Njengokuba ngaba abazali babengakhuseli umntwana wabo, ngelishwa, akusoloko bekwazi ukukhusela i-scapegoats kwi-fall and injuries. Intloko ihlupheke kakhulu kwiimeko ezinjalo.
Ukuba uzama ukujonga kwangaphambili imeko apho umntwana angakwazi ukufumana ingqungquthela, ngoko uludwe luya kujonga into enjengale:
- Kwiinyanga ezi-4-5, abantwana banokusebenza ngokubanzi, banokululela kumda wetafile (ifa, iibhedi) kunye nokuwa.
- Abazali bayiphonsa umntwana, kwaye yena, ephaphazelayo, unokuthi "aphephe" kwisiqwenga okanye umgada, ehlaba ngale ndlela.
- Abazali abanako ukumbamba umntwana xa ebuya "kwi-flight".
- Xa abantu bezama ukugubungela umntwana ezandleni zabo, banokungena ngengozi intloko kunye neefenitshala, umnyango, njalonjalo.
- Umntwana okhulayo, ngokuqhelekileyo ngokwakhe usekwinkqubo yokufumana apho ukunyuka kunye nalapho uya kuwa khona. Ukongeza umngcipheko wokuwa esihlalweni, isepha, njl.
Iziphumo zeengcamango kubantwana
Ingqungquthela kwintsana kunye nomntwana oneminyaka elilodwa ubudala. Ngoko ke, abazali kufuneka baqaphele ngokwaneleyo ukuphepha ukuwa. Emva koko, imiphumo yokuxubusha kubantwana iyakwazi ukuzibonakalisa kwixesha elizayo, kubaluleke kakhulu ubomi babo. Enyanisweni, ukuba ufumene ingqungquthela ubuncinane kanye, ebomini bakho, kuya kukukhumbuza rhoqo malunga nawe emva kweminyaka elishumi ukuya kwishumi elinesihlanu. Abantu abanjalo banomsindo ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye basengozini. Umntwana emva kokulimala okunjalo unokukhala ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuqhelekileyo. Isimo esicinezelekileyo sinokuphuhliswa kwixesha elizayo. Abantu abanjalo abayinyamezeli ukushisa nokubandayo, kunzima ukugxila, banokuphazamiseka ngokugqithiseleyo, banokuthi bangabandezeleka nge-claustrophobia.
Ingqungquthela kubantwana: iimpawu
Ukuba umntwana ushaya intloko aze abe nesidlova, ukujuluka, ubuthakathaka, isisongela kunye nokuhlanza, ukulibala okanye ukulahleka kweememori, ukulahleka kwengqondo, ubuso obomvu, ngamanye amaxesha umva wokulahleka kwithuba, umntwana ubhalwe ngokucacileyo ngokutyunjwa kwamehlo, ngokukhawuleza ukucela unyango! Umntwana unomngcipheko!
Uncedo lokuqala xa kuthengiswa
Ukuba umntwana uyazi, mbeke phantsi uze ubhalele ubushushu. Beka ingubo phantsi komntwana ongavumeli ukudlula kubanda.
Ukuba umntwana, ephostile intloko yakhe, aphelile, mbeke eceleni kwakhe. Khangela ukuba umntwana uhlala ecaleni.
Phawula ixesha elingakanani umntwana engakwaziyo. Emva koko ugqirha uya kubuza malunga nalo. Yazi ukuba ukushisa komzimba kunye nomngcipheko wengqondo buhlala buqhelekileyo.
Ingqungquthela kubantwana: unyango
Okokuqala, kufuneka sinike umntwana ithuba lokuphumla nokuthula. Nantoni na ephazamisa ingqondo, kubandakanywa nokufunda, ukubukela iicatto kufuneka kugwenywe.
Intsapho kufuneka ilawulwe uxolo noxolo. Umntwana akufanele abe phantsi kwengcinezelo, angafungi ngunyana, kwaye nangakumbi ujoyine ukuhlaselwa.
Unyango luhlala umyinge weeveki ezimbini ukuya kwethathu. Ingqungquthela yokukhanya kubantwana iphathwa ngokukhawuleza. Nangona kunjalo, kwiimeko ezinzima, kunokubakho iingxaki eziphinda zihlala kunanoma yiphi ubudala. Iingxaki zingabonakalisa njengengcinezelo enganyanisekiyo.
Unokukhusela njani umntwana kwiingxubusho?
Ungabhekisela kumava aseMerika achitha ixesha elide ekujonganeni nemiba enxulumene nempilo yabantwana:
- Umthetho unqabela abantwana ukuba bagibele ngaphandle kwesigqoko ngebhayisiki, i-snowboard, i-snowmobile ne-skate. Ukuphulwa, abazali bahlawulwa.
- Kwamazwe amaninzi, abantwana bavumelekile ukuba bahambe beze bafikelele kwiminyaka eyi-12, kuba abanakubekwa uxanduva lwezenzo zabo.
- Ungalokothi ushiye umntwana omncinci, nokuba ngumntwana onesibelelo, ungakhange ulandelwe kwietafile, uhlale unesandla esinye.
- Zama ukunyamekela nokulindela izenzo zentsana yakho, ukuba ungabandakanyi ithuba lokuwa nokulimala.