Ngaba uzibheka njengentombazana ephumelelayo, enomdla owaziyo ukuqonda abantu, kwaye uyakwazi ukuvakalelwa kwiikota ezimbalwa zeqabane lakho elifanelekileyo ngokuhlwa? Kodwa, maye, iminyaka iyabhabhisa ngokungenasiphelo, kunye nengubo yomtshato, oye wayiphupha ngayo ixesha elide, awuzange ukwazi ukunxiba ubuncinane. Kwaye, ukuqhubeka kulo mbuzo, umbuzo uthi: "Ngoko ufumana njani iqabane lobomi bakho?"
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1. Qaphela into efunekayo . Ngoko, isigaba sokuqala esinceda ukutshintsha yakho yangoku kwiinkalo zobomi bentsapho kuyimfuneko yokufunda ukuqaphela amadoda kuluntu. Oku kufuneka kusetyenziswe nangona umntu omncinci ejongene nokulungisa iplumbing ephukile endlwini yakho. Zama ukuhlonipha wonke umntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni imeko yakhe yentlalo, imeko yezemali. Ndiyabulela kule nto, uya kukwazi ukwandisa ii-horizons zokukhangela kwakho. Ngaphezu koko, funda ukuphawula iimpawu zengqalelo ezithunyelwa kuwe ngabantu.
Ukuphucula umgangatho wokubona umviwa ofanelekileyo kwisini esahlukileyo, zama ukukhumbuza ngengqondo nawuphi na umntu oza kuhlangana nawe endleleni yonke imini. Into ephambili kukuba ufunde kweli nqanaba ukuze ube nokucinga okulungileyo . Emva kwexesha elithile, ngaphandle kokuqaphela, uya kumncumo ngokunyanisekileyo nakwabo ongazizange uyithobele ngaphambili.
2. Nika indoda ithuba lokuzibonakalisa . Xa udidekile ngokukhangela iqabane elizayo, ngoko ke, kwiinkcukacha ezincinci, khangela ukubukeka kwakho. Kodwa ngenxa yoko, umviwa ongenako ukukwazi ukuzibonakalisa kuwe njengomntu wesintu uzama ukuphepha abantu abambhekayo imihla ngemihla, njengexhoba. Lahla imeko "kwindawo yokukhangela" loo mvakalelo, njengokungathi unomntu. Ukwenza oku, zama ukunciphisa, zityumzela, zixelele ukuba wonke umntu ubonakala enomdla kuwe. Phinda uzenzele amaxesha amaninzi awunqweneliyo ukwenza ingcamango efanelekileyo kunoma ubani.
Ngokuncediswa kwile ndlela, awuyi kukhangela kuphela ubulili besilisa, kodwa unokukwazi ukwazisa umdla wabantu abatsha abaye bawafihla ngokucokisekileyo.
3. Qaphela bonke abantu . Umthetho wobomi ochasayo uthi akunakwenzeka ukuba ukuba ubhala kwisiza sokuthandana kuphela, u-pumped macho, baya kuqala kukuphendula. Yiya ngaphesheya kwaye cinga ebomini bakho bokubambisana nabo ngokuqinisekileyo abo babengenakucinga, ngaphezu koko, bebengayi kukhangela, nokuba wayehleli etafileni elisondele kwi-cafe. Iingxelo zebhula lokubambisana yamazwe ngamazwe zicebisa ukuba zikhumbule ukuba izixhobo ezikhutheleyo zizaliswa ngokutsha xa sele zihamba kunye nabo bokuba ngumfazi onyanisekileyo obathandayo.
Thabatha ingqalelo kulabo abasondeleyo, hlawula ingqalelo. Zama ukuqwalasela abantu abanjengobonakaliso obuhle bekamva, obonisa ukuhambelana kwakho. Khumbula ukuba ubuchule bakho bokusondela ngaphandle kokubonakalisa naluphi na uhlobo lwe-resonance, bobabini kunye nawe kunye naye, lubonisa ukuba khona kuwe kumlinganiselo wamandla (enye imilingo yamandla ngokwesini). Kwaye, oku ke, kunika ukukhanya okuluhlaza kwiinkqubela ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane.
4. Inkcazo yokuhambelana okuphambili . Musa ukukhawuleza ukufumana izigqibo, khetha umntu oya kuye esibingelelweni ngaphandle kokuthetha nalo mntu. Ngaphandle koqhagamshelwano lomntu, amanyathelo ebomi bentsapho ayinanto. Kuyaziwa ukuba ubudlelwane bubugcisa. Kodwa ukuhambelana okuphambili (umzekelo, ngoncedo lokubala ngamanani) kunokunqunyulwa kwaye nguye ophethe ulwazi oluyimfuneko kunye nenjongo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ngokuthetha ngokukhawuleza uyayenqaba kalula umntu onomdla
Iingcali zengqondo zincoma kwinqanaba lokuqala lokuthandana ukujonga umntu kwiimpawu ezilandelayo eziza kukufunda ukumhlonela:
- isimo sengqondo kubafazi;
- imali (esi sibuko salo nawuphi na umntu kulwalamano);
- bunzulu kunye noxanduva;
- ezo iimpawu ozixabisa kuyo.