Uthando olungagqithwanga luye lwafumana phantse ngamnye wethu. Ngokuqhelekileyo lo luyintando yokuqala, intsha, kodwa iyenzeka ngexesha elidala. Kodwa ngokwaneleyo ukusho ukuthi "Ndiyabuhlungu ngenxa yothando olungenakuthelekiswa ...", makhe sicinge ngento enokuyenza ngayo.
Uthando olungathandekiyo - yintoni oyenzayo?
Uthando luvakalelo oluhle, kodwa kuthekani ukuba uthando aluphelelwanga? Impembelelo yokuqala, ewe, iya kuba ngumnqweno wokwenza oku kuvelelane. Kodwa ngaba awuzange uzame? Ukuba yonke into yayilingwa, kwaye into yokukhanga yahlala ibanda, ungacingi ukuba umcimbi kwindlela esibukeka ngayo okanye ezinye iintsilelo ayikho. Kwenzeka ukuba indoda ayiyikunyamekela intombazana ekhangayo ngokupheleleyo, ezinyaweni apho umhlambi wabalandeli uphazamisa khona, kodwa uyifumana injabulo "ngegundane elimnyama". Ewe, kunzima ukungathandani nabani na ongabambeleli, ngoko kuya kufuneka uvumele ukuhamba kwintanda yakho, kwaye ulahle umvakalelo onothando olungathandabuzekiyo. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokusindiswa nothando olungathandekiyo, kodwa into efunekayo kukuba ufune ukujamelana nale ntliziyo. Emva kwakho konke, akungenzi nto ngaphandle kokubandezeleka, ngoko ke ixesha lokuyeka.
Ungaphila uthando olungathandabuzekiyo?
Emva kokuba banqume ukulahla uthando olungathandabuzekiyo kumfana, nantsi iingcebiso ezimbalwa malunga nendlela yokwenza ngayo.
- Unokuhlangabezana njani nothando olungathandabuzekiyo? Zama ukulibala malunga nesifundo sokububula kwakhe. Kodwa kuya kuba nzima ukwenza oku ukuba uhlala ujongene nalo okanye ukhumbuze. Ngoko ke, zama ukuhlangana naye ngaphantsi komsebenzi (ukufundisisa). Ukusuka endlwini ususe konke kunokukhumbuza - iifoto eziqhelekileyo, ezinye izinto eziza kukukhumbuza. Umzekelo, xa uthe uthe ukhangeleke kule ndawo, kwaye uyifake emingxeni, ukuze kwakhona akubuke. Okwaneleyo, ulindele ubomi obutsha, ngoko u-blouse ukuya ekulahleni (ukuba uyayithanda, yithenga enye efanayo, into entsha, akukho zikhumbuzo ezixhunyiwe), kunye neenethemba ezingenanto zokunqoba intliziyo engenakufikeleleka. Kwakhona kunye nenani lakhe livela kwincwadi yefowuni, ngokokuba akukho mnqweno wokumbiza ngexesha lokudabuka okukhulu.
- Uthando olungabonakaliyo ludla luyimbangela yokudakumba, kwaye ingqondo yengqondo ikhuthaza ukuncintisana nayo kunye nexesha eliyilungiselelwe ukuba ungenalo ixesha lokucinga, kutheni uthando lwakho lugqithisekile, yintoni ephosakeleyo kuwe, kwaye kutheni kungenangqondo kunye nezinye izinto ezingenanto inzala. Yintoni enokuyenza ngexesha? Nantoni na into - umsebenzi, umdlalo omtsha, ukuzizonwabisa.
- Yintoni enye ongayenza ukujamelana nothando olungathandabuzekiyo? Phinda uqondise le ntliziyo kuwe. Kutheni ufanele uchithe amandla akho okomoya kumntu ongaqondiyo? Uthande ngokwakho, wenze izipho, uzilungiselele ukuzizonwabisa - zithenge iingubo ezithandekayo, thumela kwi-massage, ziphathise into enonandi, ubuyekeze umdlalo wakho ozithandayo, unokwenene ngothando ngokupheliswa.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi, abanqwenela ukukhetha isigaba esitsha ebomini babo, batshintshe umbala weenwele kunye neenwele. Kutheni ungasebenzisi le ndlela? Yaye unako ukuhamba ngakumbi kwaye ungatshintshi kuphela inwele, kodwa kwakhona ufike ngomfanekiso omtsha, ngokungqinelana nayo oya kuyidinga ukuba uthathe iingubo, izicathulo kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ujonge indlela entsha yokudweba.
- Ngenxa yokuba babandezeleka kakhulu ngenxa yothando olungenakunqwenelekayo, baninzi banquma ukufumana induduzo ngomnye umntu, kaninzi abahlali banomdla. Abasetyhini benza oku ukuze baziqinisekise bona abazange baxhaswe ngumntu ongeke anqobe. Le nto ayimfuneko, ngenxa yesizathu esinye esilula - akunakwenzeka ukuba ufumane inkoliso kulwalamano olulolo hlobo, kodwa uya kuphazamiseka ngepuni epheleleyo, kuba nokuba unomdla wokunyamekela komntu ongenamdla uya kukukhumbuza ukuba ngubani onokuthandana naye. Ngoko musa ukukhawuleza kwiingalo zomnye, silinde kancane. Ukuvala konke ukusuka kumadoda, kwakhona, akudingeki, kodwa makube ngoku, kungabi nantoni na kwiintlanganiso ezingabophelanga kunye nexesha elichithwe kakuhle.