Ukuba umntu uphoswa, yile yenye yeempawu zokuwa kwakhe ngothando. Kuphela yindlela yokufumanisa ukuba umntu ulahlekile, kodwa ukuba akukho ndlela yokwenza intanda ethandekayo? Ngaba ufuna iimfihlakalo ezingamangalisa okanye ufuna nje ukutshintsha indlela oziphatha ngayo encinci?
Indlela yokwenza umfana onyantse? Magic iza kunceda!
Ukufuna ukutshintsha into ebomini bethu, siqala ukukhangela iindlela zokufezekisa injongo kwaye kaninzi sijika amehlo ethu kumlingo, sicinga ngendlela encinci. Kodwa oku akunjalo - nantoni na imilingo idinga amandla, kunye nokugxininiswa kuyo yonke inkqubo. Ngoko xa utshisa ikhandlela, ufuna ukutshixa umfana, ucinge ngamadombolo asele efrijini, ngoko ke ubuninzi obunokukufumana kule nxaxheba ngumnqweno wokutya. Ngako oko, ngaphambi kokuba uqalise isenzo, kufuneka uqikelele ngokucacileyo umfanekiso wento ekufuneka yenzeke ngenxa yesithethe. Kwaye akusikho ikamva, kodwa okwangoku, okumele kuvezwe, ngokungathi umnqweno sele usuzalisekile. Ukongezelela, ukudala umlingo wothando kufuneka ube kwinyanga ekhulayo, kunye nenjongo yakhe yokufeza isiko ukugcina imfihlo kubo bonke.
Ngoko, indlela yokwenza umntu othandekayo athande ngayo? Kufuneka uthathe nayiphi na into eyayisesandleni sakhe. Kule nto, amaxesha angama-9 kuyimfuneko ukufunda isalathisi: "Ndikufungela (igama lothandekayo), into yakho kunye nam, zakho iingcinga ngam. Ndiza kum, undilahle, uya kufumana uvuyo kuphela xa unami. " Kufuneka ufihle into efihliweyo ekhaya ukuze kungaboni mntu. Emva kokuba isithethe senziwe, kufuneka uyeke ukucinga ngokuzalisekisa umnqweno, ukholelwa ukuba konke sele kwenzekile. Ewe, ukuze loo mntu abe nexesha lokubhukuda, akufanele umbone iintsuku eziliqela.
Indlela yokwenza umntu alahleke: ingqondo yengqondo
Ukuba uqaphele yonke imilingo "iinqhinga", ngoko kufuneka uguqulele kwizengqondo. Kananjalo uyazi ukwenza umntu olahlekileyo.
Wonke umntu ukhumbula izinja zikaPavlov kunye nezimo zabo zendalo? Oku kuya kwenziwa ngabantu. Ukuba umntu uyavuya, ngoko uya kwenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukuphinda izenzo ezikhokelela kuloo mphumo. Kubonakala ukuba yonke into icacile, umfana ulungile nawe, ulahleka. Ngoko ke, ugijima yonke indlela ukuze aphinde aphile. Nangona kunjalo, kukho ingxaki enye - akuyena kuphela umfazi oseMhlabeni, ngoko ke le "intle" indoda ingafumana nayiphi na enye. Ngoko yintoni umntu omele alahlekelwe kuyo? Kuyimfuneko ukuba kwimemori yakhe zonke iimeko ezimnandi zobudlelwane bakho zibhalwe phantsi, ukwenzela ukuba inkqubo yokufumana ukuzonwabisa inxulumene nawe. I-NLP kule njongo icebisa ukuxhoma othandekayo nge "anchors" - ukudala uxhulumaniso phakathi komzuzu omnandi kunye nokuqhubeka kwakho. Efana nephunga elivakalayo ngosuku lwakho lokuqala, ingoma eyayidlala ixesha elithandekayo kwiqabane lakho, amagama owagxothayo endlebeni yakhe ngexesha le-orgasm, njl.
Usebenza njani? Umzekelo, uva umculo, ukhumbule ukuba wamanga ngentshiseko kule ngoma, waza wabuva umculo wexesha eliqhelekileyo, ngokubanzi, lo mculo kwiingcinga zakhe udibene nawe kuphela. Izikhumbuzo ziya phambili, uyaqonda indlela ayenzileyo ngayo kunye nawe kunye nokuba awukho kakuhle kakhulu ngoku. Ngelinye igama, loo mntu uqala ukukukhumbula.
Amantombazana amaninzi azama ngale ndlela ukuze enze loo mfana athande ukulangazelela, njengokungahoywa iifowuni zakhe,
Ungayiqonda njani ukuba loo mntu uyabhuqa?
Ukuqonda ukuba umntu uyabhubha ngaphandle kokuba ulula. Uhlala ebonisa umnqweno wakhe wokuba uhlale apho. Ngokomzekelo, uhlala ebiza, ebhala imiyalezo, kwaye xa edibana ngokukhawuleza emehlweni akhe, uzama ukuthintela ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Kwaye ufuna ukuchitha ixesha lakhe lokukhulula kunye, uthi akayi kulinda intlanganiso elandelayo.