Umntu akakwazi ukulawula uthando kwaye kukho amaxesha apho iimvakalelo zivela kumntu otshatileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo unokuva umzekeliso ongeke ukwazi ukwakha ulonwabo kwintlungu yomntu kunye nakwezinye iimeko ukuba kunjalo ngokwenene, kodwa kuthekani ukuba unganamandla okuvumela umntu ukuba ahambe?
Indlela yokugcina umthandi otshatileyo?
Kwiimeko ezinjalo, into ephambili akuyi kuyenza impazamo, kuba abantu abaninzi banokuhlupheka. Ukuba iimvakalelo azihambelani kunye kunye kuphela into edibanisa nomntu, oku kukwabelana ngesondo, ngoko ungaboni ukukhwabanisa kwaye uthembele kwenye into.
Iingcebiso zeengqondo zendlela yokugcina indoda esatshatileyo:
- Yiba ngumcuphi. Umsebenzi ukuphulaphula ngenyameko umntu okhethiweyo, ukunikela ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha ezahlukeneyo malunga nomfazi, kwaye ingakumbi imiphumo yakhe. Ukuba ufuna ukuthatha indoda kwintsapho, ngoko kufuneka ube ngamaxesha amaninzi kunokuba uvale ngoku.
- Zihlolisise. Indoda inokugqiba isigqibo sokushiya intsapho, kodwa kuphela ukuba le ntombi entsha ifanelekile. Yingakho kufuneka ukhangele ukubonakala kwakho kunye nokuzaliswa kwangaphakathi. Yiya kwiidonons ezibuhle, ugqoke ngendlela efanelekileyo kwaye ube yindoda. Cinga ukuba umfanekiso kufuneka ushiye ngokwawo ucebiso oluthile. Ukuze uhlale utshatile, kufuneka ube nolonwabo, kuba i-monotony kunye nokusondeleka komfazi, okunokwenzeka, kuya kwenza ngokukhawuleza. Funda iincwadi, zifumanise umdla othakazelisayo, ube nolwazi oluninzi, ngokubanzi, indoda ifanele ibe kufuphi nawe inomdla.
- Ukuba umntu uvakalelwa iimvakalelo, unako ukumenza abe nomona . Kulo mbandela, into ephambili ayiyikuyidlula. Kumele aqaphele ukuba amanye amadoda anqwenela ukhetho lwakhe kwaye ngantoni na angayilahla.
- Abaninzi banomdla nokuba ngaba kungenzeka ukuba abantu bahlale besini okanye bengenzi. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye neentlobo ezahlukeneyo, oku kulungile, kodwa
ubudlelwane obugcwele kunye nexesha elide lubalulekile kunye nezinye iinkalo. Yenza umntu owamthandayo ube ngumoya ocolileyo kunye nofudumele. - Kulula ukunyuka, ungafuneki nantoni na ungayi kulawuli. Ezi "zikhonkwane" ezinjalo zanele ngokwabo ubudlelwane bakhe nomfazi. Indoda ngokwakhe kufuneka iqonde apho kulula khona ukuba ibe yindawo apho uyavuya khona. Kule meko kuya kuba nako ukubala ukuba imeko iya kusombulula.
Amantombazana amaninzi, ecinga ngendlela yokugcina indoda esatshatileyo, iya kumanyathelo okukhawuleza kwaye ukhulelwe ngobuqhetseba. Ndifuna nje ukutsho ukuba ngale ndlela akunakwenzeka ukubopha umntu ozikhethele yona, kwaye kwezinye iimeko, iindaba ezingalindelekanga zingamane zihlukane nomlingane.