Okokuqala, le ncwadi yandikhangela, kuba yayinconywe ngumbhali wam ozithandayo kwizengqondo-uRobert Chaldini. Nangona le ncwadi ibonakala ngathi ithuluzi loshishino ekuqaleni, le nto ikude nenyaniso. Ithetha ngemibandela ebalulekileyo yokuziphatha komntu-ukuziphilisa, ukuzingca okanye ukuphikisa, ukuhlala kwabanye kunye nokunyamekela?
Incwadi ibonisa iintlobo ezintathu eziphambili zokuziphatha kwabantu:
- Abathathi-abafumanayo inzuzo yabo kuqala, kwaye bathanda ukufumana okungaphezulu kunokuba banike. Uninzi olunjalo.
- Utshintshiselwano, okholelwa ukuba utshintsho kufuneka lulingane - "Ndiya kuwe - wena kum."
- Abanikeli - abazimisele ukubanceda abanye ukuba bacekele izinto zabo.
Ucinga ntoni, ngubani ohlala kwiinqanaba eziphantsi kwamanqanaba emisebenzi kwizakhono ezininzi? Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuthi aba banikelayo, kwaye uya kulungile. Yaye ngubani ophethe amanyathelo aphakamileyo emfundo? Uninzi lwabantu luya kuphendula ngokuthi "ukuthatha" okanye "ukutshintshana", kodwa ke baya kuphutha. Amabanga aphezulu kakhulu athatyathwa ngabaniki.
Ngokomphando, nakanjani nawuphi na umsebenzi, abo bavelisa amanqaku amaninzi bakha ininzi enkulu. Kwanjalo kumasebe anjengomthetho-mthetho, i-inshorensi, ezopolitiko - abo banikela ngaphezu kokufumana bayamkela ukunqoba.
Kodwa yintoni na umehluko phakathi kwabanikezeli abasemgangathweni ophantsi kunabo bonke abasemaphandleni? Umbhali ubiza lo mdahluko - "ulungelelaniso oluthileyo", oluvumela ukuba abaninikeli baphuhlise, kwaye bangazilimazi phantsi koxinzelelo lwabathathi. Incwadi ichaza ixesha elininzi elinokubangela ukuba umhlaba uphendule kwaye uphucule ihlabathi ngokubanzi.
Ukususela encwadini ongayifumana:
- Indlela yokwahlula umthabathelisi "kumniki-mbonelo", indlela yokufunda malunga nokuwa kweenkampani kwiifoto ze-CEO kwingxelo yonyaka.
- Kutheni kubalulekile ukunceda ngokungenabugovu, kwaye kungekhona ukutshintshana.
- Kutheni iqela labantu osebenza nabo liye landisa kakhulu imveliso yomsebenzi wakho.
- Izixhobo zokuthonya abantu ngombono womniki. Kutheni banamandla ngakumbi kunenkolelo enjalo ngokulawula. Yintoni "ukunxibelelana kwimeko yokubuthathaka", umntu unokufezekisa njani iingqinisiso zayo, kodwa imibuzo efanelekileyo.
- Uya kuba nolwazi lwezixhobo ezinamandla zempembelelo yabaniki, oko uGeorge Washington wasebenzisa. Faka isicelo ngokunyanisekileyo ngcebiso, kwaye uya kufumana ukongezelela ulwazi oluncedo olunyanisekileyo kumntu.
- Uphi umehluko obalulekileyo phakathi kwabaphili-abalahleki kwiinkonzo-zinikeli.
- Kutheni ungaba ngumnikezeli kwimeko yomdlalo we-zero-sum.
- Kungcono kakhulu ukuphatha izenzo ezintle - "ukusika" okanye "ukufafaza"? Ngaba wenza zonke izinto ezilungileyo ngokukhawuleza ngemini enye, okanye ukusabalalisa ngemini yeveki?
- Ixesha elingakanani lothando lusebenza unyaka olufunekayo ukuze lube nolonwabo kwaye luphile ixesha elide.
- Indlela yokuziphatha kumniki-baniki nabathathi.
- Kwiindawo ezifihlakeleyo zabantu abaninzi.
Namhlanje, ukuziphatha kwabanikeliyo kubonwa njengobuthathaka. Abaninzi abanikeli oko bafihlayo, kodwa banokuzama ukunyamezela ukuziphatha okunjalo. Le ncwadi ivula ii-horizons ezintsha kwi-psychology yokusebenzisana nabanye abantu, zisikhuthaze ukuba sicinge kwakhona ngeembono zethu kwi-altruism.
Kwiengqondo-nkquko kukho into efana nempembelelo yentlalo - ithuluzi elinamandla kwaye elingalawulwayo, ngokubhekiselele kukho abantu abanokubakhokelela kwimpembelelo yendalo kwaye baqale ukuxelisa. Ngenxa yale nto, ndingathanda ukucebisa le ncwadi ukuba ifunde yonke into, abantu abaninzi baya kuqala ukuphila ngokwemiqathango yabaniki - imeko yethu yendalo izakutshintsha kwi-altruism.