Abantu abaninzi, bengaboni ngokukhawuleza ingxaki, baqale baqale bacinge ukuba kuvele umnyama omnyama. Emva koko, yonke into iyenzeka njengento engonwabiyo ngokuthi "ingxaki ayifikanga yedwa", kwaye apha umntu uya kuba yinkqubo ethile yokuthintela, ukuba asebenze apho kukho kakade amandla.
Indlela yokujonga into onayo - umnyama omnyama ebomini?
Abaninzi abafazi bathambekele ekunyaniseni imeko, oko kutheni kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa imivimbo emnyama yamnyama kwiinkathazo ezimbini oye wazithatha kakhulu. Ukuze udibanise iingcamango, qinisa kwiindawo zobomi unenkinga:
- ubomi bomntu;
- ubudlelwane nabahlobo;
- ubudlelwane kunye nezihlobo;
- msebenzi;
- mali;
- impilo;
- ngeleko;
Ukuba zonke iingxaki zakho zikwimihlaba emibini okanye emibini, oku akunjalo nebhanti emnyama, kodwa ke ke, izinto ezincinci zobomi. Kodwa ukuba iingxaki zichaphazela ezintathu okanye ngaphezulu kweendlela zokuphila (unokwazi ukugqamisa ezinye ezimbalwa ezichaphazelekayo kuwe), ke kufuneka uqikelele indlela yokulahla umgca omnyama.
Kutheni kwafika iqela elimnyama?
Ngelixa abanye bathi ubomi bethu bonke ngumgca omhlophe, umbala omnyama, abanye bakholelwa ukuba sinike inkathazo ethile into okanye into ethile. Ngokwale ngqungquthela, umthwalo weengxaki unikezwa kuthi ukuze sidlulise lo vavanyo ngesidima, musa ukuphelelwa lithemba, ungabi sithemba, ungakhange ukhangele inetyala kwaye ungazigxeka, kodwa usiqine ngamandla.
Ibha yomnyama ingakuxelela ukuba kwindawo ethile ebomini awuzange uhambe khona. Umzekelo, ukuba awukwazi ukufumana umsebenzi ixesha elide, kunokuba yinsimbi ukuba uzama ukuphuma ngaphandle kwendawo yakho okanye kufuneka wenze ibhizinisi nonke.
Khangela ukuba unayo nayiphi na inkolelo enokuthintela ukushiya iqela elimnyama. Amanye amantombazana aphinda athi: "Ndiyinto engumntu oyisiphukuphuku (ukubukeka), ndifuna ntoni na?". Kwaye ke kuvela ukuba unengxaki ebomini bakhe, kwaye ke inkolelo yakhe inetyala lokuba akafanelekanga. Ukongezelela, ezininzi iimpawu zobuninzi kunye nokubonakala kwazo zinokutshintshwa, kunokuba ziqwalasele ukuba ngenxa yazo kufuneka kube yedwa. Xa uphinda uphinda ucinge ngcamango efanayo, kuba yintembeko yakho kwaye iqala ukuchaphazela ubomi bakho.
Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuba ndibe ne-black streak?
Hlaziya imeko. Kukulungele ukuthabatha iphepha kunye nokubhala yonke into kuyo. Ukuba ubomi ngumgca wezimhlophe, ibhanti ibumnyama, ngoko kufuneka uzincede ngokukhawuleza kwinqanaba elilandelayo, elincomekayo.
Ngoko, phawula iingxaki zakho eziphambili. Indlela eyona ndlela kukubakhokela ngemivalo emininzi ukuze kube lula ukuqhubeka nokuhlalutya. Ngokomzekelo, uye wabuyiselwa kakhulu (1), walahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wakho (2) kwaye ulahlekelwe yi-parakeet (3). Ngaloo ndlela, sinciphise uluhlu lweengxaki, kwaye ngoku awukho "konke okubi", kodwa kukho iingxaki ezintathu.
Ngoku kufuneka sikwazi ukuba ngaba silwa nabo. Isisindo esithinteleyo kulula ukususa, kuba oku kwanele ukuba uzenzele kunye kwaye kungenjalo
Emva koko, kufuneka uvumele ukuphumla, uhlambe kwaye uqaphele ukuba unesihluthulelo sokusombulula zonke iingxaki zakho. Kholelwa kwizinto ezilungileyo, ungayihoyi iinjongo ezimbi - kwaye ubomi buya kuphucula!