Umcimbi wendawo yokuhlala, ngokuchasene nemeko yeklasikhi, awuphanga kuphela amaMuscovites. Ininzi iintsapho ezincinci zinyanzeliswa ukuba ziqhube kwigumbi elilodwa, okanye kumagumbi, ummelwane nabazali kunye nezinye izihlobo. Xa ababini ningahambi ndawo, kuba ukuze niphakamise umnyango ovalekile. Kodwa xa umntwana ezalwa kwintsapho, kuba nzima nakakhulu.
Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, isondo sithatha ubomi bentsapho akuyona indawo yokugqibela. Ewe kunesono sokufihleka - kuyimfuneko nje ukuba uphile ngobomi bentsapho, ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kunye neprayimari yempilo yomzimba. Kodwa ngaba abazali abaselula bayifumana kwimeko yokuba kunomnqweno, kwaye akukho ithuba lokufezekiswa kwalo, njengokuba kuhlaziyekile. Ngako oko, kufuneka sihambe kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo, ukunciphisa ubomi obusondeleyo kwizinto ezinokukhawuleza, ukufihla kwindawo yokuhlambela kunye nekhitshini, ulinde de kube umntwana elele.
Kunzima kakhulu kulabo abaza kulala nomntwana kwelinye igumbi, kuba umntwana okhulileyo ulele kakhulu kunomntwana kwaye ingozi yokuvusa, ukufumana abazali "oku." Labo abanamagumbi abo ngokulula kulula, kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuvala umnyango kwinqaba, kuba umntwana angakwazi ukuza kubazali phakathi kobusuku ngenxa yokuba wayebona iphupha elibi, bekwesaba okanye beva izandi ezingaqhelekanga.
Ewe, iimeko ezinjalo zibuhlungu, ngoko ke, ukuba kunokwenzeka, zifanele zigweme. Kodwa ukuba oko kwenzeka, kubalulekile ukusabela ngokuchanekileyo, kuba oku kunokuchaphazela kakhulu isimo sengqondo somntwana wakho kwicala locwangciso lobomi. Ukususela ekuphenduleni kwabazali kuxhomekeke ekubeni oku kuya kuba ngumvandcipheko kumntwana okanye kungekudala uza kulibala, njengesimo esiqhelekileyo.
Ngoko, umntwana ufumene emva kwesi "nto," yintoni oyenzayo?
- ukuvavanya indlela ukusabela ngayo umntwana - kuxhomekeke kwiminyaka, unokwesaba kwaye ukhale, ube nomdla kwaye uqale ukubuza imibuzo okanye ufune ukulala;
- Musa ukumemeza okanye ukumangazela umntwana. Yiba nokuzola kwaye ungabonakali ingqondo ukuba kwenzeka into engavamile;
- Ugqoke uze uye kumntwana, fumana kuye kuye isizathu sokuvuswa;
- Ngokuqhelekileyo ukusuka kwicala lomntwana wesondo lubukeka njengento yobundlobongela, ulwabizo lukayise kumama, ngoko kubalulekile ukubonisa ngokuzola kwakho, ngendlela enomusa ukuba akukho nto yenzekile. Ukuba ngaba abazali banamahloni, banobuhlungu kunye neentloni, umntwana unokubona kwesi siqinisekiso sokwesaba kwabo, oko kungasichaphazela ubomi bakhe obusondeleyo;
- ukuba umntwana uqala ukubuza imibuzo, kungcono ukushiya kude kube sekuseni. Iinkcazo zixhomekeke ngokupheleleyo ekucingeni kwakho. Ukuba awulungele ukuqhuba inkqubo yezemfundo ekuveliseni kunye nesigaba sezesondo , unokucinga ngento ethile, umzekelo, ukuba uyise wayethambisa umama kuye, ngoko ke izandi kunye nokuthuka. Kwakhona kungathiwa ngale ndlela, abantu abadala abakhulileyo nabathandanayo babonisa iimvakalelo zabo komnye nomnye ngaphandle kokungena kwiinkcukacha zomzimba zenkqubo;
- akuyimfuneko ukunqanda nokungawunaki imimiselo esemthethweni ephakanyiswayo malunga noko kubonwe. Makhe umntwana afumane iimpendulo ezingcono kuwe ngaphandle kohlobo oluphakathi kwendawo okanye kumyezo;
- musa ukutshela umntwana ukuba "udlala" nje, kuba ekuqondeni kwakhe umdlalo uhloseleke kubantwana, ngoko inkwenkwe iyakucaphukisa kuwe ngenxa yokuba ungayibambi ukuba idlale nawe.
Le meko ingabangela uxinzelelo kungekhona nje kwimivumba, kodwa kubazali. Kodwa umnqweno wokugwema akusiyo isizathu sokuyeka isondo ngokupheleleyo. Hlalani nilindile, qhubela phambili kule njongo ekhitshini okanye kwindawo yokuhlambela, sitshintshe ixesha lokududuzeka, umzekelo, emva kokulala ngesondo , xa ulala ebuntwaneni buqine kakhulu, ukumfundisa ukuba angqongqoze emnyango wekamelo lokulala lomzali, ukuba akwenze xa egadi okanye ehamba kunye ugogo.