Ulwalamano olukhululekile phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi okanye abantu besini esifanayo kuya kuba yindawo eqhelekileyo. Iintanethi zentlalo, izingosi zokuthandana kwenza kube lula ukufumana umlingane olwalamano ngaphandle kwembopheleleko, ukuzama ukukhula kwamakhondo aphezulu akushiyi ixesha lobudlelwane obukhulu-ezi zizinto ezikhoyo zanamhlanje.
Kuthetha ukuthini "ubudlelwane obukhululekile"?
Ulwalamano olukhululekile - iingqondo zenkcazo ichaza le ngxaki njengomnqweno onxulumene nabantu ababini ukwakha ubudlelwane babo ngaphandle kokubophelelana. Ulwalamano olunyanisekileyo apho yonke into "ecacileyo" kwaye iyaqondakala, engabandakanyi amabango, umona kunye nomnqweno wokuba neqabane elingatshatanga. Emazweni amaninzi, apho iindlela zentsapho zihlala khona kwaye ezo zithethe zigcinwa, ubudlelwane be-intanethi bubangelwa kwaye bangela ukugwetywa.
Ulwalamano lwentsapho olukhululekile
Ulwalamano olukhululekile emtshatweni awunqabile kakhulu kuluntu lwangoku. Umtshato womtshato awubhaliswanga kwaye uhlala kuphela ekuthembeleni phakathi kwamalingani, akukho nto ikhusela iqabane ukuba liguquke nanoma yimuphi umzuzu kwaye ihambe, ayibophelwa nayiphi na imbopheleleko. Kwenzeka ke ngoko, emva kweminyaka emininzi yomtshato womtshato, isibini sinquma ukubhalisa ubudlelwane babo ngokusemthethweni, kwaye asidluli kwaye baqhawula umtshato iminyaka. Leyo ngxaki. Ivakalelo inkululeko idibaniseneyo, kwaye ukutshintshela kwimo yegosa kukhokelela ekubhujisweni.
Ngaba kufuneka ndilungele ubuhlobo obuvulekile?
Indlela yokuqonda ubudlelwane obuvulekileyo nokuba ngaba kufanelekile ukungena kuwo? Olu khetho lomntu ngamnye. Kufanelekile ukucinga, ukuvavanya iingenelo kunye nokungahambi kakuhle kobudlelwane ngaphandle kwembopheleleko, kwaye ukuba ngaba okwangoku oko "ugqirha obekwe", kutheni? Kubalulekile ukunika phambi kokuba sibophezeleke ukuba singabi nokwahlula, ngokobuhlobo obukhululekile umntu unokufumana uvuyo kunye namava amatsha.
Ulwalamano olukhululekile - ubuchule kunye neengxaki
Ulwalamano olukhululekile ngaphandle koxanduva olunjengezinye iimeko zentlalo zinemiba yabo emihle neyiyo. Iinkonzo zobudlelwane bobukhulu:
- inkululeko ngamnye umntu ngokwakhe;
- Akukho ukuvalwa (kuxhomekeka) komnye nomnye, ngaphandle kokuba bobabini abalingani banelisekile ngokulinganayo kwaye banelisekile ngokobuhlobo obunjalo;
- Akukho mntu uhlawula mntu kumntu;
- bobabini abalingani banokuba nolunye ulwalamano;
- akukho zikhalazo malunga nomnye.
Iimigodi zobudlelwane ngaphandle koxanduva kubangelwa ama-pluses angentla kunye nama-nuances alandelayo:
- Ulwalamano olukhululekile lwakhiwe kwicandelo lezesondo (ukukhanga, inzondelelo), malunga nothando apha aluhambanga;
- ukugwetywa kwabathandekayo, abahlobo, uluntu - olu hlobo ludlelane luhlala luthiwa;
- ukuhlula;
- maxa wambi ukutsalwa komlingani omnye kuthanda, ngaphandle kokuphindaphinda, kunye nokuphuka kuya kuba buhlungu ngenxa yothando.
Ulwalamano olukhululekile kwabasetyhini
Kutheni umfana efuna ulwalamano lwamahhala kwaye aze abe ngumntu okhulileyo akalwela ukuqina kunye noxanduva, nto leyo eyona nto isisiseko sobuhlobo obunzulu. Ngokwengxenye, le nto ichaza imbono yesithembu - indoda iyazama ukuba namaqabane amaninzi, oku kuhlobo lwakhe. Kwintombi, ubudlelwane bunokuba lunomdla kwaye bukhangele ekuqaleni, xa iimvakalelo zingachazwanga, kukho kuphela ukukhangwa kwezinto zokuphila. Ngokungafani namadoda, ibhinqa isidalwa esisigxina, kwaye kubalulekile ukuba azive ekhuselwe, ukuba ubudlelwane obukhululekile abukwazi ukunikela ngokupheleleyo.
Indlela yokudlulisa ubudlelwane obukhululekile kwiintsebenziswano ezinzulu?
Indoda inikeza ubudlelwane obuvulekile kwiimeko ezininzi:
- akalungele ulwalamano olunzulu;
- kusandul
- yileli candelo leendoda zamadoda;
- Umsebenzi wakhe uthatha ixesha elininzi kwaye akukho nhlobo yolwalamano oluhle;
- unesizungu kwaye akadalwanga ukuba ubuhlobo obusondeleyo.
Kuzo zonke iimeko kuya kuba nzima ukulawula ubudlelwane obukhululekile kwindlela elungileyo, ngokungafanekiyo xa utshintsho luvela ngokwemvelo, kubalulekile ukuba uzame kakhulu kwaye imizamo ayifanele ibe nzima. Iingcebiso zengqondo zengqondo indlela yokuzisa ubudlelwane kumgangatho omtsha, owona mkhulu:
- ukuzisa iqabane kwintetho, bathethe ngeemvakalelo zabo ngaye, ngelixa bengasombululanga kuye, bengayisebenzisi;
- ukumnika ithuba lokwenza isigqibo;
- ukuba ingxoxo engathethiyo ayizange incede, kubalulekile ukufumana isizathu sokuba indoda ifune ukushiya yonke into, ukuphulaphula iingxabano zakhe;
- qalisa ukutshintsha nokuyeka ukugxila ekulindeni kwamadoda, ukujongana neengxaki zabo, ukuzithemba ngokuzenzekelayo - umfazi okwaneleyo unomdla kakhulu kumntu, lo akafuni ukulahleka, kuba yena, kwaye ekhula, ukhula.
Ungathini ukuba awufuni ubuhlobo obuvulekile?
Iimeko ziqhelekileyo xa intombazana ibuza umbuzo kwiingqungquthela zengqondo okanye zentombi: "Lo mfana wenza ubuhlobo obuvulekile, ndiyathanda kakhulu, kodwa ndifuna ngaphezulu." Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Ukunyaniseka ukuthetha malunga nale nto ekuqaleni, ungakheli ukukholelwa ukuba ngoncedo lwezesondo ungabamba iqabane lakho. Ehlabathini kukho umntu onokulinganayo.
Indlela yokuphelisa ubuhlobo obuvulekileyo?
Ukuphulwa kobudlelwane be-free kwi-initiative yowesifazane yinto eqhelekileyo, amadoda ayilungiselela ubudlelwane obunjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha umfazi uyavuma ukuba nomntu ngokwemigaqo yakhe, enethemba lokuba uya kukwazi "ukuqhayisa" ukuba uya kuba ngumxhomekeke kuye, kodwa oku akukwenzekayo, udidekile kwaye akukho nto esele iyenze kodwa makumvumele ahambe. Indlela yokuphulukana nobudlelwane obukhululekileyo obungabonakaliyo, iingcebiso:
- uvumele ixesha lokuhlupheka;
- Gweba nayiphi na inxibelelwano: ungaphenduli iifowuni, imiyalezo, ungahlangani;
- zibeka izinto eziphambili, zibone ukubaluleka kokwakha ubudlelwane obudibeneyo kwisibini esithile apho amaqabane axabana kwaye alungele ukudala intsapho epheleleyo;
- ukuba ulwalamano luye lwaxhomekeka kwaye lukhuni ukulugqiba lufanelekile ukucela uncedo kwi-psychologist.
Ungayifumana njani iqabane lomtshato?
Ukuthandana nobudlelwane obukhululekile buyathandwa kakhulu kubantu bakuphi na ubudala. Fumana iqabane elifanelekileyo alinzima. "Iqela lobudlelwano bobukhulu" kunye neendawo ezifanayo zokuthandana zingatholakala kwi-intanethi. Iziza ezininzi, amaqela ekuthintela kwiintlalo zentlalo zixhaphakileyo zinobuhlobo obunjalo bokukhetha iqabane okanye iqabane kwiintlanganiso.
Iifilimu malunga nobudlelwane be mahala
Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, iimpawu zitshintsha, kwaye ukuba umtshato wangaphambili wawuyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobudlelwane obudibeneyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, namhlanje akuyona nto ephambili, abantu abatsha bazama ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwembopheleleko, kunye nabalingani abatshatileyo bazama inkululeko. "Ulwalamano olukhululekile" - ifilimu ngumlawuli waseJamani uMnuz Herling malunga nabahlobo, abahlobo beentsapho. Ubomi bemihla ngemihla kunye nexesha eliqhelekileyo banqande ubungqina babo kwiintsebenziswano kunye nabayeni banquma ukwenza "pepper" - ukutshintshana nabafazi. Yintoni eya kuza kuyo, unokufumana ngokujonga lo comedy.
Ezinye iifilimu malunga nokukhululeka, akukho buhlobo obunyanzelekileyo:
- " Abahlobo Bemivuzo ". UJamie, umlingisi ophambili uphosa umfana, kungekhona okokuqala, kunye noDylan, umlingiswa wesibini obalaseleyo, naye, uphosa intombazana ngenxa yokusebenza kwakhe. Bobabini banquma ukuba ubudlelwane obunzulu abukho kubo. UDylan ufika eNew York ukufumana umsebenzi kwindlu enkulu yokushicilela, kwaye kwisikhululo sezindiza uyazi uJamie, isigqeba sale ndlu yokushicilela, ubuhlobo buvela phakathi kwabo, kwaye kukhangela ukukhanga. UJamie uyavumelana ngesondo, kunye nobudlelwane obukhululekile ngaphandle kokuzibophezela, uDylan uyamxhasa kulo.
- " Intsha / Ubutsha ". Ukuqhelwaniswa nge-intanethi , ezele iziza kunye nezicelo zokukhetha iqabane - kwaba lula ukukwazi kunye neprosaic. Kulula kakhulu: ukudibana, ukulala kunye kunye nokungabikho ukwahlukana, imizamo eyahlukileyo kwindlela yokutshatyalaliswa ayilindelekanga kule nto. UGab noMartin badibana nesicelo baza bagqiba ukuchitha ubusuku ndawonye ngaphandle kokubala ngokuqhubekayo, kodwa into ethile yabanjana.
- " Ngaphezu kwezesondo / Akukho zikhonkwane ezixhaswe ". UAdam no-Emma badibana neminyaka eyi-15 edlulileyo, kodwa ubuhlobo babo ngexesha langekwenzeka. UAdam uhamba ukusuka kwelinye ibhede ukuya kwelinye, kwaye emva kokuthumela ngokugqithiseleyo imilayezo kunye nomnqweno wokuchitha ixesha kuzo zonke iintombi zakhe zithumela umyalezo onjalo noEmma. Badibana kwaye badibanise kwiintlalontle zesini esingaxhatshali esekelwe kwi-physiology kuphela. Ababoni ukugwenxa kwaye bakholelwa ukuba bafuna omnye komnye kuphela ngesondo kuphela. Ngaba kunjalo?