Iimeko ezahlukeneyo zivela ebomini. Kwenzeka ukuba xa edibana nentombi yakhe yangaphambili, intombazana iyaqonda ukuba ubudlelwane naye yayiyindalo yangempela, kwaye iqala ukuphupha ukubuyela emva kwexesha, kodwa indlela yokubuyisela ngayo indoda yangaphambili ukuze ubudlelwane bobabini bobabili baphume ngamandla? Ngokuqhelekileyo kuxhomekeke kwindlela ulwahlulo lwakho lwenzeka ngayo, ngubani owayengumqalisi, kwaye yayiyintoni isizathu. Ukuba kukho uhlaselo, akufanelekile ukuhlaziya ubuhlobo obunjalo, kodwa ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zizinzile kwaye ulungele ukulwa, phuhlisa isicwangciso senkqubo esifanelekileyo.
Kuninzi kuxhomekeke ekubeni ngubani owayeyi-initiator: ukuba intombazana iphosa umfana, kubalulekile ukufumana indlela kuye, kuba indoda elahliwe ingaba nezikhalazo kwaye iphinde iqalise ubudlelwane kunye nenjongo yokuphindezela. Ukuba ukuhlukana kwenziwa ngokuvumelana kwemvume, kulula kakhulu ukuqala kwakhona kwakhona, umzekelo, ngokusebenzisa inethwekhi yentlalo . Ukuba awuzange uxoxe kwaye ungayazi ukuba ubhale ntoni umntu owayesakuba ngumntu ukuba abuyisele, qalisa ngoqhagamshelwano olulula olungaxhamliyo. Kubalulekile ukukhankanya ixesha elihle kwiinkalo zakho. Ngokunyamekela nangokucokisekileyo, unokuguqula olu nxibelelo kwintlanganiso kunye nangokwabelana ngesondo, oko kunokusondeza kwaye kukuncede ukhumbule elidlulileyo.
Indlela yokubuyisela imithandazo yangaphambili yomfana?
Kodwa ukuba izicwangciso ezingentla zingakhange zikuncede, unokwenza umlingo uze uzame ukufumana imbuyiselo ngemithandazo, iqhinga okanye i-privorotov. Njengoko uyazi, zonke ezi ndlela zimela isikhalazo kumlingo, enokuba ngumnyama okanye omhlophe.
Umthandazo ubhekisela kumlingo omhlophe, unceda ukukholelwa kuwe. Ukuze ugcine olo hlobo, kufuneka ufunde njalo ibinzana elithi: "Nkosi, ukuba ukuthanda kwakho kube njalo, ukuba sinikwa ukuba sihlangane, sondela kumzuzwana weentlanganiso zethu kwaye ukhawuleze isiqhelo . " Phinda lo mthandazo kufuneka ube rhoqo, unokuya ecaweni, kuya kunika amandla kunye nokuzithemba.
Enye indlela, indlela yokufumana umntu owayesakuba ngumntu emva koko uceba. Kufana nomthandazo, sibheno kuThixo, sifunde njalo ekuseni. Kudla ngokwaneleyo ukwenza icebo lesikhuso samasa. Eli bhinqa kufuneka lihlambe ubuso bakhe ngamazolo amasa athi: "Amanzi acocekileyo, uncedo, buyela kumntu othandekayo kwintsapho." Njengokuba amazolo ehla ngokukhawuleza kwesikhumba, intanda yam iya kundikhumbula kwaye ibuyele ngokukhawuleza. Ndiya kumvusa. " Kungcono ukufezekisa oku kuhamba kunye nokuhlala kwindawo yodwa ukuze kungabikho mntu ongakuphazamisa.
Ndiyakwazi ukubuyela kwindoda yangaphambili?
Wonke umntu ukhetha indlela yakhe, indlela yokubuyisela iimvakalelo endala. Ukuthandwa kakhulu kunye nothando. Iimimoya zokubuyela kwexesha langaphambili zingahluke kakhulu, umzekelo ukuthanda ukuphala kwi siselo okanye umyinge. Isithethe ekubuyiselweni komntu kumyinge kuthathwa inyathelo apho umfazi kufuneka athathe umshanelo osetshenzisiweyo, ukukhupha amahlamvu ambalwa kuwo. Ukujonga amahlumela,
Ungenza kwakhona ukupasa ngothando xa uxoxisana nomntu owayesithandayo. Kwanele ukuthatha umbane, uthethe ngomthandazo na usebenzisa igama lomntu kwaye umnike isiselo. Ngokuqhelekileyo izenzo zeemithandazo, iingqungquthela kunye nokuthanda izinto ezinokuthi zingenzi ukuba ulinde ixesha elide, kwaye emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa intanda yakho iya kubuya.