Ukudala intsapho yiphupha labantu abaninzi: bobabini nababhinqa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba intombazana ibaluleke kakhulu, kuba nayo kufuneka icinge ngokuzalwa kwabantwana, kwaye iminyaka yobudala kule nkalo ingaba yinqununu. Ngoko ke, amaninzi amantombazana anomdla onokufumana umntu ukuba abe nolwalamano olunzulu.
Njani kunye nendawo yokufumana indoda ngobuhlobo obunzulu?
Lo mbuzo awukho nto engenzi lutho: ngokuqhelekileyo umntu obonakala enhle kwaye onothando, elinde into, akenzi isipho, kwaye intombazana ayikwazi ukuba yimeko enjalo. Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba endleleni yakhe yokuphila kubakho abantu abanjalo abanomdla kwintsebenziswano ebalulekileyo, ngoko akucaci ukuba unokufumana umntu olungileyo kwintsapho. Emva koko, kudla ngokukwenzeka ukuba indoda isetyenziswa kuphela ngesondo esheshayo. Kukho neengcali eziye zahlangana nomntu, zama ukuvavanya intombazana ngandlela-thile, ukufumanisa ukuba uya kukwazi ukuyihudula ebhedini namhlanje. Kwaye, ngokuziphatha ngokungaqinisekanga kwaye ngokuzithemba, ubeka ingozi ekubeni yinkosikazi engaziwayo. Ngoko iingcali zengqondo zicebisa amantombazana ngomhla wokuqala:
- ungaze uphuze utywala (olu luvavanyo lomntu lokufikelela);
- ayenzi zonke, zize zingenasisulu ngokupheleleyo, izicelo zommama omtsha (kwaye oku kuvivinywa kwabathandi bezononwabo ebusuku.
Oku kuya kuvumela intombazana ukuba ixoxe ngokulinganayo, kungekhona ukuba ixhoba okanye "inkomo embonisweni".
Okokuqala kuzo zonke, njengokuba usombulula nayiphi na ingxaki yobomi, kufuneka wenze isigqibo sokuba yintoni intombazana efuna yona. Kucacile ukuba ukufumana umntu ngobomi, kodwa yintoni? Iingcali zengqondo zikwacebisa ukuba uthathe iphepha kwaye ubhale oko intombazana efuna kumlingane wobomi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokubhala nto nantoni na, kodwa kungcono ukuba ungabandakanyi kwaye ushiye kuphela into ebaluleke kakhulu. Kule mfuneko kuyimfuneko ukuba ibe yinyani. Masithi ukuba intombazana ayikwazi ukuma, xa umntu ekhuluma naye kwifowuni yakhe, kufuneka ugxotha abantu abashishini ngokukhawuleza. Kubalulekile ukuba banxibelelwano, kwaye akayi kuba ngowokuqala ukuthanda, ukuba umphonsa umsebenzi wakhe - kwaye uhlala entanyeni yentombazana.
Ukuba intombazana izimisele ukuba yintoni efuna ukuba iphumelele, kufuneka ikhangele uluhlu kwaye ucinge ngendawo apho angayifumana khona indoda yamaphupha akhe. Umzekelo, ukuba ukhankanya amadoda anesigxina, ayenomzimba onomfanekiso omhle kunye nolunye uhlobo lokuchuma, kuyaqondakala ukuba uthenge umrhumo kwiziko elifanelekileyo lempilo kwaye, xa ufumene i-suit efanelekileyo yezemidlalo kunye nomdlalo wezemidlalo, ucele indoda enhle ukuba inqwenele ukunika iingcebiso kwiingcali.
Ukuba intombazana ibuza ukuba ungaphi na umntu osisityebi, ngoko kuyona ndlela enokukhetha ngayo - i-vernissages yefashini, iindawo zokudlela ezibizayo, ii-premieres ezidumileyo kwiindawo zokudlala. Yena ugqoke, kufuneka uhlale ebiza kakhulu kwaye enganangqiqo, ukuze umntu ongeyena mntakwenu owayembona engacingi ukuba okokuqala uya kufuna ukumkhangela ngezicathulo ezifanelekileyo. Yintoni enokuthetha ngayo, kungcono ukugqiba kwangaphambili - kwaye kungcono kungekhona malunga neentlobo zokuvuna iidill, kodwa malunga nobugcisa be-Middle Ages okanye malunga nomdlalo wegalufa. Kwaye kuyinqweneleka ukuba le ntombazana inene
Akunakwenzeka ukuphendula ngokungapheliyo umbuzo wendlela yokufumana indoda elungileyo kwintsapho. Kodwa kucacile ukuba ukhangele kuyo akufanelekanga. Akukho nto intombazana eya kudibana ne-teetotaler kwi-bar, kunye nentsapho yasebusuku. Indawo yokudibana nayo kufuneka ikhethwe ngokuhlakanipha. Emva koko umbuzo wendlela yokufumana indoda ehloniphekileyo iya kuba sisondele kwimpendulo efanelekileyo.
Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, yonke into iyagqitywa yithuba - kuyimfuneko kuphela ukukunceda, kwaye yonke into iya kwenzeka ngokwayo kwaye ayiyi kuphinda ibe nemibuzo enjalo.