Ayikho indlela elula ukuba ibonakale phakathi kwabahlobo njengento eqhelekileyo nangona i-bitch, kunokuqala ukudibana nomntu otshatileyo. Uphendukela kwi-razluchnitsu, apho iintombi zifihla ngokucokisekileyo amadoda abo, kwaye yiyiphi eyona nto ifanele ukuyifunda le ntetho, kwaye ekugqithiseni kakhulu amathambo emva kwayo. Ukudibana nomntu otshatileyo kuyisono, kunye nesono esingenakuthethelelwa - yilokho bazama ukukuxelela. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo?
Ngoko kuyisiko ukugxeka umfazi ukuba ahlasele, okuthi, bathi, wayekhokele indoda, njengokungathi wayishiye ibhokhwe ekucoceni. Kodwa ukuba uyayithanda (ewe, ukuze avume ukuba ngumfazi), enye into kukuba kuyamangalisa ukuba lo mntu uthanda omnye umfazi. Ekugqibeleni, wonke umntu unelungelo lokulwa nolonwabo, kwaye iindlela esizikhethayo zihlala kuphela kwisazela sethu.
Ingaba udibana nomntu otshatileyo ibhizinisi lakho. Ngaphandle kweembono zoluntu eziphangiweyo, unobungozi ngentliziyo yakho. Iindaba malunga nokuba amadoda angadla ixesha elingakanani ukondla abasetyhini babo abakhethiweyo kunye nezithembiso sele sele ziyigama. Uthando luhambelana nentlonipho, ngoko ke kunengqiqo ukucinga ukuba umntu onothando uya kuzama ukuqinisekisa ukuba intanda yakhe ayidibana nomntu otshatileyo, ezityhila ngokuthotywa. Ukubeka nje, uya kuzama ukuthatha uxanduva, kungabi kukuphoqa ukuba ufihle.
Kodwa ukuba awuyinyanga yokuqala uva oko:
- Kwintsapho ngoku kunzima (umntu ugule, ukuphazamiseka kwemihlaba, ukuhlambalaza, njl.), kwaye emva kokuba unqobe ubunzima ekugqibeleni ungaba kunye;
- kumkhethiweyo wakhe umfazi akakuchukumanga iintsuku eziliqela kwaye, ngokubanzi, bahlala njengabantu abangaziwa.
... kakhulu, kuya kufuneka unelisekile ngendima yenkosikazi nangaphezulu. Kutheni kufuneka umntu aphule i-idyll (kwaye ngombono wakhe, imeko ifana nale nto), ukuze ukwabelana ngepropati kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo yenza iintshaba.
Xa udibana nendoda esitshatileyo ngaphandle kokubiza intliziyo yakhe, yonke into ibonakala kulula. Akunjalo, ngoko enye, ngokuqinisekileyo, iya kuba yinkosikazi yakhe. Nangona kunjalo, umntu okhululekile ukuba abe nolwabelana ngesondo lukhulu kakhulu.
Kuphi ukudibana nomntu otshatileyo?
Umthetho owodwa: akaze eze endlwini yakhe. Hlonipha omnye umfazi, akayintshaba yabantu kuphela ngenxa yokuba wadibana noyintanda yakho ngaphambili.
Ukuba unayo ikhaya lakho, kwaye awusabi ukwenziwa ngcaciso evela kubamelwane, ngoko unokuzisela umntu. Nangona kunjalo, kungcono ukuba ungavumeli kwisithuba somntu siqu ngokukhawuleza. Jonga indlela ubuhlobo bakho buya kukhula ngayo. Ngomlinganiselo omkhulu, ukunakekelwa malunga nokuba kufuneka udibana neyiphi indoda. Ukuba ingaba ihotele, igumbi elinomlinganiselo weyure okanye i-sauna-makabe ngowokuqala ukuthatha inyathelo. Kuyo uza kukwazi ukugqiba ubunzima bobudlelwane bakho.