Ukususela kwixesha elidlulileyo, ukumanga kufaka indawo yamagama amaninzi, amagama. Ikwahluka. Njengoko uyazi, ulwimi lomzimba aluzange lulale. Ukuthandana isibini, kuba kungekho mntu owaziyo ukuba kukho ixesha lokuphila, xa uqaphela ukuba ukubamba kunokuthetha ngaphezu kwamagama anombala. Kodwa, ukuba ibinzana elithi "andiyazi ukuba ndiyamanga" - yintoni ngawe, ke ungakhathazeki. Nangona uneminyaka yobudala, khumbula ukuba akukaze kufike ixesha lokufunda.
Khawukhumbule ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba bonke abantu abazange bafunde ngokukhawuleza yonke into, konke kuza nexesha, ngolwazi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukwazi. Yonke into eyenzekayo ngexesha lokuqala kunye no-kiss akunjalo. Akufanele uxoxe ngale nto njengancinci, kodwa vele uziphelele kwiimvakalelo. Ukuba uyazihlambalaza yonke imihla yokuba "andiyazi ukuba ndingamanga," ngoko ndiza kukubonisa ukuba wenzeni ukulungisa oku.
Akukho mfuneko yokuhamba ngomhla olungiselelwe, ukwazi zonke iindlela zokubanga. Kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, ongazilungele ukuya nayo ayimfuneko. Makhe siqwalasele ngokubanzi iinkcukacha zobugcisa bokubanga.
Kuchaneka njani ukuba ukwazi ukuwanga?
Ukuze ufunde indlela yokumanga ukuze okokuqala ukuba unqobe iqabane lakho kwindawo, kufuneka ulandele imithetho ethile:
- Khetha ixesha elifanelekileyo, indawo kunye nomoya.
- Jonga ngokukhawuleza ulwimi lomzimba lomlingane. Umzekelo, ukuba iqabane lakho lifake iingalo zakhe esifubeni, oko kungabonisa ukuba unamahloni. Ukuba uhlala esilungisa iinwele zakhe okanye imincinco intloko yakhe - ubonisa ukungaqiniseki, ukungathandabuzeki. Kwimeko xa ehleli emngceleni wesihlalo, oku kungabonisa ukuba, ngelanga, akanakulungeleka kwindawo yakho. Uvame ukubukela ngewashi - uphawu lokuba uyaphuka. Ubonisa ukumelana xa iminwe yokuwela.
- Khumbula ukuba ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukubanga, kufuneka uqulunqe uxhumano lomntu kunye nomkhethiweyo. Musa ukuzichukumisa kwizinto ezimbi, uphinde uthi "Andizi ukuba ndingamanga."
- Ukuba lo kukuqala kokubanga, ke unakekele ukutshaya kokuphefumula kwakho. Gxobhoza amazinyo, hlafuna i-chewing gum. Akukho mzekelo ungaceli umlingane imvume yokumanga. Oku kuya kudala nje iimeko ezihlazo. Wena ngokwakho uya kuqonda ukuba iqabane lakho lilungele okanye lingabanga.
- Khangela emehlweni akho qabane. Qinisekisa ukuba imilomo yakho imanzi encinane. Musa ukuzikhahlela phambi komlingane.
- Ukuxhoma intloko yakho phambili, vala amehlo akho. Emva koko ujike kancane ukuya ngasekunene okanye ngakwesobunxele ngaphambi kokumanga. Ngombulelo uya kuphepha ukuthayipha ngeempumlo zakho. Ukuba le ntombazana ingazi indlela yokubanga, ingabangela ingxaki kule nto. Zama ukumanga kuqala ophezulu, ngoko umlomo ophantsi okanye ngokuphambeneyo, uhamba phambili. Musa ukumbamba iqabane lakho ngokukhawuleza ngexesha lokubanga.
- Musa ukulibala ukuba kuya kufuneka unqande kanye. Yisebenzise umzuzu xa ufuna ukuphefumula, ubuye ujonge umnxeba. Emva kokugqitywa kokuqala kokubanga, iya kwesibini. Kodwa, uvakalelwa kukuba enye yokumanga iyanelisa, uthathe ngobumnene isithandwa.
- Ukuba ibinzana elithi "andiyazi ukuba ndingamanga njani ekulumeni" inzima ngokuqhelekileyo kuwe, ungadikibali,
Ekuhambeni kwexesha, uya kufunda ngale ndlela. Into ebalulekileyo ukuyikhumbula kukuba kufuneka unakekele imilomo yakho. Emva kwakho konke, imilomo ephahliweyo ayibonakali ibonakale. - Ngexesha lokubanga, amaninzi amaninzi ayamkelekanga. Ukuhleka kunyanzelanga. Emva koko, kunokubangela ukudideka kwiqabane lakho. Musa ukubeka izandla zakho kwiindawo ezincinci zomzimba womlingane. Unokumthusa kwaye umthuswe kude nawe.
- Ukuba usebenzisa kakubi umsi wokutshaya, ungamanga emva kokumisa okulandelayo.
Ngoko, mhlawumbi, umgaqo-siseko oyintloko uya kuba: ukugcina umoya omtsha, ukhetha iqabane elungileyo, ukumomotheka, imilomo emihle.