Wonke umntu uyaqonda ukubaluleka kwedumela, okokuqala, emva kokuba ufuna abantu bamthembe. Kodwa, njengokuba uyazi, akunakwenzeka ukwenza oko. Ukuze abantu bakuthembele, badinga ukuqinisekiswa ukuba abayi kukhohliswa. Okubaluleke kakhulu, isiqinisekiso esibaluleke kakhulu sisoloko sibizwa ngokuba ngumntu. Kwaye ukuze ufumane uluvo oluhle lomntu okanye iqela labantu malunga nawe, kufuneka uphendule yonke into ebeyithandayo, kwaye ungabi ngumntu ongenakuziphendulela.
Kodwa, kuthekani ukuba ibinzana elithi "idumela elibi" lichaza ngokuchanekileyo ukuhluleka kwakho kweli nqanaba ngexesha? Makhe sithethe ngalokhu ngokubanzi.
Udumo olugcinwe
Ubume besaziwa ngamagama anjenge "mfanekiso", "qhubeka", " igunya ", njl. Kuyo wonke umntu. Kubonakala kuye xa eqala ukungena kuluntu. Idumela elihle lokufumana okokuqala kunzima kakhulu. Kuthatha ixesha. Enye into, idumela elibi. Ibinzana elinye okanye isenzo esincinci, esenziwa ngexesha elingafanelekiyo, kungekhona nalabo bantu kunye nelo lixa, lingangcolisa ubuntu bakho. Ngokuxhomekeka, nithi, ekubandezelweni kwayo, kunokubakho ubunzima ebomini bakho, umzekelo, nokwakhiwa komsebenzi ophumeleleyo okanye kwindawo ehlala kuluntu.
Ubuninzi bubonakala njengesiseko sobomi bakho boluntu. Ngenxa yoko, idumela elibi liyisiseko esisemgangathweni. Umntu ngamnye uya kuba nelithuba lokugqibela ekuhluphekeni, ngokukodwa abantu abanomdla abasetyenziselwa ukuhlala bephezulu kwizinto zonke.
Ukuba, ngenxa yesizathu esithile, idumela lakho ngokukhawuleza liba mnyama, ungadikibala. Oku akusikuphela kobomi. Akunangqondo ukuzibetha ebunzini ngenxa yeephosiso ezenziwe kunye nokuzithemba ngokweqile. Thatha ngesandla, hlawulela umoya wakho, kwaye ulandela le ngcebiso engezantsi, uhlambulule idumela lakho lokungcola.
Indlela yokubuyisela idumela lakho?
- Okokuqala, kufuneka uhlalise. Ukulahla nayiphi na indlela enokuthula kuyo evela kwiimvakalelo ezingekho phantsi. Zama ukuhlalutya imeko ukusuka kwicala, eliye lenza ukungcola kwedumela lakho. Yiba nenjongo. Akukho mzekelo ungalahla imbangela yesiganeko kwiimeko, njl. Cwaninga nje ukuba uyasombulula ingxaki yeemathematika: ngezenzo, kuquka nemibuzo, inkcazelo, uthinte umsebenzi wokuvavanya kwaye usebenze kwiimpazamo zakho.
- Ngaphambi kokuba ubonise abanye ukufaneleka kwakho, qaphela iimpazamo zakho, uqonde kakuhle ityala lakho, zixolele. Inkqubo yokubuyiselwa kwedumela ifuna ukuzithemba, ukunyaniseka phambi kwabo babeka ithemba labo kuwe.
- Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba le nkqubo yokubuyisela igama lakho elihle ngumntu ngamnye. Kodwa kukho ezinye iingongoma ezinokuba yinto yokuxhasa.
- Ukuba kuyimfuneko, vumela abanye ukuba uyiphutha, uxolise. Ukuxolisa kufuneka kulungiswe. Cinga ngoku kwaye ukhethe ukukhetha ukuphuma kwimeko. Nika isithembiso esinyanisekileyo sokuba oku akuyi kuphinda kwenzeke kwakhona.
- Ukwandisa uxanduva lwakho nokuzinikezela. Abantu banokungabaza, ngoko yenza konke okusemandleni ukwenzela ukuba inani lezenzo ezilungileyo liqhubekele phambili.
Ungalibali ukuba idumela lisekelwe kukunyaniseka, kuthemba.
Indlela yokufumana idumela?
Ezi zinto zilandelayo ziya kusebenza ngokuqinisekileyo:
- Ukuba ucelwa into, yenza le nto njengenye yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu. Naka ingqalelo kwizinto ezincinci, ezikuqala ukuba zingabonakali.
- Yiya kudibana nabantu. Umzekelo, ukuba, emva kokuphela komsebenzi wakho wosuku, umphathi wakho ucela ukuba wenze into ethile, impendulo yakho efanelekileyo kule akhawunti iya kudlala ngokuzayo.
- Hlala uhlonipha kwaye ulungele nabanye. Ngokomzekelo, zizalisekisa izithembiso kumaqabane akho kunye nabathengi, nanjengabancinci.
Khumbula ukuba akulula ukufumana idumela elihle, kodwa umphumo unelungelo lomzamo.