Unokufumana njani intombi?

Ngamanye amaxesha abahlobo basondela ngakumbi kunathi izalamane, kwaye oko kukuhle kakhulu. Kodwa, phi kwaye ungayifumana njani umhlobo omhle? Musa ukujikeleza malunga nomzi kunye nomqondiso apho iincwadi ziza kuthi "Ndifuna ukufumana intombi"? Hayi, le ndlela, eneneni, inelungelo lokuba khona, kodwa kusenakulungele ukuyithatha.

Ngoko ufumana njani umhlobo omhle, yintoni omele uyenze? Enyanisweni, kukho enye impendulo kulo mbuzo ukuze ufumane umntu, kufuneka ufune umntu. Eminye, abanye abantu bafumanisa njani ukuba unxibelelwano, unxibelelwano olunxibelelwano, ukuba uthetha kuphela kunye nezihlobo ngefowuni, kunye nekhompyutheni, ngokucinezela inkinobho yokuvala / yokuvala? Omnye umbuzo kukuphi ukukhangela.

Kuphi ukufumana intombi?

1. Ukuthetha ngekhompyutha. Ngaba unokufikelela kwi-Intanethi? Emva koko, yeka ukufunda iindaba kuphela kwaye uyisebenzise ukwenzela umsebenzi (ezemfundo). Kwaye wayengazi ukuba umnatha unokufumana lula intombi? Yiza kwiifom, ubhalise kwiindawo ezichaphazelekayo kuzo. Yaye, thetha, uthethe. Kubalulekile ukuba kubekho abantu abaneemvakalelo zabo ezihambelanayo neyakho, abo ozonandipha kunye nabo banomdla wokugcina ingxoxo. Kodwa unokufumana kwiindawo zakho zabahlobo bakho, emva kwabo emva kokuxoxa nge-intanethi kuya kuba mnandi ukulungiselela ukuhlala kwindawo yangempela ebomini. Into ephambili kukuba usebenze kwaye ungabi neentloni ukuvakalisa ingcamango yakho, ngaphandle koko inokugcinwa yinyanzelo kwintanethi, ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyi kuba nayiphi na inzuzo kwi-reception.
2. Ukungathembeki kwi-intanethi yoluntu, kwaye ukholelwa ukuba unxibelelwano lumele lube luphila xa ubona amehlo omnxibelelwano? Emva koko ubeka indlela "kubantu". Ngaba uqinisekile ukuba akukho bantu emsebenzini wakho (indawo yokuqeqesha) onokuthanda ukuthetha naye? Ukhona na? Ewe, ngoko ulindelani? Unganqikazi ukuqala incoko, kungekhona ngeendleko zokusebenza (ukufunda) inkqubo ngokwemvelo. Kukho izihloko ezininzi ezinokuxoxa ngazo ngexesha lokuhlwa kwasemini. Kodwa ukuba kwenzeka ukuba awufuni ukuthetha kunye nosebenza nabo emsebenzini, ngubani na onokuthintela ekufumaneni abo abaza kubakho umdla? Bhalisela iikhosi, qalisa ukuya kwiklabhu yezempilo, iilayibrari, uhambe, ekugqibeleni. Into ephambili ayikungena kwikona, kodwa ukuzibonakalisa. Oku akuthethi ukuba udinga ukukhwaza kwikona nganye malunga nobungqina bakho, ukwanele ukuba ube ngokwakho, kuba kuluntu lwanolunye uhlobo lwezinto ezigqithisileyo, kodwa ngoko ke iimveliso ezibizayo kukunyaniseka.
3. Ndixelele, ngaba unayo intombi na? Ukuba kunjalo, kwenzeka ntoni kubo? Ngaba bonke bangaphinda baphuphuke ngobusuku? Mhlawumbi emva kweenguqu ezithile ebomini bakho ubuye ulayishwe iingxaki zakho ozilibeleyo malunga neentombi zakho? Ewe, akukaze kufike emva kokuxolisa, akunjalo? Ukuba aba bantu banqwenela ngokwenene kuwe, kuyafaneleka ukwenza. Abahlobo bokwenene baya kuhlala beqonda kwaye abayi kuba neentlanzi.

Awukwazi ukulahlekelwa ngumhlobo?

"Kunzima kangakanani ukufumana umhlobo omhle" - uya kuthi, kwaye uya kulungile. Kodwa ndifuna ukuphawula ukuba akunzima ukufumana intombi, indlela yokulondoloza, ubuhlobo obutholileyo. Ukongeza kwizakhono zonxibelelwano ezimnandi, uzakufuna enye into, oko kukuthi, ukukwazi ukuqonda, ukulungele ukuhlala uxhasa. I-Egoism ayikho into embi, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ucinge ngabanye, uzame ukufumana kuphela, kodwa ukunika. Kuvela kubahlobo ukuba siyakuvuyela ukuva amagama atshisayo, kubangelwa ngabahlobo esibacebisa iingcebiso, nokuba kuthengwa ingubo entsha okanye indlu, kwaye kuba ngabahlobo esiya kusikhalaza ngehlabathi lonke kwaye sifune induduzo. Ngoko, ukuba usebenzisekile ukuba umhlobo uya kuhlala exhasa, musa ukulibala ukuba ufuna ukuthetha ngeengxaki zakhe, nokufumana iingcebiso kuwe. Into ephambili akuyikumgxeka, ukubonakalisa isimo sengqondo sakho kwingxaki, kodwa awufanele ugxeke - kwaye umhlobo wakho akayi kunceda, kwaye uya kutshabalalisa unxibelelwano. Ukuhlonela iingcamango neemvakalelo zomnye umntu akuzange zonakalise nabani na.