Ngokuqhelekileyo sidibanisa iingcinga zobulumko nengqondo. Ibhinqa elizilumko kunye nomfazi onobuqili akafani ngokufanayo. Ngamanye amaxesha umfazi ohlakaniphile ufumana kunzima ukufihla ingqondo yakhe xa kuyimfuneko (ewe, kwaye oku kwenzeka). Ingqondo ixhomekeke kwingcamango, kwaye ubulumko akahlali njalo. Ubulumko bowesifazane bubunzulu kunengqondo yomntu, lo ulwazi olufihlakeleyo alufumana ngobisi lukanina, kwaye ngubani oqokelela amava aneminyaka emdala ebuhlotsheni. Akusikho into yokuba isaga saseMpuma yasendulo ithi: "Abasetyhini bazinzululwazi ngokwemvelo, amadoda avela kwiincwadi". Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba ibhinqa elumkileyo lifuna ukuzalwa. Ngokwezinga elithile, kunjalo, okwenyaniso, oko akuthethi ukuba awukwazi ukusebenzisa iimfihlelo ukuba ibhinqa elumkileyo lisetyenziselwe iinkulungwane.
Makhe sithethe malunga nobulumko bowesifazane: ebuhlotsheni, ukwakha intsapho kunye nobomi obonwabileyo. Oko kunika ilungelo lokubizwa ngokuba ngumfazi oyisilumko, kunye nokuba njani.
Imfihlelo nemithetho yowesifazane oyingqondi
- Enye yemigaqo ephambili kukuba: ibhinqa elizilumko alinyuli umntu onethemba lokutshintsha. Unokwenza kwakhona iingubo (kwaye ke, into enobungozi kakhulu), kodwa unokutshintsha umntu kuphela indlela - uguqula wena. Owesifazane ozilumkileyo uyakuthanda, eyazi ukuba zombini iingubo zilingani kunye nomntu onempawu ezifanelekileyo.
- Imfihlelo yesibini yowesifazane ozilumkileyo akufanele ithathe ilinen ecocekileyo kwi-hut. Uyakuqonda ukuba, ngoxa abahlobo bamxhatshaza kumyeni wakhe, uyazibetha, kuba intsapho yinto enye.
- Ibhinqa elumkileyo liyabathanda kwaye liyavuma. Umnqweno wakhe wokugqwesa akuyona umzabalazo, kodwa indlela yokwazi uthando lwakho.
- Ibhinqa elizilumko alisoloko libonisa ingqondo yakhe, uyakwazi ukusebenzisa isixhobo esiyinqobo - ubuthathaka, kwaye ayiqhubeki malunga namahomoni. Uyazi ukuba ziphi ixesha lokulinda, kwaye ziphi na izihlandlo zokusebenza. Uphantse angathembeli kwintyala yendoda, eyazi ukuba uthando nothando luxabiseke kakhulu.
- Ibhinqa elizilumko alisigxina ekubuleleni, kungekhona ukuthatha zonke iimpawu ezintle njengoko kunikwe. Emva komntu onjalo uthuthuka, uzive efanelekileyo. Kwaye ukunyaniseka okunyanisekileyo kumenza ukuba enze izinto ezintsha.
- Umfazi osisilumko akayi kutshabalalisa kwindoda yakhe. Uyaqonda ukuba, xa ichithwa, ushukela wenza itiye epholileyo, kodwa akukho mntu uyayikhumbula. Umfazi osisilumko usoloko engumntu onomdla: kumyeni wakhe, nakwabanye, kwaye, okokuqala, yena ngokwakhe.
- Ibhinqa elumkileyo lizinikele kubantwana. Uyaqonda into emele ibe ngumzekelo wabantu abonwabileyo nabanomdla kubo. Njengoko unina unxanela ukuba ngumntu onomdla kunye nabantwana bakhe.
- Owesifazane ozilumkileyo, nguyena abathethayo- "intamo". Kuphi na ukujika, kubonakala kwaye "intloko" (umyeni). Umfazi onjalo unako ukunyusa umyeni wakhe kwizigqibo ukwenzela ukuba angaboni nayiphi na ingcinezelo evela kwicala lakhe.
- Umfazi ozilumkileyo uyaqonda ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka umntu abe yedwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo amantombazana ayengenangqondo, evakalelwa kukuba umyeni kuthiwa uyahamba nabo. Bazama ukudibana, ukucaphuka, ukuba umntu akafuni ukuxoxa ngezizathu. Indlela eziphatha ngayo isilumko
ibhinqa: uyakwazi ukulinda, eyazi ukuba ngamanye amaxesha umntu uvale ngaphakathi kwakhe, kwaye akaceli ngenxa yokuba umfazi akhathalele ngaye, kodwa kuba ngokunyanisekileyo akafuni ukubeka iimbopheleleko zakhe ezinzima. Ibhinqa elumkileyo liyakuxabisa oku. - Njengomntu osisilumko, uyaqonda ukuba bobabini ubudlelwane kunye nomsebenzi, into ephambili ayikubonakalisa ubukhulu bakhe, kodwa ukukwazi ukudala ummandla wothando kunye nenduduzo.
Ibhinqa kufuneka ibe nobulumko ukuze uvuyiswe. Ingqondo ayisoloko ikhokelela kulonwabo, kodwa ubulumko yindlela eya kuyo! Kwaye kuyamangalisa kangakanani ukuba owesifazane ozilumkileyo akavumelekanga ukuba abe sisithulu!