Ngokwezibalo zenkcukacha, kuluntu lwangoku malunga ne-35% yezibini ezikhethiweyo zikhetha umtshato womtshato kwi-union ebhalisiweyo. Izizathu zalo mcimbi zininzi: inkululeko yobundlobongela, ukugcinwa komtshato kunye nabanye abaninzi. Nangona kunjalo, bambalwa kwabatshatileyo abahlala emtshatweni womtshato, bacinge ngento yokuba ngokomthetho "umyeni wabantu" kwimithetho ekhoyo ayikho. Makhe sizame ukuqonda le ngxaki enzima yobudlelwane bosapho kwaye sibone iingozi ezithatyathwa ngabafazi abahlala emtshatweni womtshato.
Ingcamango "yomtshato womtshato"
Imbono yokuba "umtshato womtshato" ibonakala kusetyenzisweni lwakutshanje, kunye neminyaka engama-25 ukuya ku-30 ​​edlulileyo, abantu abahlala emtshatweni wembambano babonwa njengabantu abamhlophe kwaye bachongwa ngamathuba onke ngolu hlobo loluntu. Leli gama lafika kumazwe aphesheya aseNtshona. umtshato womtshato waseNtshonalanga, umtshato wethu womtshato wasemakhaya awubhaliswanga nangayiphi na indlela. Akukho mnye mnye umthetho okhusela ngamalungelo omyeni okanye umfazi womntu. Nangona umtshato womtshato, ukunqotshwa kwefestile, abantu abaninzi emva kwekhulu Bajamelana neengxaki ezinzulu.
Umtshato womtshato - kunye nokuchasene
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngaba besetyhini banamhlanje bathi, abaninzi babo bavumelana nomtshato wabantu basekhaya, baxhomekeke kwizibongozo zabo abakhethiweyo. Ngokungafani namadoda, i-90% yesini esilungileyo ayenqabe ukuqulunqa ubudlelwane ngokusemthethweni, engazange aphile ngaphambili kwimtshato yomtshato. Umtshato womtshato unobungozi kunye nobutyebi bawo, kodwa njengokuba kukho ukubonisa, inxaxheba yowesifazane ufumana amancinci amaninzi, kungekhona ama-pluses.
Iinkqubo zomtshato womtshato:
- ithuba lokuthatha ixesha lokuthandana kunye nolwalamano ixesha elide kunokwenzeka;
- ithuba nangaliphi na ixesha lokunqumla ubudlelwane kunye nokushiya;
- ukungabikho kwezibophelelo kumyeni womntu;
- Kunokwenzeka ukuhlola umyeni ngenxa yobukho bemikhuba engathandekiyo kwaye ungabanikiyo;
- ithuba lokuqhuba "ulungiso" lobomi bentsapho, qwa lasela zonke iimpazamo ukuze uzikhusele ukuba ziqhubeke.
Iingxaki zomtshato womtshato:
- ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva, ukutshatyalaliswa kwangaphambili kusuka kubundlelwane, kwaye abaqabane bomtshato bajongana nesimo sentsapho efanayo;
- ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuvakalelwa;
- ukungabikho kozinzo kwezobudlelwane nomyeni womntu;
- akunakwenzeka ukuthembela kumlingane;
- ukungabikho kwamathemba kunye nezicwangciso ezihlangeneyo ngekamva;
- ukungakhuselekanga komthetho komfazi kumtshato womtshato.
Umtshato wabantu kunye nabantwana
Xa bengena emtshatweni womtshato, abantu bathambekele ukucinga okungakumbi ngabo bonke abantwana. Oku kubangelwa kukuba okokuqala uhlobo lolwalamano lubonakala njengento yesikhashana kwaye ingathembekiyo. Nangona kunjalo, iimeko ziyakwazi ukulahlwa ngenye indlela kwaye ukuzalwa komntwana kwimitshato yomtshato akuqhelekanga. Kwaye, ngokudabukisayo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo umntwana uba sisisombululo esinzulu phakathi kwabatshatileyo emtshatweni womtshato.
Ekubeni ulwalamano alubhaliswanga ngokusemthethweni, ukukhulelwa kuba sisizathu sokuphuka kwezibini ezininzi. Kwindoda yomntu, umntwana ozayo angeke anqweneleke kwaye lona wesifazane, kulo mzekelo, uhlala "kwisiqhekeza esiphukileyo" ngesibonelelo esincinci.
Ukubhaliswa komntwana ozalwe emtshatweni womtshato akunzima. Unina unakho okanye angabonisi uyise kwisatifiketi. Kwakhona, ngokwengqiqo yakhe, ukhetha igama lomntwana ozalwe ngumtshato womtshato.
Eli bhinqa linethuba lokufumana enkundleni ukuhlawulwa kwe-alimony kumyeni womntu. Kodwa le nkqubo ithatha ixesha elininzi kunye neentsholongwane, kwaye inokuthi ingagqithwanga ingqalelo kumama.