Awukwazi ukuyila intliziyo. Phantse ngoko zilungele ngokwabo bonke abo bahluphekileyo abagqiba ukuthandana nomntu otshatileyo. Imiba yala mabhinqa, njengommiselo, iyafana, njengokuba ibhalwe phantsi kwephepha lekhabhoni. Ekuqaleni kwakukho intlonelo, "umoya kwaye uvumeleke ukuba kubekho umntu othile," kwaye emva koko kufika ukuqonda, kwaye nganye yesibini izama ukuthatha isinyathelo emva. Kodwa kuvela akusiyo yonke into. Indlela yokwahlula nendoda esatshatileyo kwaye ungayenzi kwakhona kule mivuzo? Le sihloko esiza kuxoxa ngayo namhlanje.
Ukuqhagamshelana nomntu otshatileyo kunye nawo onke amanqaku
Okokuqala, zama ukujongana namadoda ngokwawo. Namhlanje, into yokuba ummi otshatileyo unxibelelwano kwicala, akukho mntu uyamangalisa. Ubuqhetseba kwiimeko ezininzi zixolelwe ngabafazi, kwaye intsapho iyaqhubeka iphila, ngokungathi akukho nto iyenzekayo. Kodwa kukho umbuzo owodwa ongeke uphumle ngesini esilungileyo - kutheni indoda esatshatileyo inkosikazi? Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi wonke umntu onendima yale nkosikazi, ukuze angayi kuhlazisa nayiphi na ithemba.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, sijwayele ukucinga ukuba indoda iyaxhomekeka xa intsapho ingekho kakuhle. Ngokuqinisekileyo, le nto iyenzeka. Kodwa zikho ezinye izizathu ezikhuthaza isiqingatha esinamandla sabantu ukuba siye "ngakwesobunxele":
- Ekuqaleni kwexesha elithile ebomini kunye kunye nomfazi wakhe, phantse wonke umntu uqala ukucinga ukuba sele ekhulile, kwaye akayi kuba nomdla kubafazi. Ukuzibonakalisa ukuba yena "u-oh-go-go" kunye nentsha entliziyweni nasemzimbeni, umyeni uqala ukukhangela uxhumano kwicala. Ukongeza kwi-self-confirmation, akayi kulandela nayiphi na injongo.
- Iingxaki zesicwangciso esithandana nomfazi wakhe. Iimeko ezinjalo zenzeka. Injongo yendoda enjalo ukwanelisa iimfuno zakhe nangayiphi indlela
- Iqhinga elibangela igazi ukuba likhuphe i-adrenaline. Ukuvakalelwa kwintsha, ukunyuka kokuzithemba, ukutshintsha kwimeko, ukunyangwa kombhiyozo uluhlu olungaphelelanga lwendlela abantu ababalekela ngayo rhoqo intsapho.
Kuzo zonke izizathu, amadoda, ngokungaqhelekanga, aqhubeke nokuthanda abafazi bawo kwaye ushiye imindeni ayiyi kuhamba. Yingakho kubonisa ukuba ungamthandi umntu onjalo, kwaye akunamsebenzi. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba uthando lomntu otshatileyo sele selunendawo yokuhlala? Emva kwakho konke, mhlawumbi wayengazi nokuba uyindoda yentsapho kwaye wayenexesha lokumanyanisa. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uziqonde kwaye ufunde ukwahlula abameli besondo esinamandla, ukwenzela ukuba ungenzi iphutha elidala.
Kuthekani ukuba indoda isatshatile?
Ukuba wonke umntu otshatileyo kufuneka ahlukane kwaye ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka ukuba aqondwe yiyo yonke inkosikazi. Ukuba nethemba lokuba uya kushiya intsapho ngenxa yolwalamano olutsha, ubuncinane, lubuqili kwaye luyize. Kodwa indlela yokuphosa indoda esatshatileyo, ukuba kuye akukho kuphela uvelwano, kodwa nokuba nomsindo uye wabonakala? Unokwenza oku kumanyathelo amaninzi. Kwaye kufuneka uqale, ngokuqinisekileyo, kunye nawe:
- Ukuzikhethela ukuba awusayi kuba yinto yokudlala kwizandla zomntu otshatileyo, ube nesibindi sokumxelela oku ngamehlo akho. Bhala isicatshulwa ephepheni, ume kwaye uhlaziye phambi kwesibuko, kodwa yenza konke ukwenza amazwi akho athembeke kwaye akholise. Umsebenzi wakho kukunyamezela iimvakalelo zakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umthandi wakho uphatha njani, ungakhethi "ukutshatyalaliswa kokusondelana" kunye neendlela ezifanayo. Khumbula ukuba kufuneka ukwazi ukushiya i-movie embi uze uvale incwadi engathandekiyo.
- Iphuzu lesibini ngumphumo weyokuqala. Cima inombolo yakhe, okanye ungcono, kodwa wongeze kwiluhlu olumnyama. Sula iifoto ezidibeneyo kwaye ulahle iidiski nomculo ozithandayo. Wahlala ngexesha elidlulileyo kwaye akukho nto kufuneka ikukhumbuze ngaye.
- Ungakulibala njani umntu otshatileyo, ukuba ungumntu osebenza naye? Iimeko ezinjalo ziqhelekileyo. Ngelishwa, isisombululo esifanelekileyo sokushiya indawo yomsebenzi, ukuxothwa.
- Ungazigcini iingcinga zakho. Fumana into eya kukuphulaphula kunye nenkxaso. Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukuba ube nedayari apho uza kubhala phantsi iingcamango zakho. Ukuba ngaba ibhulogi yakho, ngoko unokuqiniseka ukuba amakhulu amakhulu abathandekayo abakuqala baya kujoyina kwaye baya kukuxhasa ngeengcebiso ezilungileyo.
- Funda ukuzithanda. Njengoko uqeqesho luye lwabonisa, abaninzi abafazi baya kuba ngabafazi abatshatileyo ngenxa yobuncwane babo. Musa ukulindela ukuba umthandi wakho uya kuphuma ngokukhawuleza entloko yakho. Kodwa ungangeni kuzo zonke izinto ezinzulu kwaye ungakhange ujonge umdla olutsha ukulibala eli langaphambili.
Kwakhona, ukwenzela ukuba ungaphinde uphendule iimpazamo ezidlulileyo, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuba ingaqondwa njani ukuba indoda isatshatile: akakuniki inombolo yakhe yasekhaya, inokupheka, igqoke ngaphantsi kweengubo zangaphantsi, iphakamisa isihlalo kwindlu yangasese, ayifuni ukubiza kwaye ikuvimbele ukuba umbize ngokwakhe, uthanda ukulingana ngesondo, unokuphuma ngokukhawuleza kwinetha okanye i-ICQ, eminwe kukho ibhola eliqaqambileyo. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uthembe intuition yakho.
Ukuziphatha komntu otshatileyo kunzima ukuqikelela. Kodwa ukuba uthembele kuwe, awusoze wawela emgxeni wakhe kwakhona. Kukho amadoda amaninzi amahle ehlabathini. Kufuneka nje ukhethe ngokukhethekileyo. Emva koko awusayi kuba neengxaki malunga nendlela yokuphila ngokuhlukana kwindoda esatshatileyo.