Xa iindlela kunye nendoda zidibanisa - kwaye kwenzeka ukuba abazange baphenduke, kunzima kakhulu ukukholisa intliziyo yakho yokubandezeleka ukuyeka iimvakalelo ezibangela ubunzima obukhulu. Ndingathanda ukuba nemfihlo, indlela yokuyeka ukuthanda indoda kwaye ukulahla intlongo ngexesha elifutshane. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyayiphatha le nkqubo ngokucacileyo, akukho nto inokwenzeka.
Ngaba sinokuphuma ngaphandle kothando?
Kwimibuzo yendlela yokuyeka ukuthanda othandekayo, kunomnye umbuzo-ngaba kunokwenzeka? Okanye, njengoko bethetha, awukwazi ukuyila intliziyo yakho?
Enyanisweni, abaninzi abafazi ngokwabo bahlakulela ukuxhomekeke kumntu onzima. Okokuqala bayibeka ngengqondo ngobuninzi beempawu ezikhangayo, kungekhona zonke ezihambelanayo nento. Emva koko bayaziqinisekisa ukuba nguye umntu othunyelwe esibhakabhakeni, kwaye ukuba akunjalo naye, akukho mntu unomdla ongenakwenzeka. Kwaye xa kuvela ukuba lo mntu ulwalamano luyinto engenakwenzeka, loo mantombazana aqala ukulandelela ngokukhawuleza iphepha lomthandi kumanethiwekhi asekuhlaleni, abize kuye, jonga kwiifoto eziqhelekileyo kwaye uhlale ucinga ngaye.
Ngoko ukuyeka ukuthanda umntu akunakwenzeka, kuba ukuphuma ngaphandle kwothando kukulibala. Inkqubo yokulibala ifakwe kwi-consciousness yethu kuphela xa ulwazi luyinto engadingekile kwaye luphelile, kwaye ukuba uhlala uyilungisa, awukwazi ukulibala. Kodwa ukuba uyazi malunga nendlela onokumthanda umyeni wakho, ngoko imigudu yakho iya kuba yintsika.
Iqhinga lokuyeka ukundithanda
Amantombazana amaninzi afuni ukuhamba ngendlela engokwemvelo, kwaye aqale ukungena kwindawo abayifumene nayo - kwimilingo. Bakholelwa ukuba unokuzenza "i-lapel" okanye ufunde isalathisi-kwaye yonke into iya kutshabalala.
Nangona kunjalo, njengabaqeqeshi kule ndawo bathi, ukufunda ngokuzimeleyo isicatshulwa sokuyeka umyeni wakhe kufana nokusika i-appendicitis kwisikhokelo sonyango. Ngokungazi zonke izinto eziqhenqileyo kunye nokungenazo izakhono eziyimfuneko, awuyi kutshintsha nantoni na, okanye uzilimaze.
Ungayeka njani ukuthanda nokumkhumbula umntu?
Kulo mbandela, igama eliphambili "lilibale". Ukuze iimvakalelo zomntu zingaphazamisi ubomi bakho, kufuneka ulahle ingcamango yakhe, kwaye ke yonke into eyenzekayo phakathi kwakho iya kubonakala njengebali, kwaye imbali yinto ekhunjulwayo ngokudakumba, kodwa ayisabangela intlungu. Ngoko, njani unokuzenza ungabi ngothando?
- Okokuqala, velisa imizwa yakho, wakhala. Ukuba awukwazi ukwenza ngokwakho, jonga ifilimu ebuhlungu. Oku kubalulekile. Kodwa le nto sinomhla omnye.
- Ukususela ngaloo mini ukuya phambili, ungumntu omtsha, uvumele ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo. Sibuyisela umyalelo kwaye sisusa emehlweni onke okukhumbuza lo mntu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akudingeki unikezele inja ephilayo enikwa yona yenkennel, kodwa kufuneka uqonde ukuba isilwanyana asisisipho, kodwa nje ngokuba uyithandayo.
- Siyalahla ulwazi ngaye. Kungcono ngexesha lokuqala ukuphepha abaqhelana nabo, musa ukubuza nantoni ngaye, musa ukuya kuye
iphepha kwintlalo. amanethiwekhi, cima yonke imbali yomnxeba kwaye ngokubanzi lonke ulwazi. - Emva koko uzigcinele: utshintshe iinwele zakho, uthenge isambatho ngesitaweni esitsha, utshintshe indlela yokudweba, ukhangela kwisibuko, wabona omnye umntu.
- Yenza okungakumbi ixesha lakho: ubhalisele kwicandelo lezemidlalo, izifundo zokufunda ulwimi, ufumane umsebenzi owongezelelweyo okanye uqale ukuthunga izinto. Ubunamandla obuninzi bomsebenzi wakho omtsha ufuna, bhetele. Akufanele ube nexesha losizi.
- Sebenzisa ixesha ngaphandle kwendlu. Okokuqala, kuya kunceda ukuba ungacingi ngexesha elidlulileyo; okwesibini, kuya kukuvumela ukuba wenze abantu abaqhelana nabo, abalulekayo ukugcina ukuzithemba kwakho.
- Njalo xa uzibamba ucinga ngazo, zithi kuwe "yima."
Le miyalelo eyisixhenxe elula iya kukhokelela ekubeni kulula ukuphazamisa nokuyeka ukuthanda umntu, oya kukuvumela ukuba ubuyele ubomi obonwabileyo.