Amantombazana ngokwemvelo ayamahloni kunye nezidalwa ezinamahloni. Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuba baye kumntu wokuqala, ukuqala incoko, ukumbanga kuqala nokunye. Kodwa ebomini kudla ukuba kwenzeke ukuba le nyathelo kufuneka ithathe ezandleni zabo kwaye yenza amanyathelo okuqala kwisini esilungileyo, kuba abantu banokuba neentloni, okanye bangaboni ngeso lengqondo ngeentombi zentombazana. Kodwa ingxaki ilahleka ukuba kunzima ukuba abantu abanjalo bahlale bencoko, kwaye kungase kube nzima ukuyeka. Umzekelo, intombazana, mhlawumbi, ingazi ukuba unokubuza le ndoda, okanye nayiphi imibuzo ongayicela yona, ukuze ungakhange ukhangele, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukuxhasa incoko.
Yimiphi imibuzo endiyifunayo kumfana?
Okokuqala, machaze ngemiphi imibuzo eyimfuneko ukuyibuza loo mntu. Olu hlobo luquka imiba ehambelana neminqweno, ukhetho, izicwangciso zomntu. Siza kunika uluhlu oluthile lwezihloko ezifanelekileyo kwintetho, kwaye unokwandisa lula okanye ulungelelanise imeko nganye.
- Izihloko malunga neemfuno zomfana. Ukuba awukwazi into ayimlutha ngayo, mbuze malunga nayo. Kwaye ukuba sele sele uyayazi le nto, ngoko unokucela into ethile. Umzekelo, iqabane lakho liyakuthanda ibhola, ngoko unokumbuza imibuzo malunga neqela lakho eliyintandokazi, imigaqo yomdlalo, abaphumeleleyo be-Champions League, ukugweba iimpazamo, ukuziphatha kwabafundi kunye nokunye okungakumbi.
- Buza malunga nemithetho nemigaqo yakhe yobomi. Eminye imibuzo evela kule ndawo ingaba yinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye iyafaneleka kubantu abaqhelekileyo. Le mibuzo malunga nobuhlobo (amadoda nabasetyhini, ubuhlobo babasetyhini), malunga nezifuyo, malunga nomsebenzi, malunga nezicwangciso ezikufuphi kwaye kungekuphela nje kwexesha, malunga nendlela athanda ukuchitha ngayo ngeveki neeholide.
- Le mibuzo iyona ethandwa kakhulu kubafana, kuba bayathanda ukuba phakathi kwenkxalabo, kwaye ngenxa yemibandela enjalo kulula ukufumana amanqaku afanayo oqhagamshelwano kunye nokwakha ingxoxo enye.
- Kodwa ke, musa ukubandakanyeka kakhulu ekubuzeni imibuzo, ngaphandle koko incoko iya kubonakala ngathi idlulisa uviwo. Ukwenza oku, kwanele ukuphinda uguqule izivakalisi. Umzekelo, unokubuza: "Ungena ntoni?", Kwaye unokwenza oku: "Nceda usitshele ngezinto zakho zokuzilibazisa."
Eminye imibuzo enokuyibuza loo mntu
Unokubuza umntu ngale nto ayithandayo kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla. Umzekelo, ukuba uyathanda ukutya kwasekuseni, yimuphi umculo awuphulaphulayo, uluphi uhlobo lwe-cinema ayithandayo. Unokufumana unomdla kwiindawo ezizithandayo, abadlali, abadlali.
Isihloko esithandwa kakhulu kwingxoxo kubuntwaneni kunye nentsha. Kucacile ukuba akudingeki ukuba uye kwiinkcukacha, aziyi kuba nexesha elifanelekileyo emva kokumazi kwakho, kodwa malunga nendlela abenentlanganiso yentsapho kuNyaka omtsha, apho bahlala khona ehlobo, nokuba ngaba baya kwiinkampu zenkonzo ukuthatha umdla.
Yimiphi imibuzo engcono ukuyibuza loo mntu?
Ngemihla yokuqala, ukuthetha ngamantombazana asekudala (abafazi) yiyabo. Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa, okanye kwiminyaka, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukwazi ukubuza le ndoda kunye nemibuzo enjalo, kodwa kwixesha le-candy-bouquet kwesi sihloko kufuneka sigwenywe. Kukho amaxesha apho umntu ngokukhawuleza eqala ukuthetha ngobuhlobo bakhe obudlulileyo. Kufuneka uqaphele oku, kuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kubonisa nokuba akukho nxalenye kwezo zihlobo okanye
Isihloko esilandelayo somxholo ngumvuzo (ngokuchanekileyo, ubungakanani bawo). Akunabo bonke abantu abakulungele ukuxoxa ngobukhulu bemali yabo engenayo kunye nentombazana, ingakumbi ukuba unobunzima bezezimali.
Yaye isihloko sokugqibela esichukumisayo yiengxaki zomntu. Ukuba kwintetho iyacaca kuwe ukuba umfana unakho, umzekelo, iingxaki kubaphathi bakhe, ngoko akafanele azame ukufumanisa ukuba ziphi. Amadoda ayithandi ukubonisa ubuthathaka bawo, kwaye ukuba ubanjwe kuwo, intombazana leyo iya kuyenza ibe nefuthe kunokuba imzwele.