Amadoda nabasetyhini - siyahluke kakhulu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi sivela kwiiplanethi ezahlukeneyo. Siyayiqonda isondo esahlukileyo njengalokhu kunzima ngathi, kodwa kunzima ukucinga ubomi bakho ngaphandle kwehlombe lomntu, uthando kunye nomvakalelo onqwenelekayo nothando.
Ukuqiqa ngombuzo wendlela yokuqonda isimo sengqondo somntu, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba sithetha ngeelwimi ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye ukuze uzicacise wena, ungubani ngokwenene kuye, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukuqaphela ukuziphatha kwakhe, amabinzana.
Indlela yokuqonda isimo sengqondo somntu othandekayo kuwe?
- Indlela yokuziphatha . Kubonakala ngathi uyamthanda, kuba uhlala ebiza ngothando, ngobumnene? Jonga ngokubhekisele ngakumbi: konke oku kusebenzayo kunye nokusebenza kuyo yonke intombazana ekhishwe "bunny", "ilanga". Yintoni endingayithethayo, kodwa inkcazo eninzi yile ndlela ayibizi nto kodwa i-femanizer. Ukongeza, insizwa inokukunika izipho kunye nokuncoma. Ngexesha apho into engekusebenzele yona, akunjalo ukuba wenqaba ukubonelela ngenkxaso yokuziphatha, ngoko kunokukuhlambalaza, ukugxeka abantu. Kwimeko yokugqibela, isimo sakhe sengqondo esifanelekileyo kuwe sibonakaliswe. Indoda enjalo kufuneka igcinwe kude, okanye isuswe kubahlobo.
- Ixesha . Uchitha ixesha elingakanani kunye? Ukuzama ukuphendula lo mbuzo, kubalulekile ukukhumbuza ukuba akukho malunga nengxoxo kunye nezesondo. Indoda inomdla kuwe - ngulo xesha ulungele ukuphulaphula izikhalazo zakho malunga nokuba ukhathele umsebenzi oqhelekileyo kwaye "ungenayo ixesha lokuthenga le ndlo, ucinge?". Yaye makangabi nantoni na le nto, kodwa ulungele ukuphulaphula, ukuxhasa kuphela ngenxa yokuba ubalulekile kuye.
Njani ukuqonda isimo sengqondo somntu othandana naye?
Intuition yamakhosikazi kulo mba ayisoze yahluleka. Ukongezelela, ayikho indawo yokukhumbula ezinye iimfihlelo. Ngoko, yonke imihla yokusebenza, ngokuqinisekileyo uyayichukumisa isandla sakho, ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba yenzeke ngengozi, kwaye ukuba uhlala unesibindi, uya kunciphisa amehlo akhe, alahleke kwaye angakwazi ukuziphatha kakuhle - iimpawu eziphambili ozenzayo ngokucacileyo uhle.
Kunzima ukuqonda amadoda njengabesifazane. Nantsi mhlawumbi intuition esebenze kakuhle okanye intsingiselo yolwimi oluyimfihlo yabameli besini esahlukileyo iya kunceda.