Esi sitratweni imimoya iyinto enyanyekayo, abantu bayabuhlungu, bahamba ngeenyawo ebhasi, kwaye emva kwimibuzo yomsebenzi malunga nokuba kutheni iimeko ezinjalo ezimbi. Yaye yintoni enokuyithokozela into - ubomi buphonsa izinto ezimangalisayo! Kwaye ke apha sihamba, sikhubekisa, sifumane impendulo endaweni yokumomotheka. Kodwa akunakwenzeka, umntu wadalwa ukuze abe nolonwabo. Ngoko kufuneka ufunde indlela yokuzonwabisa ubomi kunye nendlela yokuzonwabisa ngayo.
Indlela yokubuyisela uvuyo lobomi?
Ngokubanzi, umbuzo wendlela yokufunda ukunandipha ubomi uphilile. Wonke umntu unako ukunandipha ubomi, ezinye zazo zilahlekelwe izakhono zazo. Futhi musa ukuphikisana - ubuncinane ebuntwaneni obude sonke savuya kwaye savuya yonke imihla emitsha. Ngoko ke, kuya kuchaneka ukujonga indlela yokubuyisela uvuyo lobomi, indlela yokubuyisela kwakhona.
- Ukuqala, khumbula ukuba awuhlali njani ufana nebhobhothi, ukwenza ngokuzenzekelayo izenzo eziyimfuneko. Ixesha apho wawukholisa iiklasi zakho.
- Ku khunjulwa? Luhlobo luni lwexesha: ubuncinci buntwaneni, ixesha lothando lokuqala, ukufunda eyunivesithi, iminyaka yokuqala yomtshato?
- Ngoku khawucinge ukuba yintoni eyatshintshile ukususela ngoko, kutheni ngoku awuqapheli uvuyo oluncinane lobomi. Ngoku uhamba nomsebenzi ongathandekiyo, uyeke ukuthanda umyeni wakho, ngenxa yazo zonke izifo ezide ezibangele ukudandatheka? Iyintoni na into, yintoni eyenza ukuba utyhefu ubomi?
- Musa nje ukuthobela ibinzana elithi "le nto ebuntwaneni kwakungekho nkxalabo, yingakho kukho uvuyo oluninzi", ubomi bomntu abadala akuthethi nje kuphela umqhele wegreyati kunye nesisiganeko. Ubuncinane ubheka oogogo babo, banezizathu ezininzi zokudabuka (ezininzi izifo, umhlalaphantsi omncinci, abantwana bavakashele kangangoko), kodwa abaninzi babo banganika abantu abaselula ukuba bajabule. Ngoko ubudala abukwazi ukuba yimbono yesimo esibuhlungu ebomini.
- Mhlawumbi uthathe isigqibo sokuba uvuyiswa njengomntwana. Ewe, yintoni eyayiyintoni, into engekhoyo ngoku? Emva koko bonke banikezelwa ngabazali, kwaye akudingeki wenze izigqibo zakho, ngaba ucinga ukuba le nto isibambiso senjabulo? Ngokuqinisekileyo, hayi, malunga nemibono yakho yemihla ngemihla. Njengomntwana, ngokuqinisekileyo wayesazi indlela yokuzonwabisa ngezinto ezintle zobomi - i-candy ecoliweyo, isibhakabhaka esibhakabhakeni kunye nekiti, ukugijima ngokukhawuleza emva kwebhathaneli. Ngoko ukukuvimba ngoku kukunandipha okufanayo, okanye isibhakabhaka sinokutshintsha umbala, iipesele asisekho mnandi, kwaye ama-kittens awayekho? Inokwenzeka ukuba, uxakeke kakhulu ngezikhalazo malunga nobomi obungaziboni nkxwaleko ukubheka ubu buhle.
- Ewe, ngoku unentsapho, usebenza kwaye unakekele ukuba kwakungekho ngaphambili. Kodwa kukho nezovuyo zobomi bentsapho, ngaba uyalilibala ngokwenene? Awazi ukuba uyayonwabela njani impumelelo yakho okanye izinto ezincinane ezifana nezulu elihle? Emva koko ujabule ngomyeni wakho nakubantwana bakho, kuba kuyintsikelelo yokuba bahlakaniphile kwaye bahle.
- Ungaqala njani ukuzonwabisa ubomi? Ukufunda ukucinga ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kuba iingcamango zethu zifumana ukucinga kwazo kwihlabathi eliphathekayo. Yaye ukuba ucinga ukuba ummelwane ungumntu ongeyena, intloko inomdla kwaye umntu ongekho sikweni, abahlobo banokuzimela, umyeni uyisidlo, kunye nabo bonke abantu emhlabeni bahlaziyekile, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uya kufumana okungaphezulu kokuqinisekisiweyo kokuqaphela kwakho. Zama ukukholelwa ukuba uhlala phakathi kwabantu abalungileyo kwihlabathi, kuba oku kunjalo kunjalo. Ewe, zonke zinemiphumo, kodwa jonga izinto ezilungileyo ezi bantu. Uya kumangaliswa ukwazi ukuba unobhala ubuncinane isingxobo, kodwa umntu onomusa oya kukuxhasa ngokuqinisekileyo kumzuzu onzima, ukuba uyamvumela. Abantwana bakho, nangona badibana, banamakhono abanamakhono, kwaye ngezinye iinkhathi umyeni unokuba novila, kodwa uyakuthanda kunye nabantwana kwaye akazange afune "ukushiya" ixesha lonke lobomi bakhe kunye.
Kuzo zonke izinto, khangela iinkonzo, ngoko uvuyo aluyi kukugcina ulinde. - Ukuze ube yimpumelelo, kufuneka ube nezicwangciso zobomi, uhambe ngokuthe ngqo kwiinjongo ezibekwe. Oku kuyinyaniso, kodwa ungabi ekulandeleni ikusasa ukulibala malunga nelikhoyo. Zibophe ngcamango yokuba kwiminyaka emi-5 uya kuba yintloko yebebe, kwaye abantwana baya kwiyunivesithi ehloniphekileyo, kodwa khumbula ukuba uhlala ngoku, kwakhona, kufuneka. Ngaphandle koko, uya kuba yintoni kwiminyaka emihlanu ukususela ngoku? Ngendawo efanelekileyo kunye nabantwana abahleliweyo, kodwa ngokuphazamiseka kwemihlaba kunye nokunyuka kwezifo ezingapheliyo. Yaye ukuba awufundi ukuzinikela ixesha kwaye ujabulele okwangoku, kuya kuba njalo.