Kuyinto emangalisa xa ibhinqa lihle kwaye liphumelela, kwaye amadoda ahlazeka kuye, njengomntu onoqhenqa. Wonke umntu ucinga ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo uyinqatha enamandla, ngaphandle kwayo, ayithandi mntu, kodwa lo uluvo olukhohlisayo, konke okungahambi kakuhle. Enyanisweni, abafazi abanjalo banxiba imaski ekhuselayo, phantsi kwayo elele umntu osengozini kwaye onethenda enesidingo sothando.
Isizukulwana samhlanje
Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, abafazi abazange bacinge ngemfuno yokwakha umsebenzi kunye nokuzimela ngokuzimeleyo into ebomini. Inkxaso yabo yayiyindoda enamandla, eyanikezela ikamva elihle. Kodwa utshintsho lwexesha, kwaye isizukulwana ngasinye sihluke kwixesha elidlulileyo. Namhlanje, abaninzi abasetyhini banqwenela ukwenza into eninzi yokwakha umsebenzi, kulo mzekelo, kwintsapho leyo ibuyele kwimvelaphi.
Ndicinga ntoni ngamadoda?
Kukho umbono othakazelisayo, ngokubanzi, ongachaza ukuziphatha "kwesondo esomeleleyo" kunye nombono wabo - "Indoda ayesabi ngowesifazane oqinileyo, uyaneentloni ukuba akaphumelelanga njengoko yena". Kule meko, ukuziphatha komfazi kubaluleke kakhulu, ngokuthe ngqo indlela aziphatha ngayo, ingaba uphakamise ukuphakama kwakhe phezu komntu. Ngenxa yeli qabane, iqabane liza kubamba impumelelo yakho, kwaye liya kuzimela ngokuzimeleyo ukufikelela kwindawo ephezulu. Kodwa ukuba umntu olwalamano naye uvakalelwa ngathi "i-violin yesibili," ubuhlobo bakho buya kugqiba.
Ngalinye icala kwicala
Kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje, baninzi abafazi abaphumeleleyo abanokukwazi ukufumana imoto ebiza, indlu, izambatho zengubo, kodwa akukho mntu uzilindele ekhaya. Bakulungele ukunika yonke into, ukuba bekukho ihlathi eliqinileyo elisecaleni.
Sisiphi isizathu?
Abasetyhini abaphumeleleyo banqamlekile kwindongqa yamadoda enokufikelela kubo, ukuba akunakwenzeka ukungena kuwo. Ngokwenene, isiqubulo saloo ntokazi sivakala ngathi: "Akukho mntu oyinyani." Abaninzi abafazi abaphumeleleyo bafuna umntu ofundayo onomsebenzi omhle kunye neakhawunti ebhanki ebalulekileyo. Ngale ndlela yokuziphatha, ulahlekisa inani elikhulu lamalungu esondo esomeleleyo, ngaphandle kokungazi ukuba ingaba lilungu elifanayo onokuyithemba ngalo ngexesha elinzima. Ngoko ke, ukuze kulungiswe oku, kubalulekile ukuhlaziywa imigaqo yokukhetha nokunciphisa iimfuno zayo. Ngenxa yokungaphumeleli okuqhubekayo, umfazi uqala ukusebenza ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye ngoko akukho nto ishiyiweyo ekufuneni isiqingatha sesibini sexesha.
Izinketho ezinokwenzeka zokuphuhlisa ubudlelwane:
- Abameli abaphumeleleyo besondo esinamandla, ininzi isithembu , kwaye balindele ukuba umntu onjalo uya kukuthanda kuphela. Umfazi ophumelelayo akayithandi nhlobo, afuna ukuba yedwa.
- Ukuba umntu uyakuthola ngaphantsi kwakho, ngokukhawuleza kunokukholelwa ukuba unenkxalabo kuphela ngemali. Ngokwe siseko salokhu kukho inani elikhulu leenhlamba, kwaye ubudlelwane buyeke ekugqibeleni.
- Enye indlela yokuphuhlisa ubudlelwane uthando. Ukuwa othandweni kunye nomfazi kusekho okufanayo kwimeko kunye nesithuba sesahlulo sesibini,
kodwa ngenxa yengqesho yabo, awukwazi ukuchitha ixesha elide kwezobudlelwane kwaye ekugqibeleni baya kungena nto.
Isiphelo
Yintoni enokuyenza, indlela yokusombulula le ngxaki? Ithuba elilodwa lokuguqula ngokwakho, kufuneka uhlolisise zonke izinto eziphambili kwaye uqonde oko ufunayo kubomi. Ukuba umnqweno wakho uphumelele kwaye uwedwa, ke uqhubeke nomoya ofanayo, kodwa ukuba ufuna ukufumana umntu oya kuba nawe, kufuneka uguqule wena kunye neemfuno zakho. Kuphela ngokunciphisa iimfuno zakho kwaye uqaphele ukuba umsebenzi awubalulekanga nonke, uya kukwazi ukufumana umntu oya kukukwenza ube ngumntu onoyolo kakhulu emhlabeni.