Ubomi banoma ngubani na ongenakwenzeka ngaphandle kokuxinezeleka, ngaphandle koko, uxinzelelo luyinto encedo kakhulu eyanceda umzimba ukuba uhlangane. Nangona kunjalo, emva kokubambisana kunye "nokuzigcina ugobhoza," amandla kunye nezibonelelo zihamba phantsi, uvakalelo, ukuphazamiseka, ukungafihleli, ukuhlamba izandla, andifuni ukuhlala. Ewe, ufuna ukuhlala! Umzimba akanako amandla okuphila, kufuneka uqokelele kwakhona.
Ngamanye amazwi, impendulo yombuzo onjalo owaziwayo wendlela yokunqoba ukudandatheka, ngakwicandelo lethu, iya kuba ibhunga lokwenza amandla. Indlela yokwenza ngayo - funda ngezantsi!
Ukuxinezeleka nokuxinezeleka: izinto zokubuyiswa
Imidlalo - siyahamba kwaye siphefumula. Xa siphefumula (kwaye ngakumbi sikwenza njalo), i-oksijeni kunye nezondlo zingena ebuchosheni, kuba nje ngexesha lokusebenza olusebenzayo izitya ziyakwandisa, kwaye isantya sokuhamba kwazo zonke iinkqubo zikhawuleza. Ngamanye amaseli ethu athola amandla, nangona kunjalo xa senza imidlalo, siyichitha (khumbula isizukulwana samandla). Ngoko, ukuba unenyameko ukuba ungayinqoba njani uxinzelelo kunye nokudandatheka, nangona ukhala, uvila, ukukhathala kunye nokuphelelwa amandla, uvuka uze uhambe, uqaphele ukuba oku kulungile kuwe.
Intswelo - ngokukhawuleza xa i-melancholy ifika kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukuzenza. Kunjalo! Funda ukuzithokozisa kunye nento enokuyenza: uthenge into oye waphupha ngayo, yidle into ongayivumiyo imihla ngemihla, yenza i-manicure kwaye ube novila ekuhlambeni. Ngendlela, siya kukhunjulwa ngokuzonwabisa xa sifunda indlela yokulwa nokudandatheka emva kokuhlukana.
Uqhawulo
Kubonakala ukuba abafazi banamandla ngakumbi kwaye banomdla kakhulu ngokuhlukana namadoda, ingakumbi ukuba le ndoda yayingumyeni wakho, kwaye nangakumbi emva kokuba ukuhlukana kwakho uhlala nomntwana ezandleni zakho. Yongeza ioli kwiziko:
- Umtshato - ngokukhawuleza 'umtshato - xa umqalisi wokuhlukana ngumyeni;
- ukuqhawula umtshato ngenxa yenye intokazi.
Emva kokuqhawula umtshato, abaninzi abafazi bayeke ukuzijonga, baqhelane namadoda, bakholwe ngabantu kwaye besaba ubudlelwane obunzulu. Abasetyhini bangena ekudakaleni okukhulu, bafikelele kwiengqondo kunye nokuzibulala. Isizathu kukuba, ukujongana nesizungu (ngokokuqala ngqa kwiminyaka emininzi, okanye nangonakuqala ngqa ebomini), umfazi ukwesaba ukungabi mfuneko kwihlabathi.
Kodwa enyanisweni, njani ukunqoba ukudandatheka emva kokuba umtshato ungengumbuzo ongenanto kunye nombuzo. Khumbula izinto ezizonwabisa kunye nento entle:
- Vumela ukukhalaza ngendoda yakho, khalela intombi yakho, ufune ukuqwalasela kunye nokunxibelelana;
- Ungazivali, jonga indawo eneenkcukacha kunye nabaqhelana nabo;
- uqaphele ukuba kungekudala okanye kamva, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana inzuzo yokuqhawula umtshato, kuba mhlawumbi isifo siye sabusindisa umntu olungcono kuwe;
- ukuxolela umyeni wakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba wenza ntoni, kuphela ukuze ukwazi ukuphelisa ixesha elidlulileyo kwaye uphile ngoku;
- uzikhathalele kwaye uzithande njengangaphambili, kuba ufanelwe;
- Ndikholelwe, kukho amadoda amaninzi ehlabathini akulungele ukukuqonda.
Ukudandatheka emva kokubeleka
Wonke umfazi emva kokubeletha uvakalelwa kukuba into eguquka emzimbeni wakhe kwakhona. Abanye bafumana oku ngakumbi, abanye bangaphantsi. Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwabaomama abancinci abazisela kuphela ikhaya labo abantwana bokuqala, ukuxinezeleka kwangemva kokubeleka, imbangela yaloo kuphela kwi-hormone (kwaye nokuba oko ucinga ukuba kubanda kubini kunye nosana, kubangelwa amahomoni). Ngethuba lokukhulelwa, i-progesterone ye-hormone iphuma ngokukhawuleza, emva kokunikezelwa, iyawa ngokukhawuleza, emva kokuba isicelo sokuqala somntwana esibelethweni seprolactin siqala ukukhula. Konke oku, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kulandelelaniswa njani le nkqubo yezobugcisa, kuboniswa kwimbono yethu yehlabathi. Iingcebiso ezimbalwa zabamama abaselula ukuba banokuyithintela njani ukudandatheka kwesithuba sengqondo:
- emva kokubeleka, ufumana ukungabikho koqhagamshelwano , kuba xa uhleli kunye nomntwana wakho ihlabathi alikwazi ukuyeka, wonke umntu uphila ubomi bakhe - thabatha i-phone receiver kwaye uvumele ukuba uthethe ukudinwa;
- ukuhamba-ungahlali ekhaya, kukukukhathaza nje kuphela, ukuhamba kukunceda kuwe (ukulahlekelwa isisindo), kunye nosana kwimpilo, kwaye uya kukwazi kunye "nabadlali beemfazwe" njengamama "abadandathekileyo" njengabo;
- samkele ukuba awukwazi ukufunda izinto ezininzi ezinjalo ngolunye usuku, ngoko cela abahlobo kunye nezizalwane ukuba bancede ngaphandle kokuhlazeka;
- ukuthenga - iinyanga ezilisithoba ubenxibe ii-hoodies, ngoko ngoku ufanelwe izibuyekezo ezininzi;
- ukuxolela umyeni wakhe ukuba akayi kukhanda umntwana ngomzamo wokuqala.