Indlela yokuphila yomntu ngamnye iqulethe uluhlu lwelahleko kunye nokunqoba, ukuwa kunye nokuphakama. Ngamanye amaxesha emva komgca omnyama, kubonakala ngathi akunakwenzeka ukuqala ubomi ukususela ekuqaleni, utshintshe. Kukho rhoqo indlela yokuphuma. Akufanele sikhohlwe malunga nale nto kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuqala ubomi ngokutsha, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakunzima kangakanani ekuqaleni.
Indlela yokuqalisa ukuhlala ngokutsha: iingcebiso zeengqondo zeengqondo
Isiseko saluphi na ukuqala kufuneka sibe nomnqweno kunye nokukhuthaza . Ngaphandle kwesi sihlandlo asiyi kubakho ukuhamba phambili. Okokuqala, kufuneka uqikelele kwiingcamango zakho, ukuqonda. Qonda into oyifunayo, yintoni utshintsho. Emva koko, kufuneka uthathe iphepha kunye nokuchaza yonke imvakalelo yakho, iminqweno, ngelixa akuyi kuba yinto engafanelekanga ukuba ungaphuthelwa inkcazelo encinane. Eli nqaku kufuneka lihlale likhona phambi kwamehlo akho (amaxesha amaninzi ngosuku kufuneka ufunde kwakhona, uzikhumbuze oko ufuna ngokwenene).
Qala ukuhlala, ukulawula ngokuzimeleyo iingcinga zakho njengoko ufuna, unako. Ukwenza oku, akudingeki ukuba ulungiselele ngokwengqondo kuphela oku, kodwa nokuba uthathe amanyathelo amancinci imihla ngemihla endleleni eya kumnqophiso oyithandayo. Akunakuphi na umzekelo ukucebisa ukuba uthi kuwe: "Ndininzi ixesha. Ndisaba nexesha. " Ubomi bathanda kuphela abaphumeleleyo, abo bazama ukuziqonda bona, ukubonakalisa amandla abo okudala, ukuhlala ngendlela abayifunayo.
Indlela yokuqala ukuhlala kwakhona: ukwesaba utshintsho
Umdala umntu uba, kunzima kakhulu kuye "ukutshintshela ngokwakhe." Abaninzi banenkathazo indoda engathandekiyo kuphela ngenxa yokuba "ndiziva ndikhululekile kunye naye, ndiziva ndikhuselekile" okanye yonke uvuko iphelelwe yinto yokuba "kusasa ukusebenza" kwaye andinakufuna ukutshintsha.
Naziphi na utshintsho kwiimeko ezininzi zibonisa ukuba kusasa kuya kuba kubi ngakumbi. Ukuqala ukuhlala ukusuka ekuqaleni kunokwenzeka kuphela xa ixesha elidlulileyo lihlala kwixesha elidlulileyo, xa lingaqondwa kungekhona njengentlungu yaloo nto, kodwa njengamava. Kwaye into ebaluleke kakhulu: imihla ngemihla kufuneka ubeke iinjongo ezintsha kwaye wenze zonke iintlobo zezinto zokuzifezekisa.