Okokuqala, owesifazane uyamoyika into engayaziyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ukuzalwa kokuqala kwenzeka ngaphandle kweengxaki ezikhethekileyo, ukwesaba ukuzalwa kwesibini akusekho ngamandla okanye kungabikho: umfazi okhulelweyo uyazi ukuba ulindele ntoni kwaye uyilungiselela. Kodwa ukuba ekuzalweni kokuqala kwakukho iingxaki ezinzima kumama okanye umntwana, ukwesaba ukuzalwa okwesibini kunesiseko sangempela kwaye unokukrazula kuphela xa ususa izizathu ezibangele iingxaki.
Kodwa, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba kunjalo, ibhinqa ayininzi into ekubelethweni kwaye kufuneka yenziwe ngethuba lazo, kodwa uye waziva amabali amaninzi amaninzi avela kumaqabane, ebonwa ngokwaneleyo iifilimu okanye ukufunda iifom e-intanethi. Kwaye amabhinqa anokrokrela amabali anjalo angabangela ukwesaba okwesaba, oku kukuthintela ekuphulaphuleni iziphakamiso zangempela kwaye ngokwenene kunokubangela iingxaki ngexesha lokubeleka.
Njani ukunqoba ukwesaba ukubeleka?
Ukuqonda indlela umfazi ajamelana ngayo, xa kwakukho ukwesaba ukubeletha, kufuneka ucele ukuba yintoni ebangela ukuba. Ukuba ngaba kuphela amahemuhemu kunye neentlebo ezothusayo umfazi we-nerazhavshuyu, unokucetyisa ngakumbi ukuba axhumane nalabo abaye bazalwa ngokulula kwaye bengenazo iingxaki okanye abanina.
Kodwa ezinye iintetho aziyi kunika kakhulu, ukuba umfazi akanakulungele oko kumlindele ngexesha lokubeletha, akazi ukuba ukukhulelwa kwakhe kuhamba njani kwaye yiziphi iingxaki ezingabangela, ayiqondi indlela yokuzalwa kwaye alungele indlela yokuncedisa inkqubo yesiqhelo . Unokucetyiswa ukuya kwiikholeji zokuqeqesha oomama abalindelekileyo, apho umfazi okhulelweyo angafunda indlela yokuphumla, ukuphefumula ngokufanelekileyo ngexesha lokubeletha , angenza isistim sokuzivocavoca umzimba esiya kuqinisa umzimba kunye nokunceda ekuzaleni. Kwaye ngexesha lokuzalwa ngokwaso, ukuze ugweme nayiphi na ingxaki, ibhinqa kufuneka licacise kwaye lilandele ngokungathandabuzeki yonke imiyalelo kagqirha nombelekazi.