Lo ngumbuzo! Yiloo nto endiyithandayo! Igalelo-igazi kunye nelo nqanaba. Ewe, masiqonde phakathi kwethu, bafazi, indlela abanokusetyenziswa ngayo - kunye namadoda kwisihloko esinjengeendlela yokuthetha kwaye angenzi.
Ngokumalunga nendlela abafazi abaphatha ngayo amadoda, babhala zonke iiklasi zehlabathi-kwaye, ngokuyinxalenye, amadoda. Yintoni esixelela yona, bafazi? Inyaniso yokuba indoda ayikho nxamnye nokuba ngumvundla omhlophe ezandleni zowesifazane, osikhupha ngaphandle kweyilki yakhe ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Imfihlelo yonke kukuba sikwazi ukudala impembelelo yokuba uyaphuma kwi-cylinder ngokwakhe-kwaye kuphela xa efuna.
Kuphi ukuqala kunye nendlela yokuqalisa? Yenza umntu onokuyenza kuphela ukuba yena, le ndoda, uyamthemba ngokupheleleyo. Hlola umonde wakho namandla omqondo, kwaye uqaphele ukuba unokukwazi ukufezekisa oku. Nazi iindlela zokuqala ezingenakuzenza ngaphandle:
- Umele ulalele amabali akhe, uhlekise amahlaya akhe, udumise isithunzi sakhe kwaye uhlale ungathethi ngeziphoso zakhe;
- Amadoda athanda ukuthetha ngabo. Ngoko ke, qalisa ingxoxo kunye naye ukuze abe nethuba lokuziqhayisa yena kunye nokuxhaphaza kwakhe;
- Ngaba ufuna ukutsala indoda? Ungazami ukummangalisa. Mshiye ithuba lokumangalisa ngento ethile. Buza imibuzo ekhokelayo kwaye wenze sengathi uyamangalisa ngenxa yamandla akhe.
Ngokufanayo, funda indoda kwaye uzame ukukhetha ukuba yeyiphi iisitshixo omele ucinezele xa udlala naye, kwaye yiyiphi into engafanele ifuthe kuyo. Ngendlela, oku akuthethi ukuba uya kuhlala ube yinto yokucoca ngesandla. Okumangalisayo kukuba, kodwa ukuxhaphaza amadoda athile kulula, udlala indima ye-lynx yasendle. Ndayazi indoda eyayinomfazi onokuyifeza nantoni na, ngokumisa kunye naye, ekugwebeni into ethile, ukuthetha. Indlela awavuma ngayo kum: "Nantoni na, nantoni na - ungagcini! Umama wayeka ukuthetha nam xa wayeselula xa undijezisa. Ukususela ngoko, andinako ukuthula. "
Kodwa masiqhubeke.
Indlela yokufunda ukuphatha umntu?
Amagama aphambili kulo mbuzo yindlela yokufunda? Ukucwangcisa abantu, ngokwenene, umntu kufuneka afunde - njengoko ufunda ukupheka isifo okanye ukuhamba ngebhayisekile. Musa ukuziziva ungenasici kwaye ungaphumeleli! Ewe, kukho abesifazana abangacingi nangendlela yokuphatha kakuhle umntu. Benza ngokukhawuleza, kuba banalo italente efanayo ukusuka ekuzalweni. Kodwa kukho bambalwa kakhulu abafazi, kholwani.
Funda oko umhlobo wam, isifo sengqondo, wandixelela wathi: "Ixhaphalo lamadoda lalihlala lijikeleza malunga nomama, wabatsala ngokukhawuleza, naphi na apho eya khona. Umama wayengengowesifazane omhle kunene, ngoko andizange ndiyiqonde indlela awayekwazi ngayo ukuphatha la madoda ngokukhululeka. Kodwa ngolunye usuku, xa sineendwendwe, ndathi ndambona ekhuluma enye yeendwendwe. Ebusuku kubo kwakuzele abantu, kodwa wamphulaphula ngokunyamekela, wamjonga ngolu hlobo, njengokuba nguye kuphela umntu emhlabeni wonke . "
Wandixelela indlela afundisa ngayo izigulane zakhe ukuphatha amadoda usebenzisa indlela yomama wakhe kwisenzo esilandelayo. Ukufaka i-elevator kunye nendoda, isigulane imizuzu engama-2-3 kukujonga okanye ibinzana ukuba linomdla kule ndoda ukuya kumva kangangokuthi wamshiya emva kwakhe, efuna ukuqhubeka esaziwayo.
Ukuzivocavoca! Ngaphantsi komqathango omnye: yenza kube lula, njengemdlalo kumdlalo wezemidlalo - uze ufunde ukuphatha amadoda ngokuziqonda.
Ndiza kukuxelela enye into. Abantu bayayithanda xa bebuza iingcebiso zabo. Zama ukufaka ibinzana elilandelayo kuluhlu lwezitshixo zakho: "Ucinga njani (ngoluvo lwakho), kungcono ukwenza oku? Andiyiqondi into enje! "Ukuba impendulo yakhe ayifani ngokufanayo nento ofuna ukuyiva, phefumula ngamagama athi:" Yimbulelo! Kwaye ndacinga ukuba unokwenza oku njengaye ... "Ekuphenduleni, ibinzana:" Kunokwenzeka kwaye kunjalo! "(Ngaphantsi kwemeko, ewe, ukuba awuyi kucela ukuba angaboni ekhitshini ekhitshini le-snowman ngoJulayi) uya kuphendula.
Ngasentla sathetha igama elithi "inkundla". Iqonga lidlala umdlalo - kwaye, ngoko, inkohliso. Nantsi enye ikhiye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ujika njani, kodwa kuphela abo basetyhini abahamba ngokulandela amazwi kaTalleyrand bangabakholisa amadoda: "Ulwimi lunikezwa umntu ukuze afihla iingcamango zakhe." Ngokucacileyo akuzange kube neengxoxo ezinzulu akufanele zithembele kwinkqubo yokuthetha engabandakanyekanga. Ukuba ufuna ukuxelela umntu (nokuba yindoda okanye umntu ongaphandle) into ebalulekileyo - cinga nge-monologue kwangaphambili. Futhi ungacingi nje ngoku - uphinde uqeqeshe. Ngaloo ntetho, kunye nokwakhiwa kwamagama kunye nesibonakaliso sobuso,
Ungayisebenzisa njani indoda yakhe?
Ukuba indoda yindoda? Kanye njengokuba uya kusebenzisa amanye amadoda. Kuphela kwimeko yendoda, kulula kakhulu, kuba unethuba lokusasaza kwaye ufunde ngelo xesha.
Yintoni na? Ngaba ndiva amazwi avuthayo? Njani? Ukuphatha ngokukhohlisa? Umyeni wam ndiyamthandana! Hayi, andinakuyenza ngaphandle koluncedo lwentonga yam enesoloko. Donsa phantsi, umfazi olungileyo! Yaye ufunde oko uBalzac akuphendulayo: "Uthando olunzulu luhlala luphindwe kabini ngosuku."