Kangaphi, xa sibona isibini esitshatileyo, sizibuza: "bafana njani?". Kutheni bahlangene? Indoda ende, indoda enhle kunye ne-grey, akukho-isaziso-ntombazana, okanye intombazana enhle, ehlambulukileyo kunye nomncinci, odibeneyo. Kodwa, kunjalo, bekunye iminyaka emininzi, baphila, umphefumlo ube ngumphefumlo kwaye abaqapheli iimbonakalo eziphazamisayo zabathengi. Ngokuphathelele ulwalamano olunjalo unokuthi "uthando lobubi," akaboni iziphene zesahlulo sesibini.
Uthando lubi - uya kuthandana kwaye ...
Ukuziqhelanisa kuye kwabonisa ukuba nabani na onokuba yinto enothando, kwanebhokhwe efanayo eyaziwayo evela kwisaga esaziwayo. Ngokwezibalo, ezininzi izibini ezitshatileyo zitshatyalaliswa emva kokuba omnye umfazi sele eqala ukuqonda ukuba isiqingatha sakhe asigqibekanga. Ukugqithisa ukunyamezela okuphambeneyo kunye nokugqithiseleyo, kunye naloo mcingwa ogulayo kunye nomthandayo ujika kwi-swan ehlophe emgodini oyingozi. Qalisa ukucaphukisa yonke imikhwa yakhe, iimpawu zokubonakala kunye nomlingiswa.
Inzululwazi enye yeyunivesithi yaseLondon yabuza lo mbuzo: kutheni iinyanga zokuqala (iminyaka) zithandana zingaboniswanga kwaye zingaboni iziphene. Iziphumo zikumangalise kubaphandi ngokwabo. Kubonakala ukuba uthando olomeleleyo luyabathinta abantu. Ubuchopho babo balahlekelwa ukukwazi ukuvavanya ngokuchanekileyo into ejikelezayo. Kwingqondo yomthandayo kukho utshintsho oluthile oluchaphazela iinkqubo ezijongene nokuqonda kwemvakalelo yezinto ezahlukeneyo. Kule meko, ububanzi bentsholongwane yengqondo yengingqi ejongene nokunyameka kwehla. Ulwimi olulula: indoda ethandwayo ibona yonke into kwi-prism yamaglasi e-rose, igxeka emoyeni kuzo zonke izihlandlo ezilungileyo zobomi bakhe kwaye ayiqapheli nantoni na.
Uluhlu olungathandekiyo lomthandayo okanye kutheni uthanda okubi?
Uthando luyimfama. Ukuba uyayithanda ngokwenene, akunandaba nokuba umntu ukhangeleka njani, indlela aphila ngayo, oko akwenzayo, yintoni ebonisa ngayo abanye. Kulo mntu uziva unonwabe kakhulu kwihlabathi. Ngoko kufanelekile, kufuneka umthande umntu ngokwakhe, kwaye kungekhona ukubonakala kwakhe, isikhundla okanye imali. Kodwa ...
Ngelishwa, kwenzeka ukuba uthando oluyimfama luphonsa ibhinqa kwiqonga leengxaki kunye neengxaki. Uyamthanda umntu ongamxabangayo aze amthobise. Ukulungele ukunyamezela konke okuthando lwakhe. Umfazi onjalo ufuna uncedo olungaphandle, kuba yena ngokwakhe akakwazi ukujamelana nayo. Ngaphandle koko, inokuba yintlanzi yobundlobongela ngokomzimba okanye ngokwengqondo.
Kwenzeka ukuba ukuwela othandweni, intombazana ivala amehlo kuye kwindlela engafanelekanga yokuziphatha ngayo iqabane, kamva isetyenziswe kwisimo sengqondo esinjalo, kwaye xa kungekho mvini ukunyamezela - uhlala naye ngaphandle koyiko. Oku kuyindlela engalunganga. Xa uhlala ixesha elinjalo nomntu onjalo, kunzima ngakumbi ukuyilahla.
Uthando-into embi kuphela kulabo abalahlekelwa yintloko. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko kufuneka ugcine ukuzithiba nokuzithemba.
Ngoko, thina, mantombazana, singayithandi njani le bhokhwe?
Jonga ngeenxa zonke, mhlawumbi kukho umntu osondele kuwe ofanelwe ukuba uqaphele, ngubani oya kukuthanda, ukuxabisa nokuxabisa. Ukuphuhlisa, wazi ukuba ufanelekile kwaye ungavumi ukuba umntu aphule ubomi bakho. Ukuba uvakalelwa kakhulu, kwaye awukwazi ukuvavanya imeko, uze uphulaphule iingcebiso zentsapho kunye nabahlobo bakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo, uvela kwicala owaziyo ukuba ngubani ozikhethelayo. Abayi kususa kuphela iziglasi zakho ezipinki kuwe, kodwa ziya kukunceda ubaleke ekuthunjweni kothando olonakalisayo.