Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo kwamkelwa ukuba abafazi bawubuntu bokuthandana kunye nokuba bahlala bekulungele iimpembelelo ezingalindelekanga zomoya wabo kunye nezenzo ezintle egameni luthando lwabo bathandekayo. Kodwa i-psychology yexesha lethu ikwazi ukutshabalalisa le ngqungquthela. Kodwa "njani?" - siya kufumana kwangoku.
Iingqondo zemihlaba emibini
Iintlanzi zangekhulu lama-21, ngaphandle kokuzithobela, zibale izinto ezinjalo, ezo zinto zibonisa ukubaluleka kwabo. Eminye imizuzwana yokugqibela igijimela isipho kwaye sikhumbule umkhosi wokubanjelwa kwintlanganiso okanye ukuqala kokubanga. Kodwa, njengoko uphando lubonakalisile, nangona kunjalo, amadoda aphinde abe nokuthandana.
Abaphandi uPepper Schwartz noJames Witte baqhuba uphando nge-intanethi. Phantse abantu abangama-80 lamawaka bathatha inxaxheba kubo. Ngaloo ndlela, abaphenduliweyo beza kwimbono engavumelaniyo yokuba isiqingatha sesintu sabantu sihle ngakumbi kunesisetyhini. Abaphenduli baphendule ngokunyaniseka kumbuzo malunga nokuziphatha kwabo kubuhlobo. Ukuqhubela phambili kule nto, kwaziwa ukuba ama-49% wabameli bezesondo eziqinileyo babethandana nabafazi babo baqalayo. Ukususela kwindawo yabasetyhini, esi sibonakaliso saba yincinci - kuphela i-30%.
Ukongezelela, ihlabathi leengqondo liye lafunda ukuba ngaphezu kwesigamu samadoda afunyanisiweyo bafumana amandla okuvuma ukuba baziva bexhamla emva komhla wokuqala .
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba enye i-poll yanikezela iziphumo ezithandekayo. Kwabonakala ukuba i-75% yabasetyhini bahamba bethandana emva kokuba batyelele abathathu kuphela. Ngaloo ndlela, abafazi, okokuqala, bakhetha ukuhamba kwengqondo, ingcamango, kodwa kungekhona intliziyo. Kwaye kuphela i-11% yabasetyhini abaphendula amava ezinzulu emva kwemizuzu embalwa emva kokumazi umntu kwaye emva komhla wesithandathu intombazana ilungele ukuvula intliziyo yakhe kuluthando olutsha.Iinkcazo zothando lomntu
Iingcali zengqondo zichazela iziphumo zezi zifundo ngolu hlobo lokuba abantu abaselula bayayiqonda ingqondo yabo yokuqala intombazana. Ngoko ke, nangona kungenakwenzeka ukuba kungabonakali, kodwa kwindlela yokuqala yokucinga ngayo, bengaziqapheli ukuba bayayifaka le ngcamango elandelayo: ukuba kulungile, ngoko kufanelekile ukuthandwa kwam. Ihlabathi leentlobo zeentlobo zengqondo ziyinkimbinkimbi. Emva koko, abafazi basetyenziselwa ukulinganisa ngokucophelela zonke iingxaki kunye neengxaki ngaphambi kokugqiba ukuba le ndoda ivumelekile ukuba ibone iphepha elifihliweyo lencwadi yakhe yobomi.
Ubume bobuRoma
Ukuziphatha komntu kumntu kubangela i-hormone testosterone. Ewe, nguye onoxanduva lokulala ngesondo. Zonke ziyaxhunyiwe. Kuphuhlisiwe ukuze loo mfana aqale ukufuna intombazana, ngoko, ukuziphatha kakuhle. Njani "ngendlela efanelekileyo"? Impendulo ilula: njengoko ichazwe kumaphephancwadi, iboniswa kwilayi-movie. Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba buhlungu ngayo isiqingatha sesetyhini, asizange kuve, kodwa emva kokufumana ubuhle, ukuthanda intando ngokukhawuleza kwandula. Emva koko, kuba yinto engadingekile de kubekho umenzi wesicelo olandelayo.
Kule minyaka, ukwabiwa kwe-testosterone kunciphisa kwaye umntu akanako ukuziqhayisa ngokuthanda kwakhe kwangaphambili kwizenzo zakhe kwintando yakhe.
Ngokumalunga nabasetyhini kunye nesimo sabo sothando, ingcambu yazo zonke ezi zi-estrogen. I-hormone eyenza uvakalelo lokuzineliseka, ubudlelwane nabanye, ubomi ngokubanzi.
Khumbula ukuba umntu ngamnye uyingqayizivele kwaye kwimeko yomdlali wezemidlalo, umakhi womzimba akafanele angayithinteli izinga lokuthandana kwakhe. Akunabantu ababeka ingcamango yokuba "romance" ibe enye intsingiselo efanayo. Ngoko ke, abasetyhini besabela kwisicelo sokuchaza indlela yokutshatyalaliswa kwintando yokukhankanya uhambo ukuya kwidlateralitha, isidlo kwisitoretri, isipho esihle, njl njll. Amadoda-abaleke kwimpucuko, ubomi bentsapho ententeni encinci.