Ulwalamano phakathi kwabantu ababini abasondeleyo lubukeka lufana nolwandle olungapheliyo. Ukususela ekuseni kusasa, ilanga likhanya kwaye lizele ukuzola, kodwa emva kokuhlwa kwasemini kuqaliswe iphepho, ezinokutshabalalisa iimbini ezizinzileyo. Ukuqhawulwa kwezidlelwane kubangelwa izizathu ezininzi, kodwa ukungabikho okungaqinisekiyo phakathi kwabantu ababini kunokudala ukugqithisa ngokweqile komnye wamaqela. Akukho mntu ufuna ukuvumela ngokupheleleyo ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo, ixesha, kunye nesithuba somntu. Ukuqwalasela ubudlelwane kudla ngokuphelisa.
I-feminine obtrusiveness
Ukugqithisa kwesifazana kubonwa ngumntu njengendlela yokukhuliswa kakubi, okanye ukuziphatha okulula. Ukudlala kunye nendoda enokukhathalela ngokugqithiseleyo nokuzibophelela kuzo zonke iimeko nangona iphi na isizathu, ibhinqa nje ngokuba ithi uyayifumana. Kodwa "isiqhamo esinqatshelwe" esilungileyo, kwaye asiyiyo leyo ezinikela kuzo zonke iimeko.
Ukuqaphela kwinqanaba lokwaziyo, likwahlukana nobudlelwane bobudlelwane. Akukho mntu onokumelana neefowuni ezingenakuphazanyiswa, iimfuno zokunyusa ingqalelo kuye, kunye nokubeka iliso kunye nokunika ingxelo ngeeyure ezidibeneyo ngababili.
Olunye uhlobo lokugqithisileyo xa umfazi ezama ukugcina umthandi wakhe "ngefowuni emfutshane." Lo ngumdlalo onobungozi kwaye, njengomthetho, uphela ngokuhlukana. Emva koko, le ndoda iyayixabisa inkululeko yazo yonke into. Nangona uboshwe ngumtshato, umntu ufuna ukukhululeka. Thina basetyhini abanelungelo lokufuna ingxelo kuye: "kutheni wahlala emsebenzini", okanye angamvumeli ukuba ahambe ngeveki kunye nenkampani yendoda. I-Obtrusiveness ibonakalisa ngokungaqondakaliyo kuphela kumntu oyisebenzayo, kwaye isahlulo sesibini ngumthwalo ongenakuthethelelwa.
Indlela yokujonga ukuba ubonisa ukunyaniseka kumthandana wakho: ubiza inombolo yakho oyintandokazi, kodwa wayesexakekile kwaye wathi uya kubuya kwakhona ukuba uza kukhutshwa njani. Ukuba ukhululekile, uya kulinda nje umnxeba wakhe. Ukuba ukugqithisa kuhambelana nomlingiswa wakho, ngoko uya kufowunela inani lomntu osondeleyo kuwe ngamaxesha amaninzi, ukuze ufumane ukuba akakhange akhululwe.
Ukunyaniseka komntu
Kubantu, le mfanelo ibonakaliswe kangangoko kunabesifazane. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu unokubonakalisa ukunyaniseka kwimizuzu xa ekhathalela intombazana, ufezekisa isimo sakhe, kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe kwintlanano yomtshato.
Ingxaki ebalulekileyo yindoda ekhupheleyo yinto yokuzithemba nokuzithemba. Umntu akaqinisekanga ukuba ufanelwe ukunyamekela kwinxalenye yowesetyhini, kwaye yonke into ayigqibayo, kukuthatha ngokungathandekiyo. Nangona kunjalo, oku kukunyamezela okwesabisayo intombazana eninzi. Indoda enjalo kufuneka ikwazi ukuyenza, emva kokumangaliswa okumnandi, eyayibonisa kwintombazana yentliziyo yakhe, ixesha elifutshane lokuba liphele. Emva koko ukubonakala kwakho okulandelayo ekugqibeleni kobudlelwane, kuya kuba mkelekile kwintombazana.
Yintoni ekudliwayo kukho iimpawu zokuziphatha okubi?
Gcina phantsi. Awukwazi ukwenza umntu ukuba akuthande kakhulu, athengise okanye anike ingqwalasela engakumbi.
Shintsha kwiminqweno yakho kwiminqweno yomlingane wakho. Ungamthinteli ekubeni yedwa xa efuna. Yenza uludwe lweemeko apho uzibeka ngokweqile, ulawulo
Isisombululo esihle kakhulu siza kuchitha iveki kunye nabahlobo bakho, kwaye vumela ukuba umthandi wakho aqonde ukuba unokuzonwabisa kwaye uyonwabe ngaphandle kwayo. Emva kokuba konke oku, musa ukuzama ukufumana kuye ukuba yeyiphi isiqingatha sesibini esenzayo ngeveki.
Nika uthando lwakho, kwaye ungayifuni ngokubuyisela, kwaye awuyi kuphinda unqabile kwisiqingatha sakho sesibini.