Ejongene nokungcatsha kwabo bantu babecingwa njengabahlobo, asikwazi ukuza kuthi ngokwexesha elide. Intukuthelo, ukwesaba, ukoma unobulungisa - yonke loo mvakalelo igxeka kukuphelelwa lithemba. Kodwa ngezinye iinkcukacha uza kuba ulungele ukuya phambili. Emva koko uya kujamelana nombuzo: indlela yokusindiswa kokungcatsha komhlobo. Kwaye enye into: kukufanelekile ukuba umxolele okanye isilonda sihlala kuphela phantsi kwebhasamu yokuphindisela ...
Ngaba ndimele ndixolele ukungcatsha?
Apha, izimvo ziyahlukana. Omnye ucinga ukuba umhlobo, onjenge-sapper, unokukwenza iphutha kanye kanye. "Iliso ngeliso" - ngokutsho kweTestamente Elidala. Umntu onjalo udaniwe ngesiqubulo: ungaze uthethelele ukutshutshiswa. Abanye bavumela abantu (kunye nabahlobo, phakathi kwabanye) ukuba banelungelo lokwenza impazamo.
Okokuqala, ukukwazi kwethu ukuxolela kuxhomekeke kubukhulu bokungcatsha. Cinga ngento enokukuhlutha ngayo emva kwenyanga okanye ngonyaka. Khangela ngolu hlobo. Kwaye makhe sicinge, ngaba umntu unokusinda ekungcatshweni komhlobo ukuba awufuni ukuqonda iindlela ezifana nokuxolela?
Ukuxolela - akuthethi ukukhuthaza umngane ukungathembeki. Oku kuthetha ukukhulula ngokwakho kwisifo sobutyhefu ngokubi. Ukuba ukudumala kwakunamandla, awukwazi ukuthetha nomthengisi. Nangona kunjalo, kukufanelekile ukuxolela, ukuba kuphela ukuthwala umthwalo womnye umntu ekungcatshayo kukungathembeki ngokubhekiselele kuye. Uxolelo luyakunceda bobabini ukulibala ukungcatsha, kwaye ningavumeli ukuba lesi siganeko singenakho ukukholelwa ekuzinikelweni kunye nobuhlobo bokwenene. Ukuba umntu uphenduka ukuba ungumhanahanisi, ngoko ulonwabo lwakho (akunakwenzeka ngaphandle kokuxolelwa ngokunyanisekileyo) luya kuba sisijeziso esona sihle kakhulu sokungcatsha kwakhe. Ngoko imiphefumlo yakho ecocekileyo mayibe yimpendulo eyintloko kumbuzo wokuxolela umhlobo ngokukhohlisa .
Ulibale njani ukukhohlisa?
Ukulibala ukukhohlisa, kufuneka ucinge ngento enye. Ngokufanayo-kutheni kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bakho. Ukuthatha uxanduva lwakho kuyo yonke into eyenzekayo, uzinike amandla. Amandla okuphila ngokuvisisana nawe. Ngoko, zama ukunciphisa imizwa kwaye uzibuze umbuzo: yintoni isenzo sakho
Mhlawumbi awuzithandi ngokwaneleyo ukucinga ukuba unelungelo lokwenene nothando nobungane kwabanye? Mhlawumbi unesaba ngokufihlakeleyo ukuba uthando olugqithiseleyo lunokuphela ekungcatshweni komhlobo? Kwaye, mhlawumbi wena ngokwakho wancanyiswa, kwaye isicatshulwa sakho sasifuna ukuhlawulwa ngenxa yesenzo ongazikwazi ukuxolela yona? Nangona kunjalo, abacukisi abavele bavele ebomini bethu ngenxa yento. Ngamanye amaxesha kuyimpawu yokuba kufuneka uzibuke kwaye ufumane iimpendulo kwimibandela efanelekileyo. Xa uqaphela ukuba akukho nto eyenzeka ngengozi, kuya kuba lula ukuba uxolele ukutshatyalaliswa kwabahlobo kwaye, ngaphandle koko, uya kuziphepha ukuphinda uphinda le meko kwixesha elizayo.