Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba akukho mntu emhlabeni ongenamdla wokwesaba okungenani kanye ebomini bakhe. Kulowo nalowo wethu uvakalelwa kukuba uphila ubomi, kodwa kubaninzi banokufihla ixesha elide. Abantu banokuhlala kunye neminyaka emininzi ngenxa yokwesaba ngaphakathi kwabo, ngaphandle kokucinga ukuba emva kwexeshana ukwesaba kwabo kwangaphakathi kungaguquleka.
Akunakwenzeka ukuba nabani na oya kugxininisa nokuxela ukuba umntu onama-phobias amaninzi ongeyonwabanga ngobomi kwaye akaqinisekanga ngamakhono akhe akakwazi ukuba ngumhlali onolisayo kwaye ogcweleyo kuluntu. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi indlela yokuphelisa ukwesaba nokuzithemba.
Ungayinqumla njani umdla kunye nokwesaba?
- Ubusuku obubi kakhulu bufezekile . Khawucinge nje ukuba yonke into oyikrekrele ngayo sele isenzeke. Kufuneka udlule kwiimeko ezincinci iinkcukacha, uze ucinge malunga noko ukwenza ngokulandelayo. Kufuneka ugxininise kwiimvakalelo ozifumanayo, kwaye ukususela ngoko, xa uloyiko luya kubuya, khumbula oko uvakalelwa khona xa ucinga ukuba into eyona nto yenzekile. Oku kuya kukunqoba ukungaqiniseki kunye nokwesaba ngomso.
- Hlala ngolunye usuku . Ngokuqhelekileyo izizathu zokubonakalisa ukwesaba nokungakhuselekanga ziingcamango zeemeko ezizayo. Iingcamango ziqala ukudweba imifanekiso emibi yeemeko ezingakaze zenziwe ebomini. Ukuba oku kuqala ukuba kwenzeke, kuyimfuneko ukuyeka ukuhamba kweengcamango kwaye uzenze ukusetha ukuhlala apha kwaye ngoku, ngaphandle kokucinga malunga noko kuya kwenzeka ngomso.
- Kholelwa kuwe . Ukwesaba kunye nokungaqiniseki ngaso sonke isikhathi kusekho isiseko esithile. Ngokuqhelekileyo zibonakaliswa ngenxa yokungeniswa kwangaphakathi olungalunganga kunye nokuzijonga njengomntu. Ukuba umntu akanelisekanga ngesimo sakhe kuluntu kwaye yena ngokwakhe, uya kuthi, uya kuyika ukuthatha inyathelo elongezelelweyo. Zithande kwaye wamukele, kufuneka uqonde kwaye uyamkele ukuba ungumntu kwaye unelungelo lokwenza impazamo. Abantu abambalwa abalula bahlala phakathi kwakho. Emva kokuba uvuma ngokwakho, ubomi buya kuqala ukuphucula.
Ukuba uhlaselwa yintlonelo kwaye ufuna ukufunda indlela yokuphelisa ukwesaba okwesaba, into yokuqala esinokuyicebisa ngayo ukutyelela ingcali. Xhumana nomgqirha kwaye uyakukunceda uqonde ukuba yintoni ingxaki.
Xa ukhangele impendulo kumbuzo wendlela yokulahla ukwesaba ukufa nokuxhalaba, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kunzima, kodwa kunokwenzeka, ukunqoba ukwesaba into esingaziyo!
Ukuze ususe uloyiko lokufa , kufuneka uzame ukungacingi malunga nokuphela, apho kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo, ulindele wonke umntu. Ubomi buhle kwaye buyathakazelisa ukuba ayikho nto kwaye ayilunganga ukuhlala ulindele ukuphela. Jabulela yonke imihla, kwaye awuyi kubona ukuba ukwesaba kuya kuphazamiseka ngaphandle komkhondo.
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