Umbuzo wendlela elula ngayo ukusinda ukuhlukana nomntu othandekayo (kunye nokuxinzezeleka kwengxaki ) kunzima kunabantu abangakhange bahlangabezane neemeko ezinjalo. Ukujongana nale ngxaki kunye nokulahleka okuncinci kuya kunceda abanengqondo.
Iingcebiso malunga nokuba usaphila njani ukutshatyalaliswa nokwahlukana nomntu oyintanda
Ukuqhekeka kobudlelwane kubunzima xa kuhambelana nokukhwabanisa. Ukutshatyalaliswa kwintando yomntu obathandayo kubangela umonakalo omkhulu kwi-psyche yomntu oye wangcatshwa. Kwaye kaninzi akunakwenzeka ukujamelana nemiphumo yokuxinezeleka ngokuzimeleyo - ukucetyiswa kwengqondo kuyadingeka.
Ngokukhawuleza emva kokuhlukana, umntu oshiyekileyo ufumana iimvakalelo ezimbi, isimo sakhe sengqondo sitshabalaliswa ngokupheleleyo. Le meko ibaluleke nakakhulu kubasetyhini, abahlala bengena kwiqela lokudandatheka okungapheliyo ixesha elide. Le meko ibonakaliswe ukuphola okubukhali ekuzithembekeni, ukuzincama, ukuziva unetyala, kunye nokulala, ukulahleka kwesidlo, ukukhumbula nokukhathazeka, njl njl.
Iingcebiso zeengqondo zengqondo, indlela yokusinda kunye nokuthandana nomntu othandekayo
I-Cocktail yamava emva kokuhlukana nentanda yakho inokuquka ukudakumba, intlungu, ukudideka, ukunganakwa, ukudandatheka. Kwaye kunomntu okhathazekile ngokwengeziwe, indlela ebuthakathaka ngayo inkqubo yakhe yeentlanzi, kunzima kakhulu iziphumo zala mava.
Ukuqonda ukuba kutheni iimbandezelo zomntu oye wahlukana nomthande kakhulu, kufuneka afunde i-psychophysiology yothando. Ngethuba lothando oluqinileyo lomzimba, umzimba ukhupha inani elikhulu le-serotonin, i-endorphins kunye ne-dopamine. Ezi ihomoni zenza imvelaphi yeemvakalelo ephakamileyo - ebusweni bezinto ezinomdla, umntu othandwayo uziva uhlaziyiweyo, ukukhanya kobomi. Ukuphulukana nobudlelwane ngexesha elinjalo kufana nokulahla umthamo wesilonda.
Ugugu "uthando lwe-dopamine" malunga neminyaka emithathu, kwaye enye yezithandani, inokuphela ngaphambili, kwaye ke nguye ohlala eqala ukuhlukana. Kwaye into yokuqala yokuqonda ukushiywa kukuba bahlukana naye kungekhona ngenxa yokuba waba mbi kakhulu, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ukuvakalelwa kwe-dopamine euphoria ebusweni bakhe ayisabonakali.
Iimodeli zokuziphatha kwimeko yokuhlukana zibonisa ezimbini. Iyokuqala - ubunzima bobugwenxa - bubonakala bukrakra, umnqweno wokuziphindezela. Iyesibini - ixhoba elincinci - lingabonwa ngokunganakwa, ukunyamezela, ukuxinezeleka. Kodwa kwiimeko zokuqala neyesibini, umntu uyazibuza ukuba angaphila njani ilungu emva kokuhlukana.
Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa xa kwenzeka ukwahlukana ngokukhawuleza kuthatha amanyathelo athile ukuze unciphise isimo sengqondo. Okokuqala, kufuneka ulahleke iimvakalelo, okunye "eza kudla" ngaphakathi. Ngesimo sengqondo esinobugwenxa, unokubetha umlotha, ipeyari yebhokisi, ulungiselele ukugijima, okanye uphelelwe ngumzimba kwiimimulators. Ukuba ufuna ukumemeza okanye ukukhala, kufuneka kwakhona ukuva umzimba wakho uphinde uphonye umonakalo ngale ndlela.
Emva kokuvakalelwa kwemvakalelo, ngokuqhelekileyo ukudinwa kwenzeka. Ngelo xesha kunqweneleka ukuphumla kwaye "uzalise" ngeemvakalelo ezintle. Oku kuya kunceda iseshoni yokucamngca, eya kukhulula ukuxhatshazwa emzimbeni, nakwi-psyche.
Intlungu yengqondo ingayilandela, apho akunakwenzeka ukuyifihla. Ukulahla intlungu kunceda isicatshulwa esinjalo esingokwengqondo: kufuneka uthabathe iphepha, upende ngeyona nto ibuhlungu kwaye ibe lula ngakumbi, kwaye-ke uyayitshabalalisa nayiphi na indlela. Le nkqubo ingadinga ukuba iphindwe kaninzi, kodwa iyasebenza kakhulu.
Isinyathelo sokugqibela kukufumana ukulahlekelwa intsingiselo kunye nentleko yobomi. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka udibanise yonke ingcinga yakho kwaye ufumane umsebenzi othakazelisayo, umdlalo, ungene kwimidlalo, wenze uhambo, uhlangabezane nabantu abatsha, mhlawumbi unalo uthando olutsha.