Ngokuqhelekileyo, kunzima kubafazi ukuqonda amadoda, abaqondi izizathu zezenzo zabo, iinjongo zabo kunye neminqweno. Kodwa kuyimfuneko kuphela ukufumanisa oko amadoda afuna uninzi lwento abayilindeleyo ebomini kunye noko bafuna ngayo yonke inzondo yabo - kungekhona nje imibuzo kunye nokungaqondani, kodwa ezininzi iingxabano ziya kutshabalala.
Ngoko, yintoni na umntu ayifunayo?
Yiba Ngcono, Okokuqala, oyiNtloko
Lo ngumnqweno ophambili phantse bonke abameli bezesondo ezinamandla. Nantoni na eyenzayo, nayiphi na into abayilwela ngayo, banqwenela ukubonakalisa- "Andibi ngaphezu kwabanye (kwaye kwinto engcono ngakumbi)." Ngokuqinisekileyo, bonke abantu bayaqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba akunakukwazi ukuba ngowokuqala nakwezinto zonke, kodwa baya ku fumana into yabo, apho "babeba nenani". Kubalulekile ukuba baqonde eli lungelo-ukuba baziqhenyce ngokwabo kwaye babonise abanye (ngakumbi abafazi) ukuba bafanele into ethile. Yingakho engekho ekhaya, esichitha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla agxininisa kwi shishini lakhe - kuba ufuna ukuphumelela nokuphumelela njengendoda. Kule nto kuxhomekeke kwimvakalelo yakhe nesimo sengqondo kuye.
Phumelela iinjongo zakho
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Xa umntu enza yonke into ukuguqulela injongo yakhe, uyaziqinisekisa, unene. Yintoni amadoda ahlala efuna, afuna ntoni? Wonke umntu unenjongo yakhe - ukwakha indlu okanye umsebenzi, ukunqoba iintaba ezininzi okanye iintombi njengokuba kunokwenzeka, ukupompoza imisipha okanye ukuvula ibhizinisi ... Kodwa bonke bayakwenza ukuze bafumane imvume yamanye amadoda kunye nokubongwa kwabafazi.
Ukulala ngesondo
Yiyo yonke into abantu abayifunayo, kwaye batshata, kwaye baqhawule, kwaye bengatshatanga. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuyimfuneko kubo, kuyimfuneko yabo ukuba babe nokuqinisekiswa kwangokwenene, uthando, ukwamkelwa kunye nenkxaso. Ngoko bavakalisa iimvakalelo zabo baze baqonde ukuba bafuna umfazi othandekayo. Ngoko ukuziqinisekisa nokufumana ukuphumla kwengqondo. Ukwabelana ngesondo kubanika ukuzithemba, ingqiqo yobuninzi babo namandla.
Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubuhlobo bakhe nomfazi okanye inkosikazi yakhe bebuhle kangakanani, xa beqala ukumthungela ngesondo, akayi kuzinyamezela kwaye ahambe efuna umfazi oya kuvuma ukwanelisa iimfuno kunye neminqweno yakhe.
Fumana inkxaso
Ukuba yomelele, ukukhusela, ukufezekisa, ukubonelela ukuba yiyiphi na indawo. Kwaye ukukhalaza, ukuhla izandla nokucela indumiso akuyiyo ikusasa labo. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba abadinga amagama akhuthazayo novelwano. Amadoda kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba bathandwa, bayaziqhayisa, kwaye izenzo zabo nempumelelo yazo zixabiswa. Kwaye baya kuba nako ukufumana ukuba bathetha ngako.
Indlela yokuqonda into umntu afuna ukuyiva, yiyiphi amagama ayilindele kakhulu? Kakade ke, kukho abo baya kuqinisekisa kuye ukuba nguye ongcono, onobuqili, onesibindi kunye neentente. Kuthi naye - njengodonga lwamatye. Ukuba unethemba kunye nenkxaso yentsapho. Ukuthandwa, ukufunwa nokuhle. Ukuba umfazi ukholelwa kuye kwaye uya kuphumelela.
Indoda ifuna ukuva kumfazi ukuba uyayixabisa kwaye iyayixabisa. Kuphela nje ukuba wonke umntu usetyenziselwa into yokuba abafazi bayakuthanda ngeendlebe zabo, kwaye bayazi ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuncoma kunye nokuvuma kwethando. Kodwa amadoda afana nobuthathaka kunye novakalelo.
Ukufumana umbulelo
Kwaye akukho nto! Kufuneka nje uthi: "Ndiyabonga! Ndiyabulela kuwe oko wenzayo! ".
Kulula kakhulu ukuqonda ukuba umntu, njengalowo nawuphi na, akafuni izikhalazo, ukugxekwa nokuhlekwa usulu! Ufuna ukuthandwa nokwamkelwa. Kwaye njengoko wonke umntu, ethembele ekuthandweni nasekuxhaseni, ulungele ukutshintsha ngenxa yintanda yakhe kwaye ibe ngcono, yimpumelelo!