Ndithandana noontanga kabawo - ndimele ndenze ntoni?

Uthando lwamaxesha onke luthobekile, "isaga esithandwayo, kodwa ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene, kwaye ngaba kukho ikamva kwiimeko ezinjalo ezingafaniyo? Namhlanje, awubonanga umfanekiso ixesha elide - intombazana encinci, i-20-25 ubudala ubudala, ihamba nomntu oneminyaka engama-40-50. Kuba abantu abaninzi, ngokukrakra kwamaSoviet, oku kubizwa ngokuthi ukuguquka kwaye akukho nto enxulumene ngayo nolwalamano olunzulu kwaye ingakumbi abanalo uthando.

Izizathu zolu khetho

Kutheni amantombazana anika ingqalelo kumadoda amakhulu kunye nantoni na ekubhangayo:

1. Wonke umntu omdala unamava okuphila . Usuvele efaka iingxube zakhe kwaye unokuthetha okulungileyo noko kungenjalo. Amantombazana amaninzi ayawafanisa kunye ne-odnodokami yabo, eneneni abakhathalele ngehlabathi. Amadoda amadala anesibindi, aziqinisekisile, ecaleni kwawo, afana nasemva kwodonga lwamatye, kwaye loo mafana amancinci aphethwe kuphela ngesondo kunye nexesha lokuzonwabisa.
2. Umntu omdala, njengesiqhelo, unikeze kwaye intombazana ayifuni ukucinga malunga nokuba ungayifumana phi ingubo entsha okanye uya kwindawo yokutyela. Othandekayo uya kukucela izipho, nokuba uthenge indlu kunye nemoto, konke kuxhomekeka kwiimeko zakhe zentlalo. Ukuba ukhetha oontanga, onjengaye unayo nayiphi na into, uya kufuneka ufumane yonke into kunye kunye nokuqala.
3. Amadoda anjalo akwazi ukuthetha amancoma amahle, ahlakaniphile kwaye ahloniphekile. Bayazi ukuba njani kwaye njani, kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uthethi, eli liva lincinci kakhulu kubafana abancinci.
4. Amantombazana athatha ingqalelo kwindoda enjalo, ayedla ngokunyanzeliswa nguyise wabo ebuntwaneni. Abamadoda abadala bafumana oko ababazange babanikwe nguyise: ukunakekelwa, ukugcinwa, ukugcinwa uthando, ukunyamekela, njl njl.
5. Umntu omdala uyazi ukwenza izinto, ixesha apho athetha ngokukhawuleza ngaphambili. Indoda enjalo inokutshata ukuba ufuna ukuchitha ubomi bakhe kunye nawe, kwaye ayiceli ukuba ilinde iminyaka embalwa ukuze ikwazi ukucinga nokuthatha isigqibo kwisinyathelo esinzulu.
6. Amadoda anjalo xa enyanisekileyo, esaba kakhulu ukulahlekelwa nguwe kwaye uya kuba alungele nantoni na ukubeka ihlabathi lonke ezinyaweni zakho, kodwa ngaba le nto ingalindelwa kumfana omncinci ongenakukwazi ukwenza isigqibo ebomini. Omnye ususwe ngumona , oya kuhamba nobudlelwane bakho abadala, kodwa ngaba kunokwenzeka ngomfana omncinane?
7. Ngomntu omdala okhethiweyo, awuyi kuba yinto yesini kuphela, uya kukuxabisa umphefumlo wakho, umlingiswa kunye nezinye iimpawu ezingabalulekanga kumfana omncinane.
8. Umntu omdala uyinkxaso enhle ebomini, unokunceda nakunoma yiziphi iingxaki ezinokuthi zenzeke ebomini bakho kungekhona nje ngeengcebiso, kodwa ngezenzo.

Yintoni eyenzekayo?

Kukho imizekelo emininzi yabantu abaneminyaka engatshatanga. Zonke zilungile kwaye abazange bazizisole ngokuba bathathe inyathelo elinjalo. Kodwa kukho imizekelo kunye neminyano engaphumeleliyo, enoba, ngelishwa, yahlukana. Ngokuqhelekileyo abo baqabane banalo imibono eyahlukileyo ebomini kwaye okokuqala yinto ethandwayo, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha oku kungabangela inani elikhulu leengxabano kunye nokuhlukana. Uyakwazi ukuva kwicala lakho amagama anecala kwiimeko ezinjalo: "Uyazi ntoni kwiminyaka yakho, uselula kakhulu." Kunokwenzeka ukuba emva kwexesha uya kuba mnandi kuye, kwaye uya kufumana umhlobo omtsha, nokuba ngumncinci omncinci wobomi. Amadoda amadala afuna kakhulu abafazi abakhethiweyo, ngoko kuya kufuneka udibane neemfuno zakhe.

Isiphelo

Kuthekani ukuba uthandana nomntu omdala - phulaphula intliziyo yakho. Ubudala buyakwazi ukudlala ngokufanelekileyo ebuhlotsheni bakho, kwaye mhlawumbi ngokufanayo. Ngoko ke, ukubeka umngcipheko okanye, nangona kunjalo, ukuyeka ukukhangela umntu omncinane, oku kusisigqibo sakho.