"Ngenxa yokuba amantombazana a-10 ngokulandelelanisa, kukho abafana aba-9" - yile ndlela ekuhlabelelwa ngayo ingoma eyaziwayo. Ukuzifihla ngeli qiniso okanye nje ukuwela othandweni ngeendlebe, abafazi baqala ubudlelwane namadoda abatshatileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umanyano onjalo uya kutshabalalisa, kuba ukunyamezela kuthatyathelwe ngumbono wobunini besetyhini, isazela sesazela sabantu, kunye nokuba inxibelelwano kufuneka ifihliwe ayikuvuyisi. Yaye ukuba le ntombazana ayifuni ukuchitha iminyaka yakhe ebomini yobomi ngokulinda ukutyelela kunye "nokudlala iintlola", unquma ukuphula, ukufumana ingxaki, ukulibala umntu otshatileyo.
Ungakulibala njani indoda esatshatileyo oyithandayo?
- Okokuqala, qalisa ukuphila ubomi obushukumisayo, ukuya kwiintlanganiso zentlalontle, ukuzonwabisa, ngokuqinisekileyo kwezo zihlobo oye wachitha ixesha elingakumbi kwiihotele zehotele okanye kwindawo yakho, apho yonke into ngoku ikhumbuza uthando lwangaphambili.
- Akukho nto ilula kunokuba ukhohlwe umthandi otshatileyo kwiingalo zomntu omtsha onomdla. Kodwa musa ukukhawuleza kwi-counter yokuqala okanye kumjikelezo weentlanga zobusuku, ngamanye amaxesha ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba nokubuyisela umphefumlo esikufunayo kuphela ukudlala ngothando, ukuqonda ukuba sifuna kwaye siyathandwa.
- Ngoku kubonakala kuwe ukuba akukho nto kunzima kunokuba ukhohlwe umntu otshatileyo owamthandayo, kodwa undikholelwe, ixesha liza kudlula kwaye uya kukhumbula lo buhlobo ngokumomotheka. Okwangoku, ngelixa ingqondo ixhamle ngothando kwaye ayikwazi ukucinga ngengqiqo, kubonakala kuwe ukuba yonke into ingahle iphendulwe ngokungafaniyo, ukuba awunelisekile. Enyanisweni, oku akunjalo. Cinga ngowaphi na ophefumlelweyo le ngcamango kuwe, ngubani na onokungaqiniseki, oye wachitha ixesha elininzi ngaphandle kweziphumo. Ngaba lo mntu ufanelekile uthando lwakho? Zibophe ndawonye! Yaye ukuba intsha entsha yeyonaveli, awufumane okanye ukhumbule umdlalo wakho omdala, umdlalo, ungene kwimidlalo ekugqibeleni.
- Abasetyhini, naphezu kokunyanzeliswa kwabo, izidalwa ziqiqa, kwaye ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuzenza uzikhohlwe umntu. Ziphefumlele ukuba ukuba inkosikazi ihlazo, ukuba loo mizuzu yolonwabo ayifanelekanga ixesha lokulindela okwenzekayo kwintlanganiso elandelayo.
Zithande ngokwakho, xabisa ixesha lakho, kwaye indoda engatshatanga yamaphupha akho iya kuba esangweni lakho ngokukhawuleza kunokuba ucinge.