ukuba kukuziqonda ngokufanelekileyo nokuzimela ngokuzimeleyo komntu onamandla kunabo bonke iimfuno zomntu ophilileyo onokukhuphisana kunye neemfuno zamanzi, ukutya nokulala. Namhlanje, ukuziphendulela kunokuba yindlela yokuphila ephawulekayo yintsebenzo kakhulu kwaye iphumelele, abo banqume ukusebenzisa zonke izibonelelo zabo ngokunokwenzeka.
Ngokomxholo kaK. Rogers, kwisimo sengqondo somntu, iindlela ezimbini zingabonwa, zinikezelwe ekuzalweni. Okokuqala, ukuzithemba ngokuzenzekelayo kukukwenziwa, iipropati zomntu zesikhathi esizayo; okwesibini, "inkqubo yokulandelela imizimba," ilawula ukuphuhliswa komntu. Kusekelwe kwezi zimbini iindlela ezenziwa ngobuntu obuhlukile, kuquka "uqobo" kunye "nokuzimela." Phakathi kwabo kunokuba nesimo sengqondo esahlukileyo-ukususela ngokuvisisana ngokugqithiseleyo ukugqitywa kokuphazamiseka.
Kule ngqungquthela yokuziqonda nokuzimelela ngobuntu kuhlobene. Ukuzihlaziya ngokubonakalayo kubonakala njengenkqubo yokubhengezwa kwamandla akho, okwenza kube lula ukuba ngumntu usebenzisa onke amathuba. Kwinkqubo yokufezekisa injongo, abantu baphila ubomi obucebileyo, obunomdla, obuzaliswe ngophando, sebenza kunye neziphumo ezimangalisayo. Umntu onjalo uhlala ekhona, ujongela yonke iminithi apha kwaye ngoku.
Ukuzihlaziya ngobuntu: izinto eziqhelekileyo
Umntu obambe iqhaza ekuziphenduleleni ngokwakhe kwaye uye waphumelela ngempumelelo kulo ungabonakaliswa ngale ndlela:
- wenza into ayithandayo;
- ayithobeli phantsi kwefuthe labanye abantu;
- uthanda ukufunda nokuphuhlisa;
- ngumntu odala;
- sebenzisa indlela efanelekileyo yokucinga ;
- evulekile emoyeni;
- ukuzithemba;
- Uzixolela ngokukhawuleza ukuphazamiseka kwexesha elikhoyo kuzo zonke.
Abantu abanjalo banesivumelwano esipheleleyo kunye nabo, okwenza kube lula ukuthetha ngokuqiniseka ukuba ukukhula komntu kubangela ukuba abantu babe nolonwabo.