"... Hayi, wandiphosa (kakuhle, okanye ndenza), kodwa akuzange kube yinyanga ukususela ekubeni wayesele engalo ngengalo. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka ubenze umona onobukhwele, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo njengowomabhayisikobho, kunye neentlungu ezingapheliyo kunye nentliziyo yakhe yokuvuselela ubudlelwane. " Ukuba unengcamango efanayo, musa ukukhawuleza umbuzo malunga nombuzo othi "njani ukwenza umfana osemdala ukuba nomona," kodwa ukuba uqale ukucinga ukuba ngaba kuyimfuneko nokuba ngaba ukubuya kwakhe kuya kwamkelwa. Kwaye akukho qhinga luza kunika umphumo onqwenelekayo, ukuba umfana akanakuvakalelwa nayiphi imvakalelo kuwe.
Enyanisweni, kukho intombazana enelisekile ngobudlelwane obukhoyo, kodwa nabo bacinga ngezikhathi ezithile indlela yokwenza umfana wabo abe nomona, bazive bengabalulekanga ngaphandle kokubonakalisa le ntliziyo ngothandekayo. Ukuba ityala lakho lilolu hlobo, mhlawumbi ungazi ukuba lo mfana unomona kuwe, awukwazi ukuyiqonda le nto.
Ungazifumana njani ukuba umfana unomona?
Enyanisweni, akunzima kunokuba kubonakale kuqala. Ngokwemimiselo kunokwenzeka ukwahlula abantu abanobukhwele kwiindidi zibini: ukunyanzelisa nokuthula. Ukuba umthandi wakho ungowesigaba sokuqala, ngoko akayi kuba nako ukufihla iimvakalelo zakhe ixesha elide, uya kufumanisa ukuba ulwalamano kuzo zonke izinto ezifanelekileyo kwaye akunakwenzeka. Apha naphambi kokubetha kweempahla, umonakalo wenitshala kunye nangaphambi kokuhlaselwa. Eyona nto, ukuba intandokazi yesikhwele, ngoko, mhlawumbi, iya kuba yindlela yokuziphatha komntwana okhubekileyo. Uyakwazi ukuhlala ethule, azinqamle iimpendulo ze-monosyllabic, kwaye angaphenduli uthando, aze ahambe, avule umnyango kwaye angaphenduli iifowuni. Njengoko sibona, ukuqonda ukuba umntu unomona nje, kuya kuba nzima ukunqabisa othandekayo, ngoko kuphinda sicinge nokuba kuyafaneleka yini ukumbangela ukuba aphinde aveze le mvakalelo. Kodwa ukuba wenza umona onobukhwele unayo, njengomoya wokuphefumula, ngoko ngenxa yeso sizathu.
Izindlela zokwenza umona onomona
Ngoko, njani ukwenza umntu onomona? Kwakhona, akukho nto ilukhuni - kufuneka ubonise ukuba akayena mntu onomdla kuwe, ukuba uyathandwa ngamalungu esini esahlukileyo.
- Masiqale, mhlawumbi, kunye neentyantyambo ezingenacala-izipho (ezincinci izipho), ezazifunwa ngumtshatsheli. Izibhakabhaka zingalawulwa ekhaya - kule ngxaki, musa ukulibala malunga nekhadi elinamazwi anomdla. Kwaye ungathenga endleleni eya ekhaya, kungcono ukuba ukhethe izitolo kude nekhaya, kwaye kuya kuba yinto engaqhelekanga ukuba umthandayo uza kubona indlela oshiya ivenkile yeentyatyambo yedwa kunye neentyantyambo. Ewe, kungcono ukuba akusiyo isenzo sexesha elilodwa, vumela enye inentyantyambo, kodwa ngezinye iiveki ngeveki. Kwaye ngombuzo, ngubani umnikeli, sidlala kunye neengxaki zokubambisana malunga nolwazi olutsha.
- Xoxa nomnye ngefowuni, nge-imeyile, usebenzisa i-ICQ okanye amanethiwekhi omnxuwa, nantoni na. Kuphela kwimeko yefowuni, kungcono ukuba ngapha nangapha kwakukho umntu oyindoda, kungekhona umhlobo ongcono. Kwaye iileta ze-imeyile kufuneka zishiywe kwisikrini kweso sango.
- Utshintsho olubonakalayo. Inyaniso yenguqu enye yomfanekiso ayiyi kukwanela, kuya kufuneka uguqume emafini, ngokuqhelekileyo uzizenza ungenakucinco kwiintetho kwaye uvumeleke ukubonakala kwiphupho. Kwaye unokutshintsha nokukhethwa kweentlobo zakho, umzekelo, awuzange umthande u-sushi ngaphambili. Ndiza kuthandana kwaye ngento eyanelisayo ukuphendula ukuba umhlobo omtsha wabafundise ukuba badle ngokufanelekileyo.
- Siyeka ukuza emsebenzini ngethuba elifanayo kwaye sibe yinto enqabileyo enobunzima, evela emsebenzini emva kwexesha eliqhelekileyo.
- Ukuba into enempembelelo, umntu owayengumntu wokuqala, ngoko ke kwiintlanganiso ezingaqhelekanga, iingxoxo kubalulekile ukuba zikhangele kakuhle kwaye zivuyiswe, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo aziyi kutyhutyha kwiimeko zayo. Ngaba uyeke esitratweni kwaye kufuneka uxoxe nabangaphambili? Akulunganga, kodwa xhaphaza (umzekelo, ukukhangela kwiwashi) ukuba ngokwenene lixesha lokuba uye apho ukulindeleke kakhulu.
- Ukuze wenze umona onobubele, unokwazi nje ukuxelela indlela umhlobo wakho omtsha ngayo.
- Ewe, indlela elula, kodwa eyona ndlela yingozi kakhulu ukudlala ngothando phambi komthandi nomnye umntu.
Musa ukuyidlulisa ngomnqweno wokubangela umona. Kwaye emva kokusukela ukukhathazeka kwemvakalelo yomntu onendleko unokulahlekelwa.