Ngokwezibalo, ukusuka ku-1 kuya kwi-2% yabemi bayakha ubudlelwane (ubuhlobo kunye nobudlelwane), ukuxhaphaza iqabane labo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, izinto zokuxhaphaza azikrokreli ukuba zingaphantsi komnqweno womnye umntu kwaye zenza ngokuhambelana neminqweno yakhe, zikhohlwa zona, malunga neemfuno zabo neemfuno zabo. Ngaphezu koko, nangona emva kokuphuka, into yokuxhaphaza ayive ikhululekile. Kunoko, ngokuchasene noko, abantu abanjalo bathandana kakhulu kunye nabo kunye neenyanga ezininzi kunye neminyaka bazive benothando olukhulu ngomntu obaphatha.
Ingozi yobudlelwane esekelwe ekusebenziseni ukuphathwa ngukuthi omnye wabalingani uyanyanzelekile ukuba acingisise ukuba nguye omele uxanduva lweengxaki ezivela kwinkqubo yokusebenzisana. Uvakalelwa kakhulu, unemizwa engakhiyo, kodwa akayikucinga ukuba iziganeko zangempela zezinto ezenzekayo. Kule nqaku, sibhala iimpawu zendalo zobuqhetseba, esithemba ukuba ziya kukunceda ubone iinkalo ezingekho phantsi kwexesha lobudlelwane, kwakunye neendlela zokukhusela amava okukhusela. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ngamanye amaxesha abo abangabonakaliyo ngokulawulwa kwengqondo bangakwazi ukuqonda amacandelo okuphatha. Nanku kuya kuba ngokuthe ngqo ngempembelelo yengqondo, xa isifundo, njengomdlalo wekhadi wamakhondo, senza ngamabomu isicwangciso esifanelekileyo.
Enye yezindlela eziqhelekileyo ezisetyenziswe ngabaphathi-mbonakalo kukutshintshwa okanye ukuphazamiseka kolwazi: "Yonke into ayiphumelekanga ...", "Ingaba usengqondweni yakho?". Umgcini wesikhombisi uyaphika inyaniso ekhankanywe ngumlingane wakhe, ngaloo ndlela uphoqa omnye ukuba angazithembi, kwimpilo yakhe yengqondo, uyaphambukisa umfanekiso wezinto ezenzekayo. Ukumelana nale fomu yokulawulwa kwengqondo, kuyimfuneko ukugcina idayari nokuchaza ngokubanzi yonke imicimbi eyenzekayo. Kukwacetyiswa ukuba uxoxe ngezinto ezenzekayo kunye nezihlobo okanye isazi sengqondo.
Kuba i-manipulator iyavela ekuphikeleni ityala labo. Akaze avume ukuba wayephosakele. Abantu abanjalo baya kukugweba naziphi na izenzo ezimbi ukuze ulahlekelwe uxanduva. Ngokomzekelo, osebenza nabo basebenze umbuzo wakho kwimveliso xa izikhombisi zabo zihlala ziphantsi. Ukuze ungathathi ixesha lakho, sincoma ukuba singangeni ekuxabaneni nabantu abanjalo.
Kwimiqathango yokuphathwa ngokukhawuleza, esi sifundo sivame ukunyanisekisa iimvakalelo zakhe. Injongo yale mpawu ukubonisa omnye ekukhanyeni okubi, ukwenza ukuba azive njengomntu ongendawo. Ngokomzekelo, kwimeko apho uzama ukucacisa ukuba awuyithandi into ethile, ukuphendulelwa kwe-provocator kungenzeka ukuba: "Ngoko, ndingumntu obi. Ngoko ucinga? ". Ngamaxesha amaninzi amazwi anjalo angabonakaliswa kwifom ekhuselekileyo, ukwenzela ukuba anganikeli into yokuxhaphaza ithuba lokwenza nayiphi na imibono kumcebisi.
Khumbula ukuba kulula kakhulu ukuthobela umntu ngentando yakhe, encike ngokupheleleyo kwiqabane. Ngoko ke, enye yemisebenzi ephambili yabantu abanjalo kukulawula ixesha, imo kunye nemvakalelo yolu hlobo. Kancinci, esi sifundo siya kugxininisa ingqalelo kuwe kuphela, kukubeka ekuxhomekeke kwishedyuli yexesha lakhe, zama ukuqiniseka ukuba usuka kwintsapho okanye ngabahlobo abasondeleyo. Izenzo zakho zokuzilibazisa, oko kwakunokukuvuyisa ngaphambili kuya kubizwa. Ekugqibeleni, uza kuchitha ixesha njengoko i-manipulator ifuna. Kwakhona, uya kubuza into ekunika uvuyo kunye neemvakalelo ezintle kwaye wabelane ngomsebenzi wokuzilibazisa we-manipulator.
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ukuphathwa kwengqondo, nangona kungabonakali ukubonakaliswa kwangaphandle, kunokuchaphazela impilo yakho. Kulula kakhulu ukuchonga ubudlelwane obungekho emgangathweni xa usongelo lwendalo lufumene. Zikele wena, iimvakalelo zakho namava. Ukwazi izicwangciso zokususa nokulawula, kuya kukunceda ufumane abantu abathembekileyo kwaye ubathintele ukuba bangene ebomini bakho.