Yonke intombazana ephuphayo yokutshata imele wakhethweyo njengomntu onothando, onothando nonomdla. Kodwa ubomi bunombono walo kwizinto ezinjalo kwaye kwenzeka ukuba abanye emva kwexhoba lomtshato lobundlobongela ngengqondo. Umyeni - umtyholi akanamfesane kumlingane wakhe.
Ukuba ule meko, unganciphisi izandla zakho. Makhe sizame ukuqonda ukuba yintoni i-psychology yomntu onjalo kunye nendlela yokuphepha kumyeni wesibindi.
Akukho ntokazi ekhuselekile kwinto yokuba inkosana enhle, eyayithandana naye, iya kuba yindoda enomntu oza kumnceda.
Iimpawu zendoda enobuqili
Nangona ucinga ukuba umlingane wakho akakwazi ukuba ngumtshutshisi, kufuneka uwazi malunga neempawu eziqhelekileyo ezilishumi ezibonisa ukuba umyeni wakho ungumtyholi wengqondo.
- Iqabane lakho likuvimbela ukuba uhlale unxibelelana nabahlobo kunye nosapho. Ngaloo ndlela, usebenzisa ingcinezelo yengqondo ukuqinisekisa ukuba ungowabo ngokupheleleyo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba umyeni wakhe-umntu onobuqhetseba bokuziphatha-unokukwenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukunciphisa uxhulumaniso lwakho nabanye. Akafuni ukuqonda ukuba ngaphandle kobomi bentsapho, ezinye iintlobo zobudlelwane kufuneka zibe khona kuwe. Ukuba uyaphawula oku kumlingane wakho, ubonisa ukuthambekela kwakhe ukusebenzisa udlame lwengqondo.
- Umyeni - utyhafu lwasekhaya uvela ngegama elihlazo, ukuhlambalaza ubuntu bakho. Xa ebona impendulo yakho kwizinto ezithethiweyo, uqala ukuzikhusela, ukugxeka ukuba uyabuhlungu kuyo yonke into, ucebisa ukuba ujonge imeko elula, njl. Intuitively, unokuqonda kwaye awufanelekanga le ndlela yedilesi. Kodwa ukwesaba ukwenza into. Amadoda anjalo amaninzi athambekele ekuqinisekiseni ixhoba lokusetyenziswa kakubi ngokwengqondo, ukuba olo hlobo luyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye ingxaki inokuphela kokungakwazi ukuphendula "kumahlaya angenakubungozi."
- Indoda - umtyholi kunye nenxungu - ebusweni bakhe obuninzi udla kakubi kuwe, kodwa kungekhona yena. Abahlaziyizi bawajikelezayo, bazama ukubonisa ukuba akayiyo yonke into enetyala, echaza ukuba nguwe wonke. Khumbula ukuba umqondiso ocacileyo wobudlelwane obungasondelanga ukungathandi ukuthatha uxanduva, ukutshintsha kwabanye.
- Ezinye iindwendwe zasemakhaya zidla ukusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala kwaye zixhomekeka kwizinto ezidakayo. Ukuba kungekudala okanye kamva, kodwa kuya kubakho kwiindlela ezingenakuxhatshazwa kunye nokuziphatha okungonelanelekanga kumadoda.
- Ufuna ukuvuselela ukwesaba kuwe, ukwesabisa nokuhlazisa. Cinga ngokuhlukana xa iqabane libeka ngokukodwa kwimeko eyingozi, ngaloo ndlela ibonisa ukuqokelela kwakho izixhobo. Oku kuthetha ukuba, ukuba kuyimfuneko, ngoko ngaphandle kokungabaza kuya kusebenzisa oku.
- Ukuba usalugxeka ukuvinjelwa kwakhe xa ubona abahlobo, unokukuhlwaya ngenxa yexesha owachitha ngaphandle kwakhe. Umyeni onobuntshatshali uqala ukukusongela, ukhala, uyakwazi iindlela ezimbi kunazo zonke, ngenxa yokuba awuhlali uzinikele kuye.
- Amadoda anjalo afuna ukuba baphathwe njenge-aristocracy. Kuwe ubona ikhoboka.
- Abadabukisayo abanobubele banomona onomona. Nangona kunjalo kungenangqumbo, kunokukhwelela nje ngeenxa zonke zakho, kodwa izicwangciso kunye namaphupha. Kwaye konke ngenxa yokuba akakwazi ukulawula zonke izinto zokomoya kunye nezinto eziphathekayo zobomi bakho.
- Ngosizo lweemvakalelo zabo, abadeleli bazama ukulawula abafazi babo. Ukuba awuzange uyenze njengoko uyakuthandayo, uya kuqala ukusongela, ucinge ukuba uya kukushiya. Uzama ukwenza unetyala.
- Ukuba nomona ongenangqiqo kunye nokuhlaziywa kungekudala okanye kamva, kodwa ube ngumsebenzi wamandla kwidilesi yakho. Kwaye ungacingi nangendlela ohlala ngayo nomyeni wakho ungumtyholi. Hamba kude ade akhuphe.
Indlela yokujongana nomyeni wakhe ungumtyholi?
Ukuba konke okufanayo kuwe akuzange kuthwale, kwaye umyeni onothando waba ngumtyholi, kunyanzelekile kuwe ukuba umelane nayo okanye impembelelo yakhe njani. Ukuba uthetha kuphela ngeziphoso zakho, umkhumbuze ukuba ufuna umyeni ukunyaniseka, kwaye uya kubona iziphoso zakho. Ukuba oku akuncedi, musa ukudimazeka ngenxa yengqondo yakhe embi. Njalo unayo imali echasiweyo kunye nawe. Yiba nawe.
Ukuba ukhathele ukunyamezela, sigijime kuloo mlingane. Abantu abanjalo banqabile ukuba batshintshe.
Ngoko, ukuba umyeni wakho ungumtyholi, ungazivumeli uhlaziswe. Wena ungumfazi, uyingqayizivele kwaye awunanci. Yinyamekele ubomi bakho kwaye ungavumeli umntu ukuba ayixhome.